Methods of persuasion: move them with emotion and convince them with reason? Lure them with benefits and threaten them with harm

Dealing with things: Only by hiding your energy in your chest and floating your energy in your face can you act with loyalty and loyalty. For people

Resource integration: 1. What do I want? 2. What do I have? 3. What do I lack? 4. Who has what I lack and where is he? 5. In what way does he need help from others? 6. I did those things for him before he was willing to help me!

1. When you know someone, you know their feelings, when you close someone, you are sincere.

It means opening, opening the other person’s door to understand the other person, and opening your own door to show sincerity

Understand each other: family status, ability, social circle, strength, personal preferences, needs, pursuit of work style, weaknesses, strengths

Close means closing: To protect your own door, you must be careful and not leave any loopholes for the other party! If they don’t know your details and your true purpose, no one will dare to attack you easily

2. Take it when you see the benefit, and take it when you see the harm. Harm

3. Changes in yin and yang, the opening and closing of the four seasons - those who know the current affairs are heroes, and those who do not understand the current affairs are stupid donkeys

Those who control the current affairs are the way of heaven and earth. Changing yin and yang, opening and closing in the four seasons, to transform all things; vertical and horizontal, reverse, repeated, and disobedient, must be from this.

4. Before speaking, you should learn to keep your mouth shut

Speech. The heart is the door of the heart. Will, desire, thought, and wisdom all come in and out through the door. Therefore, the door is used to close it and to control it is to open it. Speech means yang. Shu means closing, silence means yin. Shu means opening up our speech and expressing our opinions; closing means closing our doors and choosing to remain silent, hiding our true thoughts. . Talking human words to people, talking nonsense to ghosts

5. The harmony of yin and yang ends with its meaning - use benefits to talk to people, use harm to control people, use good words to start things, and talk about harm. To end things

All beautiful and bright things such as growth, happiness, wealth, honor, fame, hobbies, wealth, pride, and joy represent the "beginning" and can be said publicly, Let’s talk about it first. All unlucky things such as death, sorrow, poverty, humiliation, abandonment, loss of profit, frustration, harm, punishment, and punishment represent the “end” and should be mentioned later, in private, in another way. Talking is the best. If we want the other party to do something, we can tell him the advantages of it; if we want the other party to stop something, we can tell him the disadvantages of it. This is a debate. Or the principles that need to be followed in lobbying.

When talking about good, we try to promote the benefits of a certain behavior because we can provide benefits in this area and benefit from it. When talking about evil, we try to promote a certain behavior. The harm of behavior is because we are not good at operating this behavior and need to avoid this risk

Say the opposite, say hard words softly, say good things first, say bad things later, let your tongue Make a bend and then open your mouth, so that you can move easily between people, get what you need, and abandon what you don't like

6. The way of fighting is to test it with yin and yang. Therefore, those who speak with yang should rely on sublimity. . With the evil talker, you are humble.

Survival is to constantly find allies, strengthen your own camp, and then compete for resources together, and communication is a basic means of survival to gain as much as possible from others. Recognition is our goal. In this process, it is our approach and ultimate goal to eliminate hostility, find common topics, and create common interests. Even extremely important.

7. The world is impermanent and everything is impermanent.

We should rely on the strong rather than rely on them. The goal of life should be to surpass the strong, not to rely on them. Be an eternal parasite on the strong

If the materials are not good, you cannot use soldiers - increase your value of being used

8. To govern a country, you must examine the social environment of a country and then create a Good environment, tailor-made strategies.

If the basic environment is not good, the prospects are not optimistic; if there is room for improvement, you can try your best to improve it and plan improvements; if there is no possibility of adjustment, you need to abandon the darkness and look for the best environment.

9. Emotions change internally and appear externally - Observe words and emotions

10. Take the interests, desires and needs of the other party as the fulcrum and use flexible language techniques

11. Use it in the right way, and the way will be hidden - the manipulator hiding in the dark

12. Those who have no success, use it wrongly - your advantages and capital are What

There are many ways to use magic, including peaceful attack, justice and censure, entertainment and entertainment, anger stimulation, fame and intimidation, behavior coercion, and honesty and integrity. There are those who are persuaded by reputation, those who are tempted by benefits, and those who are captured with humility. Peace is tranquility, justice is uprightness, entertainment is joy, anger is excitement, fame is reputation, behavior is implementation, integrity is clarity, interest is demand, and humility is humility. Therefore, the rubbing techniques used by saints can also be possessed by ordinary people. If they fail to use it successfully, they must be using it wrong.

13. Hold fire and go to the fire, dry people will burn first - those who control people's hearts will win the world

14. Rule people with law, be tolerant, convince people with reason, win people with trust

15. Use the best, use the best - showing emotions is a sign of cowardice and naivety

16. Like a circle and a square, like a square and a round - dealing with others The square way in China is to use kindness and power at the same time, pay attention to the method and measure

Law enforcement is as principled as a mountain and you must use the square way in danger

If you make a mistake, tolerate the other party and show kindness. This is called the round way

17. Those who listen to others will become ghosts and gods - reverse thinking and be as changeable as ghosts and gods

18. See their plans and know their will - your opinions must be adaptable and in line with the leadership's ideas

1. The current situation of the world: The so-called current situation of the world means that you must make decisions before taking action.

