This sentence can be said to be a sentence that every parent now agrees with and works hard to practice! However, it is still inevitable to have many "problem students".

The problem students mentioned here do not specifically refer to students with poor academic performance or naughty students, but to various problems that arise in children under high-pressure learning environments.

We often encounter parents who are "scrupulous" and "spare no effort" for the sake of their children's learning! Why do you say that? Go and see where your children go and what they are doing on weekends and you will know! Without being too pretentious, the answer is - tutoring classes! But when you choose a tutoring class for your child, do you really think it through?

Recently I have met some parents who are particularly active and don’t leave any time for their children. Let me give you a few examples:

I don’t know how you feel after seeing these course arrangements. My feeling is: take a deep breath and exhale a long breath! So this is student life? Is this the learning pace students should have? I think the answer should not and will not be yes.

When talking about this, many parents may say: "There is no way, it is like this now. If you don't enroll your children in tutoring classes, what should you do if your children can't keep up with their grades? Besides, other children are "How can our children compete with others if they don't sign up for tutoring classes?" I believe nine out of ten parents will say this, which is why these parents always have topics to talk about when they meet. So the result is that you have to take preparatory classes, synchronous classes, intensive classes, advanced classes...

But have you really asked yourself and your children:

These three questions? Probably more than 90% of parents will ask, and the purpose is of course to improve their children's academic performance! So please think again. Have you ever asked your children these questions?

Just like we often say "prescribe the right medicine to the case", if you can discuss and solve problems like this with your children one by one, what should you do when choosing a tutoring class for your child? Should we be more targeted or continue to blindly follow the crowd? I believe you can make the right and appropriate choice.

Then we have to ask another question here:

I am afraid that only a handful of people can answer in the affirmative. Many parents think that they understand their children well and are accompanying them. When my children grow up and I respect them very much, I will sign them up for whichever tutoring class they want to attend. But when I look back at those problems, how many have you accomplished? What bad habits and bad behaviors are due to your influence?

A group of pictures on the Internet became very popular some time ago. It showed a parent playing with a mobile phone and the child playing with the mobile phone in the same posture. There was also a news article "A seven-year-old child imitates his father to play with a mobile phone. Everyone who saw it was shocked. "Crying"

"Never underestimate the influence of parents on their children!" This is what I often think about and what I most want to tell all parents. Most parents' understanding and empathy are just their own experiences. If you study hard, you will not have a good future. I feel that these methods are my life experience and will definitely be useful to my children. I feel that I am doing it for the good of my children. Don’t forget this sentence:

Arrange your children according to your own ideas , you only want to improve your child's performance, but you don't analyze it for your child, and you don't listen to your child's needs personally. You don't understand, you don't empathize, and you don't teach by words and deeds.

There is a fifth-grade student, a boy, who is relatively smart, but very naughty, can't sit still, and can't concentrate in class.

His family is in good condition. He got his own mobile phone when he was three years old. His father attaches great importance to his child's education and tells him that as long as he works hard, he will definitely learn the lessons in school. He also tells him that it is never too late to work hard and he must work hard. , these words are all correct, but I have not considered: Let your child carry a mobile phone when he is three years old. Have you limited the time your child can play with mobile phones? When your children are doing homework, have you ever observed their speed and concentration? If a child's grades are bad, is it because he can't learn or because he didn't listen to the teacher at all? The boy said that he has a younger brother who is only one and a half years old and already knows how to play all the games on his mobile phone. He can find the mobile phone even if it is hidden, and he can also find the icons if they are grouped... Not to mention that today's children are really very smart. I'm smart, and I won't discuss the pros and cons of holding a mobile phone. I just want to ask you, have you considered the consequences of doing so? Can you ensure that all children are born with good self-control and can learn and entertain well? If not, then please limit the entertainment items and time that your children should not have. Another student felt that the content taught in a tutoring class was helpful to him and wanted his father to follow the class. In the first few minutes, his father was very cooperative. After more than 20 minutes, he couldn't sit still and started playing with his mobile phone and listening to music. Are you studying with your children? You may say that you should respect your child's opinions and listen carefully. It doesn't matter whether the parents listen or not. But if the child turns around and asks you for your opinion once he wants to, can you accurately help the child do a pros and cons analysis and a value analysis? Can you guide your children to make correct and appropriate choices? A large number of children, especially students below high school, sign up for remedial classes just to cope. What's more, when they hear that they are asked to sign up for remedial classes, they will oppose it regardless of whether it is really beneficial to them, and they will tell their parents. Temper, so please don’t let your children make inappropriate choices in the name of respecting them, and don’t kill the fun that your children should have in the name of your own good or in the name of love!

I hope that all parents who read this article will think about these issues. I also hope that you can often reflect on yourself and always pay attention to your words and deeds. Don’t become a missing father or mother, but truly care about your children. ***Grow together, when your child needs it, you can give your child a correct and appropriate analysis and guidance when making a choice!

Some time ago, "The First Lesson of School" went viral in the circle of friends. There is this passage: When educating children, you choose to make money instead of disciplining them. When the children grow up, you The money he has worked so hard to earn throughout his life is not enough for him to spend a year! When educating your children, you choose to discipline and accompany them. When the children grow up, the money you have not earned in your life will be earned by your children in one year! Wherever you give, you will gain. Children’s education is too short-lived. If you miss it, you will never have it again! If your child is outstanding, what will you do with the money? If the child is dead, what will you do with the money?

Finally, I would like to share two famous quotes for you to think about!