Later, the Wu family wanted to build a new house and take this road. The Zhang family disagreed. The two sides were at loggerheads and took the lawsuit to the local county government. Considering that both families are famous families, the county magistrate dare not end it easily. At this time, the Zhang family angrily wrote an urgent letter asking him to come forward to solve it.
After reading the letter, Zhang Ying thought he should be modest to his neighbors. In his reply to his family, he wrote four sentences: "A thousand miles of books are just separated by a wall. Why not let him be three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. "After the family saw it, they understood the meaning and offered to give up three feet of space. Wu Jia was deeply moved by this scene and offered to give up the three-foot homestead, hence the name "Six-foot Lane".
2. Apologize with humble apology: Lin Xiangru was named Shangqing, ranking above Lian Po, because of his "overseas return to Zhao" and his contribution to Mianchi League. Lian Po defy spirit, threatened to humiliate Lin Xiangru face to face. Lin Xiangru learned that, as far as possible to avoid, tolerance, not conflict with Lian Po.
Lin Xiangru's minions thought he was afraid of Lian Po, but Lin Xiangru said, "The State of Qin did not dare to invade our State of Zhao because of me and General Lian. When I tolerate and succumb to General Lian, I will put the national crisis ahead and personal grievances behind! " When Lian Po heard this, there was the story of Lian Po's "offer a humble apology".
3. Renyi Hutong: During the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty, Cao was the largest family in the county. In order to build the wall, he had a fight with the old valley family next door. Gu Jia said that the Cao family occupied more than one foot of Gu Jia's homestead, while the Cao family said that it had belonged to the Cao family since ancient times.
The two families did not give way to each other, and at the same time they got into trouble with the yamen. As soon as the magistrate saw these two families, he knew it was difficult to shave their heads, because both families had officials in Kyoto. I am a seven-product sesame official, but I can't manage it if I want to, and I dare not break it if I want to. In desperation, he made a plan to slow down the troops and said, "I am too busy with business at the moment. I will give you a rest time of one and a half months and ten days. " The two families in Gu Cao have no choice but to go home and listen to this story.
When the magistrate returned to the kitchens, he quickly wrote to Cao's adult and Gu's adult, who were officials in Beijing, asking them to mediate.
After receiving the letter, Cao Gong thought, "Gu Gong and I are fellow officials, and it's really pitiful that we hurt the sum of the two families because of a foot wall." So, I quickly wrote a letter to my family, which said, "A thousand miles to send books is a footstool. What can I do for others?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there, but now there is no Qin Shihuang. "Lord Yushigu also wrote a letter to his family that should be" funny ".
After receiving the letter, the two families not only stopped fighting, but also gave in a step, leaving an alley called Renyi Hutong for everyone to go.
Feng Run County has undergone several changes, but this Renyi Hutong, which is only 1 meter wide and 100 feet long, is still preserved in Chengxi Street.
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The key to mutual understanding lies in tolerance.
Tolerance is the most beautiful flower in human nature, and tolerance is the regulator of mental health. People will always suffer, be misunderstood and be wronged in social communication. Faced with these, the wisest choice is to learn to be tolerant. Tolerance is a good psychological quality; Tolerance is extraordinary tolerance and broad mind;
Tolerance is a noble quality and lofty realm; Tolerance is a light of love and a supreme blessing; Tolerance is the wisdom of survival and the art of life. It not only contains understanding and forgiveness, but also shows temperament and mind, strength and firmness.
A person who is intolerant but only demanding of others is often in a state of mental tension, which leads to nervous excitement, vasoconstriction and high blood pressure, thus leading to a vicious circle of psychology and physiology.
Hatred is a double-edged sword. While retaliating against others, I have also been hurt, so the result of "answer blows with blows" is "both lose." The life of a person with hatred in his heart is a painful and unfortunate life. Only by letting go of hatred and choosing tolerance will the knot wrapped in his heart suddenly be released, and a peaceful and pure "sky of love" will appear in his heart-hatred can stir up trouble and love can conquer everything.