this kind of negative self-evaluation or self-awareness is a negative emotion that individuals have a low evaluation of their own abilities and qualities. This situation is often not a difference in understanding, but a difference in feeling. Its root is that people don't like to measure themselves by realistic standards or scales, but believe or assume that they should reach certain standards or scales. Such as "I should be like this" and "I should be like someone". Most of this pursuit is divorced from reality, which will only breed more troubles and doubts and make you more depressed and self-blaming. This is the enemy of success in life. Especially when I experience some failures or miss some opportunities, I constantly struggle with my emotions. Since ancient times, many people have been deeply distressed by this, and many people have been searching for ways to overcome their inferiority complex. What you should do is to adjust your mentality to make yourself confident. Only self-confidence can eliminate your timidity.
psychological compensation is used to overcome inferiority complex.
psychological compensation is a psychological adaptation mechanism. Individuals always have some deviations in the process of adapting to society, in order to get compensation. Psychologically speaking, this kind of compensation is actually a kind of "displacement", that is, to overcome their physical defects or psychological inferiority, and to develop their other strengths and advantages, to catch up with or pass others' psychological adaptation mechanism. It is precisely because of this psychological mechanism that inferiority complex has become the driving force for the success of many successful people and the "turbocharging" for them to surpass themselves. The bigger the "physical defects", the more they are.
Lincoln, the American president who liberated slaves, was not only an illegitimate child, but also an ugly face and a lack of manners. He was very sensitive to these defects. In order to compensate for these defects, he tried to draw strength from education and study hard to overcome his early lack of knowledge and ignorance. He studied in front of candlelight, light and water. Although his eyes sank deeper and deeper, the nutrition of knowledge fully compensated for his own defects. He finally got rid of his inferiority complex and became the president of the United States with outstanding contributions. Beethoven was deaf from childhood, but he overcame difficulties to write the beautiful Ninth Symphony. His famous saying-"Man, help yourself!" " Become the motto of many self-improvement people.
Under the influence of psychological compensation, inferiority complex has the resilience to make people move forward. Because of inferiority, people will be clearly and even excessively aware of their own shortcomings, which will prompt them to study the strengths of others and make up for their own shortcomings, thus sharpening their character, and a strong character is the psychological basis for success.
Inferiority can promote people to success. The humanist Witt Poku pointed out that there is a spirituality in everyone's heart, and with this spirituality, people can accomplish many great achievements. This spirituality is a force hidden in everyone's heart, that is, the power to maintain individuality and resist foreign aggression. It is the "dignity" and "personality" of people. In order to maintain their dignity and personality, people require themselves to overcome their inferiority complex and self-defeating. Therefore, embarrassing factors can often become a springboard for developing themselves. A person's true value and morality depend on whether he can transcend from the trap set by himself, and only we can really save us. The so-called "God only helps those who can save themselves".
A strong man is not born, nor is he without weakness. The reason why a strong man becomes a strong man is that he is good at overcoming his weakness. When Pele, the king of the first generation, first arrived at the most famous Santos football team in Brazil, he was afraid that the big stars would look down on him and he was so nervous that he stayed up all night. He was a top player on the court, but he doubted himself for no reason and feared others. Later, he managed to forget himself on the court, concentrate on playing football and keep a calm mind. Since then, he has scored more than 1, goals with unstoppable momentum. The process of Bailey's victory over inferiority tells us: Don't doubt yourself and belittle yourself, as long as you go forward bravely and put it into action, you will surely succeed. Over time, it will be freed from tension, fear and inferiority. Therefore, unwilling to feel inferior, making an effort to be strong, and making positive compensation are good medicines to treat inferiority.
Psychological compensation is a mechanism that enables people to turn defeat into victory. If it is used properly, it will help to expand the realm of life. However, we should pay attention to two points: first, we should not aim too high and pursue the impossible compensation goal; Second, don't be driven by anger. Only positive psychological compensation can motivate yourself to achieve higher goals in life.
