Personal career selection experience

In terms of personal career selection, I have accumulated the following experiences, for reference only:

First of all, I discovered that "love what you do, do what you do" It is the basis for choosing a career.

In the past, the indoctrination of "do what you do and love what you do" can only make you "do well", and "love what you do and do what you do" can only make you "do well".

I have been an organizational member of the squadron since I was a child, and was assigned tasks such as poster painting, text reading, and art performances. In middle school, martial arts and pop songs were my favorites. In college, I played classical guitar, themed debates, Even break dancing has become my strong point in performing and winning awards at the school art festival every year; after I was assigned a job after graduation, I was naturally selected as a contestant by my unit at the "May Day Song Festival" where "workers, peasants, soldiers, students, and businessmen" from all over the city gathered every year. ....

In the process of job hopping in the future, although I experienced many experiences in foreign-funded enterprises, I was eventually given up on them one by one. Even in 1996, I took up the position of industrial manager of the Shanghai office of an Australian listed company. I was a department manager with a monthly salary of more than 5,000 yuan, but subconsciously I always felt that my future could not be pinned on an industry outside of my interests. After several conflicts, I resolutely resigned.

After searching many times, I finally entered an industry that excited my heart - public relations and exhibitions.

This industry serves various large-scale activities and public relations activities of government departments, multinational enterprises, and brand companies, such as "Shanghai Tourism Ambassador Selection", "China.Shanghai Venture Capital Forum", "World Gold Council Shanghai Annual Meeting", "Hercules Star Tour", etc. For each event, we must provide tailor-made planning plans, management plans and execution guidelines. This requires everyone in our entire planning team to have broad interests, high energy, love for innovation, and never give up. The defeated personality is exactly what interests me.

Facts have proved that in this industry where I am interested, I can become better and better as I work.

Second, we must truly learn to "communicate".

Whether it is for job applications, colleagues in the unit, or customers, we must truly learn to "communicate."

As the saying goes - there are a hundred people, all kinds of people. You can meet any kind of people. Whether the person with whom we can "communicate" is a government official, a business boss, a department manager, a front desk lady, or even a grudge, if we can master the three principles of self-effacement, self-esteem, and self-confidence, we can basically handle it with ease. It is also the basis for us to turn "communication" into "first-class communication".

"Communication" is not "one word", but an interaction between two parties. The only purpose of "communication" is to reach an agreement between the two parties. If it is just one-sided "talking" and not listening, Not being able to understand the other party's opinions, or mistaking inferiority for self-effacement, mistaking narcissism for self-esteem, mistaking arrogance for self-confidence, mistaking stubbornness for personality may turn "communication" into "third-rate communication."

The most difficult problem when "communicating" is encountering the other party's rejection or objection.

For example, when meeting with a client to discuss the planning plan we submitted, the client may not respond due to disagreement. We will raise objections due to reasons such as understanding, laymanship, stubbornness, etc. At this time, no matter how reasonable we are, we will not immediately deny the other party's opinions tit for tat. We usually say something like this: "Your opinion is very important, and it is with us." , the issues raised in your opinion were also what we were worried about at the beginning. Based on your comments, we also considered..., so we proposed the current plan. Please consider it comprehensively. Is it feasible? ”

Under this roundabout tactic of retreating first and then advancing, we can usually draw the other party to our thoughts, and the gap between us and the other party will be inadvertently dissolved.

Third, look at maturity from the “four levels”.

Mature people usually experience four levels:

1. Don’t know that you don’t know;

2. Know that you don’t know;

3. If you don’t know, you know;

4. If you know, you know.

People who experience the first level may show the arrogant character of "the ignorant are fearless", but this kind of bluffing arrogance is often perceived as "confidence" by themselves. They know everything they know and think. The content of the talk is limited to the scope of sitting in a well and looking at the sky. They are the people who have encountered the most setbacks, and they are also the ones with the strongest sense of frustration. If some of them always cover up their stubbornness by claiming to have "personality", then These people can only stay at this level throughout their lives;

Those who can enter the second level are those who can finally jump out of the "well". New vision may make them feel to confusion, but this level is precisely the beginning of self-reflection and the starting point for maturity;

People who have entered the third level have learned to be self-effacing, have become good at listening, and have entered into the understanding of themselves. A period of reorganization of our worldview and philosophy of life.

