Profile: Chen Guo (female), born in Shanghai in February 1981, Ph.D. in Philosophy Department of Fudan University, visiting scholar at Regent College of UBC University in Vancouver, Canada; He studied under James D, Ph.D. in theology at Harvard University, and Evelyn, Ph.D. in psychology at the University of Chicago. At present, he is a teacher of the course of ideological and moral cultivation and legal foundation in the basic department of social science of Fudan University. In Fudan BBS, it has a high popularity, and it is the first of the three treasures of graduate apartment in North District-the chief.
Chen Guo's classic quotations
1. Loneliness and loneliness are not the same thing. Loneliness is a kind of solitude immersed in one's own world. Therefore, lonely people show a kind of harmony and nobility. Loneliness is a helpless nothingness, and it is a kind of helplessness. Loneliness is a kind of wealth. Only when people are lonely, their hearts will be really quiet and they will be very rational. Loneliness is not bitter, but a very high level.
2. What is loneliness? Loneliness is the solitude of its own world and a complete state of its own system. Loneliness is a lingering temperament brought by thoughts. The lonely man is extremely interesting and rich, because he is not forced to fall into loneliness, but his self-selected pastime. What is loneliness? Loneliness is forced loneliness, and it is a fear caused by nothingness. Loneliness is a disease, and the prescription is crowd, noise and socialization.
3. There is very little time for yourself. While surfing the Internet, your time belongs to anyone, but not to yourself, even to a lifeless machine. Every moment is occupied by something that doesn't belong to you.
4. What is useful is to create value, and what is interesting is to create happiness. It is difficult to be useful to be an interesting person. Curiosity doesn't mean gossip, and gossip comes from a boring and pale life. Curiosity is also emotional and polite. A good social relationship is important for people to respect each other.
5. The closer we get, the more shortcomings we will see. When two stones are thrown into the water, if they are too close, the water waves will interfere with each other. There are too many people around, so we are indifferent to the crowd. Many of us like to travel. Why? Because we want to find a place where there is no one to exile ourselves. Why should we avoid others? Because the lonely are the interesting. Loneliness is my own pastime.
6. Love lasts the longest, and those who are passionate will be widowed. What lasts is not love, but impulse. What we think is sentimental: I love both A and B. In fact, it should be: I love neither A nor B. Natural sentimental species, every paragraph is devoted to it, and it is bound to be rooted deeply. Without certainty, there will be no stability. Why sentimental? Don't know it. Because I don't know what kind of person I am, let alone what kind of person I like.
7. It is often not friends who get together. Friends don't agree with any of your opinions, showing their weak compromise. Even on any occasion, I can defend you and blindly follow the mediocrity. Such people are followers, not friends. Friends are very strict with you many times, even almost harsh, and they are more strict with you than your enemies. Because he can't bear to watch you continue to fall.
8. Some people treat Buddhism as well as religion. Nothing goes to the Three Treasures Hall, and nothing goes to see the Buddha. When you want to see the Buddha, you must be in trouble in your life and pray for blessing. In fact, this is also a kind of use. Use him when you need him, and don't use him when you don't need him. Cramming at the last minute reflects the utilitarian use of things by many people. I don't care how rich the spirit is, whether I am sharing spiritual wealth.
9. Beauty does not distinguish between fields and regions, and beauty can only be divided into truth and falsehood. Really beautiful, fake is ugly. Camouflage is the sorrow of human nature, and truth is the noblest beauty. There is a saying called truth, goodness and beauty. If there is no truth, goodness is hypocritical.
1. Jesus told us to love others as yourself, and to love others as yourself. To care for others, we must first know how to care for ourselves and love ourselves. Only by knowing what is good for ourselves can we know what is good for others. People who don't know how to love themselves don't know how to care for others. Only by learning to love yourself can we really learn to care for others.
11. A true friend, when you are with him, sometimes you don't need language communication. Language is the lowest level of communication between people. When people need to talk to communicate, your relationship is far away. The louder you speak, the farther your relationship is. When two people are very close, you know me and I know you. One look is enough, and one handshake is enough.