The general trend of the world. The so-called power of the world refers to the various forces that promote the general trend of the world. If the world is compared to the sea, the direction of the wind is the time, and the trend caused by the wind is the trend. Seizing the current situation is to ride the tide. The current situation in the world is complicated and confusing, unpredictable, and ever-changing. The sage knows the time and situation, uses the situation according to the time, and thus governs the world. Traitors go against the times and bring chaos to the world.

2. Appreciating the world

Appreciating feelings is to measure the hearts of others. If you are trying to guess someone, you should observe their words, look at their color, hear their voice, watch their behavior, and then deduce the direction of their heart. If you are trying to figure out the world, you must look at the conditions of the country, the availability of goods and wealth, the number of people, the dangers of the terrain, the strength of the military, the wisdom and foolishness of the monarchs and ministers, the fortunes and misfortunes of the weather, and the support of the people, and then deduce what the destiny of the country will be. There is prosperity or decline, prosperity or destruction.

3. Make a decision before making a move

Chess cannot be played without chess pieces. The one hundred and eighty chess pieces each of you holds will always be dead when placed in the box. Only Put it in, it is to let it go

4. Motivation and Dao Xin

Motivation is a skill. Without the control of Tao Xin, the higher the skill, the more deviant the action will be. In the end, it will not only be difficult but also difficult to control. To become a great weapon, even if you want to protect yourself, it will be difficult. How many people in the world are addicted to this, causing harm to themselves and others.

5. The four realms of enlightenment

There are four realms of enlightenment. The first is hearing the Tao, the second is knowing, the next is seeing the Tao, and finally the Tao is obtained. Zhongni, a native of Lu in the Spring and Autumn Period, heard about it but didn't know why, so he rushed to Luoyang without any hesitation and asked the sage Lao Dan. The first sage discussed Taoism for three days, and Zhongni learned from it and realized the principles of the world, so he established Confucianism. It can be seen from this that the word "know" is very remarkable.

6. Skills and Tao

Any knowledge is divided into skills and Tao. As far as military science is concerned, the art of using military force lies in victory, and the way of using military force lies in reconciling disputes. Therefore, those who are good at using troops are not warlike. The way to use troops is to subjugate the enemy without fighting, to turn the conflict into jade and silk, and to use four ounces to move the enemy.

7. What is good speech?

A person who is good at speaking can speak like a river, and he can make people think about things they don’t want to think and do things they don’t want to do. If he doesn’t speak, his mind is as calm as a mountain. , the force is like a bow arrow, which can make people feel uneasy, like falling into the clouds and mist five miles away. This is what is said without saying anything. Silence is better than sound.

8. Viewing the world

Viewing the world is like viewing this distant mountain. You cannot rely on your eyes alone, you must use your intuition and your heart. To see distant mountains, you don’t have to go up to them; to see deep valleys, you don’t have to go down into them. On the other hand, if you really go to a distant mountain, you will not be able to see the distant mountains or the deep valleys. It's like going into the forest, only to see the trees but not the forest. If you want to see Lin Mang, you can only stand at the top of this place, look down with your eyes, look down with your intuition, and then look down with your heart. ”

9. The Three Ways of Heaven, Saints, and Humans

The Way of Heaven is the way of nature, that is, the principle of birth, restraint, and change of all things in the universe; the Way of Saint is the way of the world, that is, The principles of peace and stability in the country and the harmony of the world; the human way is the way of life, that is, the principle of living a happy life and establishing a good life. These three ways are complementary to each other. If you are far away from the heavenly way, the holy way will be difficult; if you are far away from the holy way, the human way will be difficult.

10. What is Mo Yi?

The so-called Mo Yi means to suit one's liking and induce one's mood. For example, if the other party is honest and upright, the person will be happy and happy. The other person is greedy, and if the person is married with money, the person will be happy, happy, and his emotions will be released; the other person is lustful, and if he is lured with beauty, the person will be happy, happy, and his emotions will be released. , just like fishing in the Yuan, as long as the bait is used properly, the fish will be hooked.

11. The art of 捭阖道

If you have figured it out, you can follow it. Once the pros and cons are known, you can decide how to speak. Generally speaking, you should speak based on the person. When speaking to a wise person, rely on knowledge; ; Speak to the rich, and rely on high; talk to the poor, and rely on profit; talk to the humble, and rely on humility; talk to the brave, and rely on courage...

12. The rule of the human heart

If the world is not governed, it is because of the overflowing desires. If we want to govern the world, we must first govern the human heart; if we want to govern the human heart, we must first cure chaos. To control chaos for the sake of controlling chaos, only to use force to unify the world. Even if it succeeds, the world will not be governed, but will only become more chaotic.

