In the traditional wedding form, should the bride price received by the woman be returned to the young couple?

there is no uniform standard answer to this question because of the inconsistency between the rich and the poor in society. Money is a necessity of life, but it is not an important factor leading to the direction of marriage. In other words, money can affect the happiness of marriage to a certain extent, and it cannot be used as a measure of the relationship between husband and wife. Whether the bride price is returned or not depends entirely on the money view of both families.

Before writing this article, the author thought of a famous saying of teacher Tu Lei, "The most terrible thing in the world is to value money more than people and feelings".

love is the foundation of all things. Without affection between husband and wife, it is difficult to have an empty shell of marriage. Without affection between family members, family ties will vanish, and friends will only break up for profit. Anyone who is willing to build money on feelings often doesn't know how to cherish the feelings of others.

The bride price is of course important. Compared with the long road of struggling to live a young marriage, money, perhaps just a part of a happy life, can be happy and stable for a long time. It is not tied to the status quo of coveting a rich life, but the wealth and integration of the spiritual world. The long-term happiness of husband and wife will never be reflected in the material enjoyment, because money will only bring short-term pleasure.

when we delve into whether the bride price should be returned, we might as well ask ourselves, what is the meaning of the bride price? What we are going to talk about today is related to "whether the bride price should be returned".

Bei Xiaoxiao and Wu Kai have been married for a week. According to most people's experience, marriage within one month belongs to the honeymoon period, when the relationship between husband and wife is at its best. In fact, Xiaoxiao and Wu Kai got into a lot of trouble on their wedding night because of the "bride price and dowry". Since this week, the number of times they talked is also very few, and the marriage started with a red light. In the final analysis, it is all about money.

Wu Kai's family conditions are not bad. My parents have been engaged in building materials business for decades. Although the market is not prosperous in recent years, the lean camel is bigger than the horse. Early years ago, my parents had an investment vision, and they bought two houses in one breath in the county town. Now, the market value has turned over several times. Wu Kai is also very inspirational and good-looking. So, which girl can't be moved by a boy who takes care of both inside and outside?

Wu Kai has a crush on Xiaoxiao because she is beautiful and simple, and because Xiaoxiao and he are engaged in the same industry. They are alumni of the same major and different classes in college, and they have complementary personalities when chatting together. Love is not like this. Who cares about the family conditions when you see it right? Most men and women in love don't take love as the starting point of marriage, but take love as an experience and play with life. In the final analysis, it is a fresh picture. After the sweetness of love is too strong, all they see are problems and contradictions.

Unfortunately, Xiaoxiao and Wu Kai are not suitable for each other in terms of family conditions. Xiaoxiao is the eldest at home, and there is a younger brother and a younger sister below, which is not a family wall. Compared with Wu Kai's family, Xiaoxiao is much worse. The family environment has created the inconsistency of the concept of money, which is also full of thorns for them on the road of marriage.

The wedding date of the two was originally scheduled for the eighth day of the first month of next year, and the plan could not keep up with the change. Not long ago, Wu Kai's parents were so happy that their daughter-in-law and grandson reached the designated position in one step, but when they agreed on the bride price in the wedding details, the two families had differences.

Xiaoxiao's family is poor, and his parents are not the kind of greedy elders. His parents demanded 8, yuan for the bride price. At that time, the parents' idea was to marry him for 2, yuan, plus a bride price of 1, yuan. After the couple got married, all the money was given to them to live with. The family didn't want outsiders to think that marrying a girl was like selling a girl. People could be poor, but their hearts could not be poor.

Of course, Xiaoxiao's parents demand the bride price for another purpose, that is, to consider whether the son-in-law Wu Kai's family really treats Xiaoxiao. After all, in the two marriages, money is the most realistic and direct tool to test their relationship. Xiaoxiao's parents planned to return the bride price and dowry, and no one told them, because once this matter was said, their good intentions would fall short.