12. Loneliness is the enjoyment stolen from the crowd. She is proud and graceful, and she is completely free of spirit. Loneliness requires us to have time to be alone, so that we can be as I am, without dressing up or pretending at all, and without wearing a hat and smoking a cigarette to pretend to be deep.
13. It doesn't matter that true friends don't keep in touch often. After two or three years, it seems that the person on the other end of the phone has never left. The so-called friendship that needs constant contact to maintain is unreliable, because once they don't contact, they will break up.
14. Confrontation loses freedom. If you love her, you won't let her worry about you. Friends are useless luxuries. Together with friends, we can satisfy a peaceful, relaxed and happy atmosphere, without intention or language.
15. There are two kinds of treatments for people: one is that interests need to build contacts, which is just mutual utility (it is really useful, but there will be no real friends); There is also the mutual warmth of lonely people, which is a cheap communication.
16. People should keep a moderate, wide and appropriate distance, and distance produces beauty. If we get too close, we can't appreciate each other's beauty, and we can't appreciate the whole picture of what people do for me. The more shortcomings we will see each other. When two similar stones are thrown into the water, they will affect each other's beautiful ripples.
17. People are the most cruel to those closest to them, because they are too close to each other and often fail to see the advantages of each other.
18. If your love failed this time, it doesn't mean that your next love failed. But your love view is a failure, then your love will always be a failure.
19. Loneliness is a kind of fear caused by nothingness. She is often because she can't find a partner, but she can't be alone, so she is very anxious and bored. Loneliness is a disease. For a lonely person, socializing is what he needs most. Socialization is the mutual warmth of a group of lonely people.
2. Friends are luxuries, and luxuries are all impractical. You should be satisfied with this kind of thing. Because it can give you nothing but friendship.
21. A true friend is just two people. We are quiet, but not cold and cheerless. One more person will inevitably have topics that can't be discussed. This is a kind of distraction, which has changed from an unguarded to a social interaction. The world for three is too crowded.
22. Loneliness is a state of harmony. True loneliness is noble. When a person is lonely, his thoughts are free, and he is facing his true self. All human thoughts come from here. A lonely person, no matter what kind of environment he is in, can keep himself quiet and enjoy himself.
23. But how can love be just a feeling? It feels like coming fast and going fast, just like laughing and cursing. If love is simply a feeling that can be summed up, then why are so many of us still chasing love? What's so strange about it? Why should we cherish it?
24. Short-lived love is actually not true love in the essential sense, or if we have to use a word of love, it is the feeling of love ignited by a specific object.
25. playboy, that's not love, it's just a curiosity, a curiosity. They don't have the ability to love, they don't know how to appreciate beauty, they don't know how to appreciate the seemingly plain but very special beauty, and they don't know how to appreciate the long but warm beauty at all.
26. Everyone's basic idea is that the more people like me, the more attractive I am, the stronger I am and the more beautiful I am. However, this question is actually very debatable. Is this really the case? In fact, we often ignore the fact that when something needs us to prove, does this just prove that the thing itself is questionable?
27, Marx told us, under what circumstances can you produce love, you can get love. True love is not due to the improvement of your external standards, these things are too illusory, and these things are too easy to achieve, too easy to age. Marx told us that only love can sow love, and only trust can sow trust, so only giving can sow giving.
28. If love is likened to a kind of service, then most people in love seldom consider how to provide good service for others, how to solve problems for him, and how to always give him silent and firm support and care based on my deep understanding of him when he is deserted by others. We seldom provide such services, but we often need others to provide such services for us.
29. When we fall in love, we seldom think about such a question: How can I really love my girlfriend or boyfriend? How can we really care about him just right? What kind of feelings does he need? Can I provide it? Few people will consider such a question: how can I become more open-minded, more atmospheric and generous in the process of love, and let me know more about respect, tolerance and dedication.
3. Why is first love important? Because your love history was blank before this, but because you had your first love, your love prelude was opened. More importantly, your first lover's love attitude directly led to the emergence and formation of your love concept.