13. The balance of power in the world

The so-called unity means to maintain strength. Balance. If the people of Qin are powerless, the people of Qin will not succeed. Only when the people of Qin build up their strength and stay strong can the three Jins feel a sense of crisis and be willing to unite. Make yourself stronger. The stronger the Qin people are, the more the three Jins will be united; the more the three Jins will be united, the stronger the Qin people will be. Therefore, the world can maintain balance and balance

14. Decision

Everything in the world is due to choice, and this is the beauty of life. There are only two types of decisions in everything, one is easy to decide, and the other is difficult to decide. It is something that can be decided at the moment, and most things in the world fall into this category. Things that are easy to decide can be divided into five types: first, things worth doing; second, things that are noble and beautiful; third, things that can be achieved without effort; fourth, things that are easy to decide. It is something that has to be done although it is laborious; fifth, it is something that is not easy to resolve. Choose the lesser of two evils and the greater of two benefits.

15. Delusion.

In this world, there are only two kinds of people who have no delusions in their hearts. One is the dead, and the other is the god. You are neither of these, so why should you control it if you have such delusions?

16 .Swordsmanship

As far as swordsmanship is concerned, there are only three swords in the world. The Holy Sword is also called the Sword of Heaven. It uses Dao as its back, virtue as its front, yin and yang as its energy, and its five elements as its handle. The light of heaven can protect the earth from below. The sword of virtue is also called the sword of the emperor. It has all the people as its back and virtuous ministers as its front. It conforms to the way of heaven above and the geography below, and neutralizes the public opinion. The vulgar sword is also called the human sword. It uses fine steel as the edge, alloy as the back, and coldness as the Qi. It can behead the head at the top, chop the feet with the bottom, and break the internal organs with the middle.

17. The division and unity of the world

There are two types of divisions and unions in the world, one is the unity of name and substance, and the other is the unity of name and substance. King Wu's enfeoffment should be based on the combination of status and reality.

In the early years of the Western Zhou Dynasty, the general trend of the world was that the Emperor of Zhou conquered all directions. The Duke of Zhou established rituals, all princes accepted the king's orders, and rituals and music were in order. This led to great rule in the Western Zhou Dynasty for hundreds of years. However, after King Ping moved eastward, the situation changed. The Zhou Dynasty declined, the princes became more powerful, and the general trend of the world began to move towards the division of power in name only, eventually leading to today's incurable chaos.

18. Assess the situation

If a person wants to grasp his own destiny, he must "assess the situation". The so-called time of the world refers to the movement trend of the general trend of the world; the so-called trend of the world refers to the various forces that promote the general trend of the world. Seizing the current situation is to ride the tide. The current situation in the world is complicated and confusing, unpredictable, and ever-changing. The sage knows the time and the situation, so he governs the world; the traitor goes against the trend and creates chaos, so the world is in chaos.

19. The art of 捭昖

The art of 捭昖 means to open, that is, speak; to close, that is, to say nothing. The art of licking and closing is the art of opening and closing the mouth. It is rare to learn how to speak and know how to lick and close the mouth. What’s so hard about it? It’s so hard that you have to know when to open your mouth and when to shut up; you have to know how to open your mouth when you should open your mouth and how to close your mouth when you should close your mouth. As the saying goes, good fortune comes in from the mouth and misfortune comes from the mouth. This is what it means.

20. Emotional heart and Taoist heart

Emotional heart and Taoist heart do not actually conflict. Tao exists in all things, and it also exists in worldly emotions. There are yin and yang in heaven and earth, male and female animals, and male and female humans. Yang and yin are in harmony, male and female are in harmony, and men and women are in harmony. This is the common principle of Tao. The emotional heart is the Tao heart, and the Tao heart is the emotional heart. Life and spirituality are not mutually exclusive. If you don't understand emotions, it's hard to understand reason. When fate comes and love comes, fate stops and love stops; when love comes to the heart, love stops and heart stops.

21. Everyone has mental obstacles

As the saying goes, no one is perfect. What this means is that everyone has mental obstacles, which may manifest themselves in one way or another. Being arrogant, bragging, not asking for a better understanding, being too ambitious, jealous, trying to be smart, etc. All these are caused by arrogance; behaviorally withdrawn, rarely speaking, rarely getting along with others, this disorder is caused by lack of self-confidence. The foundation of cultivating the Tao is to remove mental obstacles.

22. Be aware of others

Removing mental obstacles lies in self-awareness. The ultimate goal of self-awareness is to be aware of others. It's not easy to be aware of yourself, and it's even harder to be aware of him. In other words, other obstacles are easy to remove, but mental obstacles are difficult to remove. If a person has no self-confidence, how can others make him confident? Those without self-confidence need to understand the Tao and cultivate their minds; those who are arrogant also need to understand the Tao and cultivate their minds. The mountain is not high, it is immortal; the water is not deep, it is dragon; it is not too much reading, it is essence, it is understanding, so you can cultivate the way.