No one expected that the accident happened just the day before the wedding ...

Wu Kai's parents paid more attention to the bride price, and thought that the 8, bride price was not very lucky. There was a traditional saying in the local area that "seven ups and eight downs". Finally, Wu Kai's mother made a private decision to reduce the bride price from 8, to 6,. After Xiaoxiao's parents received the 6, bride price the day before the wedding, they were extremely disappointed. At this time, they didn't have time to regret their marriage.

On the wedding day, when Wu Kai went to Xiaoxiao's mother's house to receive the bride, the dowry given by her father-in-law and mother-in-law was just a few quilts, and there was nothing valuable. The dowry of 2, yuan agreed before was gone. Your bride price is less than 2 thousand. Why can't I marry him less than 2 thousand? The idea of Xiaoxiao's family made Wu Kai mind very much. At the wedding, he refused to change his mind to call his parents to his mother-in-law and father-in-law. Xiaoxiao felt insulted and refused to change his mind to his in-laws.

Wu Kai and Xiaoxiao's wedding seems to be a joyous occasion. In fact, the seeds of contradictions have sprouted in their hearts, and their views on marriage and money are inconsistent. Stimulated by the unreasonable practices of their parents, their marriage is doomed to be difficult to move forward. Wedding toast, face saving old father-in-law still can't help but ask Wu Kai.

"You weren't like this before. Why did you change when you married my daughter? Will you stop calling your parents?"

Wu Kai said angrily, "I'm sorry, I don't have such parents. You even want to omit our marriage dowry. Am I ashamed to change my mind?" Besides, it's good that I don't dislike the conditions of your family. "

is this what a son-in-law should say? Keep talking about money. A man who really knows how to manage marriage and feelings will not overemphasize money, nor will he regard money as more important than people and feelings. He will judge others' feelings by the gains and losses of money. Such a man can't shoulder the responsibility in marriage, nor will he really be filial to both parents. The concept of money determines values, while a man's values determine his vision and pattern.

In a marriage, a man who has no responsibility is quick-witted in self-reflection, but crazy in thinking when judging and measuring each other's contradictions. If the height is different, his mind and pattern will be different. This kind of man will only care about the gains and losses of immediate interests, so how can he take care of other people's feelings emotionally? This kind of man will not have a pattern, so now he will only haggle over trifles.

In the face of Wu Kai's unreasonable rebuttal, Xiaoxiao will naturally protect her family and go straight to the theory: "Are you educated? It was your parents who reduced the bride price by 2 thousand without our permission. Our family is poor but we must have dignity. "

Xiaoxiao's remarks stung Wu Kai, who was competitive. In front of all her relatives and friends, Wu Kai said on the spot, "I don't want to marry him, and the bride price will be returned to us, otherwise we will divorce tomorrow."

Xiaoxiao's mother sneered: "A white wolf with empty gloves is not easy to use. If you want to be respected, you should first learn how to respect others. We are not afraid of divorce, and we will not refund a penny of the bride price. If your whole family dares to embarrass my daughter again, they will divorce and abort their children. Such a husband-in-law will not marry."

The mother-in-law's strength and firmness taught Wu Kai's family a hard lesson. Everyone has a bottom line and principles. You can love money and wealth, but don't base this greed on hurting the feelings of two families, and don't destroy the feelings of husband and wife because of your unreasonable view of money. Once this bottom line is broken, it will definitely cause irreversible damage to marriage.

going back to the core issue of the article, I personally think that this issue must be considered as the case may be. If the family conditions are good and the bride price is not large, the wishes of the bride's parents can be respected. If the bride price is large and the giving of the bride price affects the married life of the young couple, it is still necessary to return the bride price at this time.

Only when the money is negotiated and settled can the marriage be happy. If you are injured because of money, even if the family conditions are no matter how good, this twisted marriage really can't last, and what you are waiting for may only be divorce.

friends, do you think the bride price should be refunded?