A few days ago, I turned to the quotations of Du, the boss of the old Shanghai gang, and I had to think that he was really enlightened and knowledgeable. No wonder the whole of Shanghai is his.
One of them, after reading it several times, is concise, but I deeply feel that he has told his life thoroughly and made the facts of life clear.
That's the sentence: "There are three bowls of noodles in life that are the worst, human face, situation and feelings."
The first bowl of noodles: noodles
Face, there is also a saying that it is "decent".
Be a man, look good, live decently and look good.
Du was originally from a poor family and a rogue. Theoretically, he is at most a bandit leader. How can he be all-powerful, black and white and admired by the world in the future?
This has to start with his own appearance. At that time, the hooligans on the beach were all wearing black silk bunts, cardigans and often bare chests. An advanced toilet wears a gold pocket watch around its neck and a big diamond ring on its hand. Anyway, I feel afraid that others will not know that he is a hooligan.
Du Yuesheng has just gained a foothold, and that's what she wears. It is said that once I went to a social occasion, I found that my clothes were out of place with the upper class.
After returning to China, Du Dui was reformed. From then on, no matter how hot the weather is, he wears a gown, a button can't be undone, his sleeves won't be rolled up, and the tattoos on his hands won't be easily exposed.
Moreover, he also asked all servants who came in and out of the house to dress appropriately, not to wear bunts and not to be naked.
After the renovation of this dish, Du Jia's gatehouse feels refreshing, and Du's temperament has quietly changed, like a scholar, but he is not angry.
It is said that at that time, Huang liked to scream, and only Du liked to call Mr. Du. This shows Du's expectations and requirements for himself.
This bowl of noodles tastes terrible. One should have self-knowledge and the other should have the ability to pursue oneself.
Du knows his identity: I am indeed a rogue from a poor family. But I have higher requirements for myself. So, the facade is done, start over.
But most people don't know enough about themselves, let alone what they want from themselves. This first bowl of noodles tastes really bad.
Face is self-knowledge, self-knowledge.
The second bowl of noodles: the scene
China people love to talk about ostentation and extravagance, love to talk about scenes, and love to be a scene person.
The pursuit of "big scenes" actually exposes vanity.
When Zeng Guofan was the governor of Liangjiang, he took his parents home. Government officials took their families on a trip, and the scene was spectacular.
Zeng Guofan believes that there are too many people escorting, and some of them should be dismissed.
He specially wrote a letter to the fourth brother, saying, "My family should not be too rich."
When Xianfu was at home, his brothers held a grand banquet to celebrate his birthday. Zeng Guofan didn't like such a scene and simply hid in the country.
For children, Zeng Guofan's education is also extremely strict.
Sons are not allowed to wear gorgeous clothes, and daughters are only given 200 taels of silver as dowry when they get married.
Zeng Guofan warned his children not to covet superficial glory and not to be contaminated with arrogant habits:
All aristocratic children have the same food, clothing, housing and transportation as the poor, so they can achieve great things. If they are tainted with wealth and habits, they can hardly hope to succeed.
The scene of arrogance and extravagance is nothing more than icing on the cake for a person's life.
No matter how big the scene is, it can't compare with the fullness inside.
The third bowl of noodles: sentimental
Be reasonable in doing things and considerate in being a person.
Everyone says that Wang Xifeng is a tough guy in A Dream of Red Mansions, but she is full of feelings for Grandma Liu.
Grandma Liu entered Jia's house and was about to go home. When she came back, she was already full of cars.
"Nothing," said Xi-feng. "Suit yourself. For better or worse, take it with you, and your neighbors will look more lively. It is also a city trip. "
She is not condescending or contemptuous, and everything is so natural and easy-going.
"I happened to meet a benefactor because I helped a village woman."
When Jia Fu was raided and both Wang Xifeng and Jia Lian were arrested, their only daughter was rescued and adopted by Grandma Liu.
Be a man so that we can meet again in the future.
Adults like to talk about principles, and the biggest principle is-leave some feelings in everything.
After all, Gan Kun is undecided. Who can guarantee that he won't need help in the future?
"A Generation of Masters" said: People live in the world, some live as faces, and some live as linings. Only Lizi can win real face.
The world is full of knowledge and the cultivation of human feelings is an article.
We are all ordinary people who work hard among all living beings. We may not be perfect, but at least we should be suitable.
Only by pursuing yourself can you know how to live a decent life. Do not lose your discretion and realize how many bowls to eat; Only by keeping the gentleman's wind can we really take care of our feelings.