Failure is the mother of success and success is the mother of success. "Failure is the mother of success" is a saying we often use to encourage people in adversity. Throughout the ages, many people with lofty ideals have been inspired by it. , fell down and got up strong, stumbled stoically in the mud of life, and ushered in the final glory. Don't you see the bravery of the cruiser "Aurora"? Liu Bang, Sun Yat-sen, Edison, Marie Curie... these vivid names all interpret this classic saying with their unique connotations. However, this classic saying can only be used to explain classic life. For those of us with average abilities and limited understanding, if we are always groping through failures again and again in our lives, the sense of frustration and helplessness will be real. It is unimaginable, and it can even make people feel inferior and trivial. Because people's endurance is always limited. If you taste the bitterness of failure every day and cannot smell the sweetness of success, you will one day fail and have a mental breakdown. Therefore, "Failure is the mother of success" is appropriate for those who have strong self-confidence. In this sense, there is no contradiction between failure being the mother of success and success being the mother of success. Just as confidence is a habit, so is success. The main reason why our current lives feel so dull is that we lack the stimulation of a sense of accomplishment. What you deserve has been obtained, and what you can’t get is hard to come by. In this ordinary existence, one failure is enough to destroy people's confidence, let alone multiple times. Because we are not great men, we do not have enough willpower to persevere; because without faith, we cannot pick a flower in the spiritual garden to heal ourselves. Therefore, repeated failures are not messengers of success, but nightmares that never look forward to the dawn.
Success may be anesthetic, but what does it matter? The life realized at the critical point is not necessarily shallower than the life realized in pain.
For these immature students around us, success is even more important. Because children's hearts need extra care, for them: "Success is the mother of success." When children face failure, a common occurrence in life, they will feel tired, panicked, afraid, or feel guilty, sad, confused, and lost. Helpless, and therefore less confident to strive for success. From daily homework to exams, if it is a red tick, the children will be happy. If the tick has a mark on it, or simply a cross, it will make the child unhappy. .
I remember once reading a fairy tale full of morals: there was a beautiful princess with long golden hair, and the sun shone on it, shining with a charming luster. But she has been locked up in a high tower by a witch since she was a child, and the only person she can see is the witch. The witch said to her every day: "You look so ugly that everyone who sees you will be scared." The princess believed the witch's words and did not dare to run away for fear of being laughed at by others. Until one day, a prince passed by the tower and saw the princess's fairy-like beauty. He was so shocked that he rescued her. The princess only realized how beautiful she was when she looked in the mirror. In fact, many of our students are just such "princesses", and our teachers may have unintentionally played the role of "witches". In the experience of failure again and again, the students' little self-confidence is gradually disappearing.
Everyone has a need, which is to realize their own value. If it is suppressed for a long time, then this need to realize their own value will shrink and die. It is the unshirkable responsibility of our teachers to help children achieve every success. We should believe that every child will succeed. Students with good grades are like blooming flowers, which are beautiful, while underachievers are like buds that have not yet bloomed, which are also beautiful. As long as we care and help with appreciation. I believe they will bloom beautiful flowers in the near future. We should create opportunities for success for every student, so that students can enjoy success, so that this need can be maintained and students can grow healthily.
Students’ self-confidence is like a huge natural gas field. As long as you can find a way to discover it, build a mine, and ignite it, it will be a continuous flame. Praise and encouragement are educational magic weapons to regain self-confidence. I remember that I once taught a student of Liu Weijian. His behavior and habits were very bad. He often cursed and hit others, and his grades were last among the students. His classmates didn't like him. But I thought: no matter who he is, even the worst student, he always has a kind side and a shining point, so I decided to start from his shining point and give him encouragement. Because students all have a motivated side, especially when they have just started school, they all want to "re-behave" in front of new teachers. So on the third day of school, I came to Liu Weijian and said to him: "I heard that you used to curse and hit people a lot, but you haven't cursed or hit people for three days this semester. It means you are making progress and you are motivated." ." He was very happy after hearing this. I said again: "You have persisted for three days. So, the teacher has made an appointment with you not to curse or hit anyone for a week, okay?" He said happily: "Okay." Sure enough, he persisted for a week. Swear, don't hit. I was delighted, but realized he needed continued motivation. So I went to him again and said, "You are really good. You have persisted for a week. Let's make an appointment not to curse or hit anyone for two weeks, okay?" He said happily: "Okay, just wait and see." !" Later, he took the initiative to agree with me not to curse for a month.
From Liu Weijian's transformation, I discovered that as a teacher, we should help students succeed from time to time based on their psychological characteristics and let them taste the joy of success. ?6?2
An unforgettable failure will often destroy a person's self-confidence and even ruin his life, but a small success can activate a person's potential and lead him to a new goal. success. It is not suitable for those who do not have strong self-confidence. In this sense, failure is the mother of success and success is the mother of success are contradictory.