But now many young people's ideas have changed. They advocate personality development, claiming that age, height, marriage history and so on are not problems. As long as two people really love each other and can accept each other, others have no right to interfere.
It is true that outsiders have no right to interfere, but for parents, it is not a question of whether they have rights, but really care about their children and hope that their children can live happily. Therefore, when children are faced with lifelong events, parents can't hang high, which has nothing to do with themselves.
Can parents accept that their son wants to marry two girls when he gets married for the first time? Let's listen to the truth of the three parents and see if they can accept it from the heart.
Aunt Li: 5 1 year-old, her son married a second married woman, and she couldn't accept it.
Aunt Li has always been proud of her son, who has been very smart and studied well since he was a child. When her son was in adolescence, parents of children of the same age were worried about rebellion, but Aunt Li didn't have to worry about her son at all. My son is very sensible, not rebellious at all, and his study is still very good.
My son was admitted to 985 University and became a civil servant after graduation. Aunt Li is very pleased, thinking that her son will definitely find someone next and get married. She thinks that with her son's conditions, she can definitely find a girl with good conditions in all aspects. She is full of confidence.
But who knows, my son found a divorced woman with children. This woman has a mediocre job, selling clothes in a private clothing store. Aunt Li couldn't believe it and immediately strongly opposed it. But my son is very rebellious and insists on marrying that woman, not listening to Aunt Li.
Aunt Li quarreled with her son because of his marriage, but his son married a second married woman. Aunt Li Can can't accept it, so since her son got married, she has never been to her son's house, and her son and daughter-in-law are not allowed to come back. Now that her son has been married for three years, Aunt Li is still deadlocked with her son's family.
Mr. Dai: 52 years old, as long as my son is happy, there is no problem.
When the son brought home a second-married girl, Mr. Dai and his wife didn't know that the girl was married. My son knew, but he hid it for fear of his parents' opposition. Later, on the eve of their wedding, Mr. and Mrs. Dai learned that their future daughter-in-law had divorced. The old couple were very surprised.
Mr. Dai's wife ordered her son to break up with his girlfriend and immediately called off the marriage. But my son insisted on marrying his girlfriend, so he had a big fight with his mother and said that he would marry his girlfriend regardless of whether his parents agreed or not. He doesn't care about his girlfriend getting married for the second time.
Seeing his son like this, Mr. Dai advised his wife not to care. Although the girl is married, she has no children. Nowadays, young people have been in love before marriage, and many of them have lived with lovers, so it is not much different from marriage. Parents should not expect too much, as long as their children feel happy.
After repeated persuasion by Mr. Dai, my wife slowly changed her mind and later arranged marriage for her son and daughter-in-law. After marriage, the young couple loved each other, and it was not long before their daughter-in-law became pregnant, and Mr. and Mrs. Dai really accepted their daughter-in-law
Ms. Zheng: 49 years old, because of her opposition, my son broke up with his second wife.
Ms. Zheng's son is 23 years old. He met a woman who is seven years older than him. They fell in love for half a year without telling their parents. Later, my son came back and said he was getting married. Both Ms. Zheng and her husband feel that their son is still young and should focus on his career first. The wedding may be postponed for another two years.
But my son was in a hurry. Ms. Zheng and her husband thought, since my son wants to get married so much, let's get married! They asked their son to take his girlfriend home. As a result, after her son brought his girlfriend back, Ms. Zheng was furious. My girlfriend is seven years older than my son, married and has a two-year-old daughter.
Ms. Zheng and her husband strongly disagree. They think that woman seduced their son and cheated the innocent young man. Ms. Zheng ran to the woman's unit and scolded her in front of many people.
Because of the strong opposition of Ms. Zheng and her husband, her son and girlfriend broke up later. At first, my son complained about his parents. But after a while, he gradually figured it out and felt really naive. If he does marry his ex-girlfriend, there may be a lot of problems.
Conclusion:
For the young man's parents, when they marry the young man and the second wife for the first time, there are always some thoughts in their hearts. But some parents who are reasonable and respect their children's opinions will still accept it, as long as the children are happy.
However, some parents can't accept it and feel that their son has suffered, so they strongly oppose it. In fact, these parents are a little feudal or have a strong sense of self-superiority. They think that a second-married woman is not good enough for her son, so they strongly object.
Whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, marriage should be carefully considered, and both men and women should be cautious. Young people can't care about their wives' past since they have married a second-time woman. Never care before marriage, but care after marriage, which is not good for anyone.
Women should also consider clearly that they are getting married for the second time. Does the other person really care? If the other person cares deeply, he will reluctantly accept you just because you pursue him enthusiastically. If that's the case, don't get married. Most people will not be happy after marriage.
Marriage must be two of a kind. Both of them are willing to accept each other and love each other, so they will be happy after marriage.