What kind of friends a person has directly reflects his character. To understand a person, you only need to observe his social circle, from which you can see his value orientation. This is what we often say: "Birds of a feather flock together, and people flock together." People often say: "Rely on your parents at home, and rely on your friends when you go out." Friends are undoubtedly very important in a person's social activities
However, some people form gangs, act recklessly, take advantage of each other, and build friendship on On the basis of so-called buddies and selfish interests... these cannot stand the test of time! Some people take it easy when it comes to making friends. This is because they adhere to the principles of making friends, that is: be like-minded to help others, be generous to help others, and treat others with generosity.
Like-mindedness leads to unity, that is to say, only friends with the same ambition can learn from each other's strengths and move forward on the same road. Li Bai and Du Fu were great poets of the same generation. When they met in Luoyang, they were so late that they traveled together in the Mingchuan Mountains. Du Fu was attracted by Li Bai's style and talent, but also worried by his sharp attitude and arrogance. Therefore, he gave him some friendly advice: "Who is the hero who drinks and sings in vain, and who is so domineering?" Li Bai also said Du Fu's friendship was the most important thing. When they said goodbye with tears, they decided to meet again in the future: "When will the golden cups open again on Shimen Road?" To this day, their brotherly friendship is still a good story. Nowadays, there are some people who only care about loyalty but not ambition. They are even punished just for the sake of anger. As a result, they don’t even get true friends! What's the pain?
To be generous in helping others means to selflessly and enthusiastically help those who are in difficulty or at fault, and to get along with others in a warm and friendly manner! An ancient saying goes: "I can't impress people with the spring breeze, and I can't impress people with the summer rain. I'm bound to be poor!" There was a young man who had lost his footing and thought that he would never be able to see anyone again, so he remained silent all day long. At this time, sincere friends extended a helping hand to him and touched his cold heart. Extending your hands of friendship not only helps others, but also gains friendship. Why not?
To treat others with generosity means to treat people or things around you with a mind as broad as the ocean. This is the magnanimous demeanor of a gentleman, the temperament of being indifferent and distant, the demeanor of a prime minister who can punt a boat. It also contains the connotation of not doing to others what you don't want others to do to you. Making friends with such a mentality is just to make room in your heart for other people's faults, but it also fulfills your own personality charm. Wouldn't it be a step back to make the world brighter?
Ba Jin said: "Friendship is a bright light in life. Without it, life will have no luster; without it, life will not bear fruit." Indeed, friendship can add joy to people's lives. And courage can enable people to brainstorm ideas without being alone. But the most important thing depends on how you choose your friends and how you establish and develop friendships!
Nowadays, some classmates and a group of so-called buddies eat, drink, fight, and fights happen from time to time. This is something that the school and classmates absolutely cannot tolerate, and only you can experience the consequences! I also hope that everyone will take this as a warning and make good friends instead of bad friends! Build and develop true friendships!
Being like-minded to help others, being generous to help others, and being generous to others are the principles by which we make friends in the world. Only on the basis of this principle can we win sincere friendship and get happiness!