31. Deception is the greatest harm to people's emotions. In religion, no matter what religion, cheating is a felony. Because you are not only hurting others, but also rejecting others, rejecting others' true feelings and sincerity. At the same time, you have treated others as a retard and a fool while cheating. You don't treat each other as an equal.
32. There are so many things to learn that you will never learn thoroughly. What you need to learn all your life is love.
33. The best measure of friendship is that when you are with friends, your heart is satisfied, and what is higher is peace. There is nothing to do, nothing to say, and no enthusiasm to break the ice.
34, step by step is to win time, and a long stream of water can reach eternity. Helping others is a happy drive from the deep heart and conscience. Behind self-sacrifice, there must be a more serious demand for reward. Wasting time is the most unwise behavior, no matter what reason you explain it. Only rich people can give.
35. Loneliness is not a pose, but a state of mind. Silence is not necessarily loneliness, loneliness has no form, it is the spiritual self-wandering of the lonely. Pretending to be impetuous is a kind of vanity, in order to attract attention.
36. A friend is not a personal connection, a friend is not a playmate, a friend is not a drinker, a friend is not a person who comforts you when you need comfort, and a friend is not your spiritual shelter. Friends are not a group of people who are bombarded, but a lonely tribe, so it is often not friends who get together. Friends don't agree with or cater to any of your opinions or opinions, showing their weak compromise.
37. Think about yourself to generate wisdom, and reflect on yourself to show courage.
39. When I can't see everyone, I have a spiritual gaze on them, which is called missing.
4. If you treat your friend as a backup for your boyfriend and girlfriend, you insult friendship and love at the same time.
41. Friends are not for taking, but for giving. The more friends, the more love you have.
42. Beautiful people are everywhere, but few are beautiful.
43. He is lonelier than fireworks. Fireworks bloom invisibly and disappear into nothing, with a short release and endless loneliness.
44. Carnival is the loneliness of a group of people, and loneliness is the carnival of one person.
45. There is no need to share many things with others, and I don't want to get caught up in some conversations intentionally or unintentionally. People are mean. Friends of Chen Guo's Quotations from Fudan University
1. Harmony with the spirit of Japanese tea ceremony is in harmony with the environment, showing a proper respect does not affect one's silence.
2. Lonely people also like to meditate and talk with nature, and the communication with thoughts and souls is diffuse. Lonely people's fun is real fun, and pandering and imitating will only be boring chatting, complimenting and having fun.
3. You should know that in this world, you need to leave yourself a way out, even if you think you have done well. Therefore, although multifaceted life is not the mainstream, we might as well give it a try. Who knows when it will suddenly bring you different gains?
4. Loneliness is a prison without solace. Because lonely people are at a loss and anxious. Their thoughts are barren and barren, resulting in a sense of self-rejection.
5. Keep a distance between people, and distance produces beauty. The closer we get, the more shortcomings we will see. When two stones are thrown into the water, the water waves will interfere with each other if they are too close.
6. Friends are luxuries, and extravagant things are all impractical (golden beauties). You should be satisfied with this kind of thing, because a true friend can give you nothing but friendship.
7. There are two kinds of treatments for people. One is that interests need to build contacts, which is just mutual utility (it is really useful, but there will be no real friends); There is also the mutual warmth of lonely people, which is a cheap communication.
8. Carnival is the loneliness of a group of people, and loneliness is the carnival of one person.
9. Loneliness does not seek external things, but seeks self (that is, calmness)
1. Loneliness is a cage without comfort. Because lonely people are at a loss and anxious. Their thoughts went from barren and barren to self-loathing.
11. He is lonelier than fireworks. Fireworks bloom invisibly and disappear into nothing, with a short release and endless loneliness.
12. a lot of things can be seen clearly when put in time. Either go further and further, or get closer and closer.
13. The love of an old couple, like air, needs no verbal communication, but it is important and irreplaceable. Chen Guo's famous saying
14. How can a superficial and short communication have a profound understanding and know that you are only important for your value?
15. repent and face the reality. If you are wrong, you are wrong. Don't explain. Repent, but don't overdo it.
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