2. Moderate provocation can definitely make the conversation warm. Because everyone wants their opinions to be taken seriously and discussed, instead of being nodded and perfunctory by an unprincipled person.
3. When the other person brings up a topic that you don't want to pick up at all, don't rush to resist, but connect the topic that the other person is keen on lightly to a very life direction.
The way to save others trouble is to solve the trouble in your own hands.
5. Look in your eyes and put it in your heart. Look at each other from time to time, observe a little, and let the opposite person fully feel her presence in your eyes. Let the other person feel valued.
6. Dating is dating, that is, making out. Eating, drinking and ordering are all good opportunities for flirting.
7. "What are you doing" is interesting in itself, but silence is richer and more memorable than chatter.
8. You are what you say. -Cai Kangyong's "Cai Kangyong's Way of Speaking"
9. Leave unnecessary victories to the other side. People who know how to give up can talk. -Cai Kangyong's "Cai Kangyong's Way of Speaking"
10 and 15 years old found it difficult to swim, so they gave up swimming. 18 years old, when someone you like asks you to swim, you have to say "I can't". 18 years old, found English difficult and gave up English. At the age of 28, I have a great job and need English, so you have to say "I can't". The more troublesome my early life is, the lazier I am to study, and the easier it is to miss the people and things I am interested in and the new scenery later.
1 1. Adults always want to keep their children in textbooks, but the real fun lies outside textbooks, in that endless and sinister world.
12. Every time you do something, it's best to pursue only one goal that you care about most, and the rest can be compromised, so the chances of achieving the goal are high.
13, I like you not because of the same sex, but because of someone who happens to be the same sex.
14, I have kept the short message you sent me at that time. Because I still need some evidence to prove that even you loved me so much.
15, this world, occasionally there will be such a soft and pampered moment, which always makes us hard to believe that heaven and earth have no ability to care about our survival. ...
The classic quotation of Cai Kangyong's way of speaking 2 1, "chattering" and "being eloquent" are completely different. It is boring to spend an hour with a taciturn person; But ten minutes with a chatterbox should make you want to strangle each other. People who talk like machine guns, who are very proud, may try to use older weapons: arrows that shoot bows, arrows that shoot bows. Leave room for the listener to digest. As long as your words are worth mentioning, don't worry, the other party will also see your strength.
2. Want to be an angel in others' hearts? Want to be taken seriously? Instead of always playing the role of coming and going, it is better to practice setting obstacles. You are not a ready-made apple on someone else's desk.
3. Goo goo is very similar to many of us. It is normal to observe without inferring. He went to Italy to play, so the inference is unreasonable.
People like their names very much. When others write to you and talk to you on the phone, if you mention your name from time to time, your concentration and recognition will be greatly improved.
However, if you can say such a thing, you should do some homework for yourself in advance and replace the person you admire according to the strong wind.
6. Everyone wants to talk about themselves when chatting. When you want to be liked by others, you just need to put others in your own position, and it's your turn to play this "most upright" friend. To play with such friends, the highest principle is simple: "Try not to let yourself say what I say". It sounds simple, but you can try. Talk to your friends for ten minutes, not me. Yes, just don't say anything about me. Every time you want to say something about me, change it to your words or his words. You will find that in these ten minutes, I have been talking. Yesterday, I think, I bought these sentences, and suddenly I became a person who kept throwing the topic to each other and let them speak freely.
7. When I was a child, I quarreled with my sister, and I kept talking in one breath. She was not allowed to refute and interrupt, which raised her tone by a lot of decibels. As a result, my sister was corrupt and didn't want to argue with me at all. But at that time, while I was proud, I also doubted whether it was appropriate to do so because she didn't believe my point of view. From this perspective, in fact, many people also make such mistakes. Is to speak without giving the other party room to respond, only to express themselves, and not to allow others to speak.
8. Gossip is inevitable. Gossip is necessary, but you can pursue a tasteful way of gossip instead of speaking ill of others behind their backs.
9. A more useful way to apologize is to filter out your mistakes and troubles in your mind and then think about what remedies you can take. Then bravely explain to the other party what mistakes you made, how clear your mistakes are, how much trouble and trouble such mistakes have brought to the other party, and then of course you are waiting to be scolded, but because your apology is full. When the other party reaches a stage, you can put forward the solution you want to make the other party feel that you are not 100% Handan. Although it is inevitable to be scolded, at least the other party will not completely lose trust in you.
10, I won't deliberately make up such a compliment myself, but if I really hear it, even if it is a compliment, I will be happy to convey it. Because doing so will really make the listener happy, the atmosphere will be good, and it sounds much more credible than saying some empty compliments.
1 1, stubbornly believe in superficial phenomena, use only one logic in everything, or think that everyone says so, it must make sense. All the above are the root causes of the boring speech. Words are full of thoughtless opinions, just like a plate full of unfrozen frozen meat or frozen jiaozi, which is served to guests.
12, our life still needs the respect and trust of others.
13. Oral English is something that we can make continuous progress with a little effort. Although talking must involve others, just like driving on the road, the people we meet may be blind, rude, weird or unreasonable. But we can't throw caution to the wind just because others drive indiscriminately, because it is related to our own happiness. Others may be reckless, but we will do it well within our own scope.
14, it is really difficult for people to "understand another person's pain". If you don't understand, don't say so, because when a customer confides in you, she just needs you to listen. Maybe she also needs your advice, but she may not need another person to claim that others understand her pain.
15. If you want to express yourself by speaking, don't ignore that you can express yourself by listening, not by speaking.
16. By studying and speaking, you will more fundamentally discover your relationship with others, what you are thinking with others, and most importantly, what kind of person you are.
17, to be honest, if you are not the kind of person who always thinks that "I am the normal person" and "I am the backbone of society", you will not take it for granted that you will always treat dropouts, addicts and vulnerable people with a contemptuous attitude full of superiority, and you will not be too rude to ask others some sharp questions directly, but will try to understand each other's situation through conversation.
18, Gu Gu said that, of course, he put his likes and dislikes in the "most important" position. If it weren't for Kiyoshi Tanya, I don't think the other eight people at the party really need to care whether Miss Tanya eats Japanese food or not. The way to make less trouble for others is to solve the trouble in your own hands. All she has to do is answer, "Oh, then I'm full? I'll meet you at the restaurant because I don't eat Japanese food ",or," Can I order another new Thai food for you? Because I am not used to eating Japanese food. " Gugu will be much more likable if she changes her words in this order, and others will be interested in asking her to have a party next time. However, how can we know the order of speaking, which sentence should come first and which sentence should come after? In this kind of telephone invitation, there is only one attitude that needs to be grasped, that is, people do not exist to serve you.
19, I have several suggestions for quarreling, one of which is: don't deny the other party's fundamental position. Don't attack each other's foothold in life. My husband was credulous and took money to invest in unreliable business, and all of a sudden he lost. A wife can blame her husband and tell him to be clear-headed and stop trying to cut corners, but don't say, "A man is a failure to do what you do."
20. All these noble people, such as God, King, Boss and President, don't talk to you or complain. On the contrary, only those who will complain to you will treat you as an equal and be willing to make friends with you.