Most parents who firmly believe this sentence will say, after all, of course, we must first understand what mistakes our children have made before we can have a follow-up mentality.
Generally speaking, children will express the whole story in detail. Naturally, some children are not so "honest". They may also avoid answering questions or lying to cover up their mistakes.
Faced with this situation, parents must make their children clear. Only by telling the reason can parents grasp what happened in the whole process. If the child still insists, it goes without saying that according to the different personalities of the child, the persuasion method and its certain "threat association method" can be adopted. Naturally, in most cases, persuasion is more effective, and parents must be careful enough to guide their children.
2. "What do you think of your job?"
This sentence is actually asking the child, "Do you think you did something wrong?" But personally, parents are not advised to ask their children immediately. After all, children may subconsciously think that their parents think I am wrong after hearing this sentence. From another perspective, parents can use this sentence to guide their children and let them think independently. From this, we can also know what their behavior cognition is.
Because some children don't know what they are doing is wrong, just for fun, or even because they accidentally see other children doing it, they follow suit. Therefore, parents should not rush to give their children examples to prove that it is wrong for them to do so. They should first insist that their children know the nature of their behavior. That's the point.
3. "This thing is ..."
When children convey their views to them wrongly, most parents can know their children's thoughts so as to analyze their behavior characteristics in the future.
This step is called "judgment". Naturally, it is best not to immediately determine that the child is wrong, but to analyze why it is not good. For a simple example, when a child intentionally breaks a precious bowl, how can parents let the child know that this behavior is bad?
In fact, it is possible to cut people's hands and bleed after the bowl is broken, and because the precious bowl is broken, it damages a lot of money, so this behavior is not good. From these aspects, let the children know that it is not correct to deliberately break the bowl in the past, and the children will never do it again.
4. "How do you want to deal with this matter?"
After being exposed to the child's behavior and the reason why the child did it, parents can ask the child again, this thing happened immediately, so how do you want to solve it?
Generally speaking, children can't react at once, or they may be unwilling to express their opinions because of their mentality. At this time, parents can not rush to force their children to react and give them some time to think. This is why parents need a long time to calm their emotions and consider what to do next.
When children think, parents can master ideas from them. If the practice expressed by the child is available, encourage the child to make up for it. On the other hand, if the idea expressed by the child is incorrect, then parents need to guide the child to the correct solution correctly.
5. "Mom sets the standard for you"
It is also the most important step. When the child has completed all the processes inside, it is also wrong. At this time, parents need to tell their children that "mom wants to create several standards for you". In the standard here, if the child makes the same mistake again next time, he will be severely punished.
Besides, Ma Bao should "keep his promise". Don't wait for the next time if the child makes the same mistake again, but the parents still haven't punished the child, so it's actually very difficult to see the child change. As the saying goes, "children learn from mistakes." Only by learning from his mistakes can he deepen his memory and control his behavior.