They will still encounter setbacks, but they have been able to face them calmly and began to regard setbacks as an accumulation;

People who have entered the 4th level have real abilities based on rationality. Confident, they are often able to communicate with other people at any level with ease, they are often able to objectively view problems from multiple angles, and they can win the respect of others naturally and without the need to bluff.

Fourth, we must be good at "self-deprecating".

A truly rational and confident person can not only face respect and praise, but also face offense calmly.

In the face of intentional offense, if you become angry from shame, you will definitely hurt others and yourself. Sometimes a stern look can be more powerful;

When faced with an awkward atmosphere, sometimes a "self-deprecation" can resolve it.

The famous host Yang Lan once accidentally tripped over the steps when he was on stage. In full view of the crowd, Yang Lan laughed and said: "This is really a mistake made by people and horses made mistakes." In one sentence, he won warm applause from the audience.

Fifth, choosing "Foolish Old Man Moves Mountains" is worse than choosing "Foolish Old Man Moves Mountains".

"The Foolish Old Man moved the mountains" is the extravagant hope of changing the external environment; "The Foolish Old Man moved the mountains" is the courage to change oneself.

I used to be young and energetic, full of enthusiasm, and full of complaints when I encountered setbacks. Whenever something goes wrong, I can find a hundred reasons to blame the problem on the outside world.

Finally once, a girl said to me: "Find the reason from yourself first"! This sentence gave me a sudden enlightenment: The surrounding environment is like the mountain in front of the door. It is difficult for us to change it. The only thing we have the ability to change is ourselves.

We do not want to avoid conflicts, we just do not want to complicate them, we just want to find effective ways to resolve them.

Now, I always remind myself: Is the truth always on my side?

Conflicts are like traffic accidents. We always have to ask ourselves: How much responsibility should we bear? This way of thinking is the way of thinking that is truly responsible for oneself.

Having the courage to introspect is what a wise person does. This is true for patriotism and the same for being a human being.

It's a bit difficult to do this.

Sixth, people should have "three hearts" but not "two minds."

There is a foreign proverb - a rolling stone gathers no moss, and a change of career does not produce wealth.

There is also a famous saying in China - if you persevere, the rotten wood will not break; if you persevere, the metal and stone can be carved.

Looking around at classmates and friends of the same age, constant and frequent job-hopping may have caused them to achieve nothing so far.

Job-hopping is the only way for many young people to choose a career. It is also an accumulation for young people to understand themselves and experience society. But once you have identified an industry and are prepared to do well and develop in the long run, you must have "three hearts":

Enthusiasm - Enthusiastic devotion to work and career can make you successful A good state is also the basis for ensuring that you can do a good job;

Patience - people always encounter setbacks, and to overcome setbacks, you must have patience, otherwise, no matter how great your enthusiasm is, it will only be "three "How hot is the weather";

Perseverance - If you have been working on a certain job for a long time, you will often feel bored and tired. To overcome burnout, you must have perseverance, otherwise, all your efforts and accumulation will be in vain.

With "three hearts", there can be no "two minds".

"Looking at the pot while eating" and "looking at the height of this mountain" are all It may make us unable to resist falsehoods and temptations and lead to "double-mindedness". "Double-mindedness" is a manifestation of vanity and a manifestation of eagerness for quick success. As a result, it is very likely that we will "pick sesame seeds and lose the watermelon." .

Seventh, reality and dreams.

The above has explored the mature issue of "knowing" and "not knowing".

"Knowing" oneself is far more difficult than "knowing" the outside world.

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In other words, what people often understand least is themselves.

I used to be "confident" that I was the most handsome, so I classified all the girls who didn't like me into the ranks of "sightless", dreaming that sooner or later I would be surrounded by beautiful women;

I used to be "confident" that I was the smartest, so I classified all my classmates who were better than me in homework into the "high-scoring, low-energy" category, dreaming that sooner or later I would be rich;

Once " I am confident that I am the most unrestrained, so I put all my colleagues who are more practical than me in their work into the ranks of "stick to the rules"; I dream that sooner or later I will be able to rise to the top.

As a result, I found:

If the self-positioning is not accurate, the dream will always be an empty dream;

If the self-positioning is not accurate, the reality will be faced. , will always be a cruel reality.

As a result, I found:

These are not the most terrifying things, but the most terrifying thing is:

If you are subconsciously unwilling to reflect on yourself, you will never be willing to reflect on yourself. If you are unwilling to face yourself,

then your dreams will always be empty and reality will always be cruel.