Face failure with optimism
In the process of self-compensation, we must also face failure correctly. There are few smooth sailing and many twists and turns on the road of life. Success is made up of countless failures. As Walter, the founder of General Electric Company of the United States, said, "The road to success is to double the number of your failures." But failure is, after all, a "negative stimulus" to people, which always leads to unhappiness, depression and inferiority. So, how to face it? How to free yourself? It becomes the key to overcome inferiority and move towards self-confidence.
In the face of setbacks and failures, only an optimistic and positive attitude is the right choice. First, be tenacious and not give up pursuing because of setbacks; Second, pay attention to adjusting and reducing the original "goal" that is divorced from reality and change the strategy in time; Third, use "partial success" to motivate yourself; Fourthly, adopt self-psychological adjustment method to improve psychological endurance.
If you don't become a "frequent loser", you must be good at digging and using your own "resources". Although sometimes individuals can't change the "arrangement" of "environment", no one can deprive them of their rights as "self-masters". It should be said that today's society has greatly increased the development opportunities in this area. As long as you dare to try and work hard, you will certainly make a difference. Qu Yuan's exile is Li Sao, and Sima Qian's imprisonment is Historical Records, because they are not discouraged or inferior at any time, and they have perseverance! With this, we will get rid of the shackles of the predicament and move towards the glory of life.
In addition, as a modern person, one should be psychologically prepared for failure. The world is full of opportunities for success and the possibility of failure. Therefore, we should constantly improve our ability to cope with setbacks and interference, adjust ourselves, enhance social adaptability, and firmly believe that failure is the mother of success. If we can "comprehend" after each failure and regard each failure as a prelude to success, then we can turn negative into positive and inferiority into confidence.
Build self-confidence with practical actions
Conquer fear and self-abasement. You can't just talk about it in fantasy, but you must put it into practice and see it in action. The quickest and most effective way to build self-confidence is to do what you are afraid of until you succeed. The specific methods are as follows:
1. Highlight yourself and choose the front seat
In all kinds of parties and classes, the back seats are always filled first, and most people who occupy the back seats hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". And the reason why they are afraid of being noticed is lack of confidence.
sitting in the front can build confidence. Because you must have enough courage and courage to be the first person, to be the first person, and to put yourself in the public eye. Over time, this behavior becomes a habit, and inferiority becomes self-confidence in a subtle way. In addition, sitting in a conspicuous position will enlarge your proportion in the vision of leaders and teachers, enhance the frequency of repeated appearances, and play a role in strengthening yourself. Try this as a rule, and try to sit forward from now on. Although sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, remember that everything about success is conspicuous.
2. Open your eyes and face others squarely
Eyes are the windows of the soul. A person's eyes can reflect personality, reveal emotions and convey subtle information. Dare not face others, which means inferiority, timidity and fear; Avoiding other people's eyes reflects a dark and open mind. Facing others squarely means telling each other: "I am honest and aboveboard;" I respect you very much and like you. " Therefore, facing others squarely is a reflection of positive attitude, a symbol of self-confidence and a display of personal charm.
3. Hold your head high and walk quickly
Many psychologists believe that people's walking posture and pace are related to their psychological state. Lazy posture and slow pace are manifestations of depression, and they are a reflection of their unpleasant feelings towards themselves, their work and others. If you look closely, you will find that the movements of the body are the result of mental activities. Those who have been hit and rejected are dragging their feet and lack confidence. Conversely, by changing the posture and speed of walking, it is helpful to adjust the mood. To show extraordinary confidence, you should walk faster than the average person. Speeding up walking is like telling the whole world: "I want to go to an important place and do something very important." A brisk and agile pace and a high posture will bring people a clear state of mind, make them feel inferior and escape, and breed self-confidence.
4. Practice speaking in public
Speaking in public requires great courage, which is an important way to cultivate and exercise self-confidence. Around us, there are many people with sharp thinking and high talent, but they can't give full play to their strengths to participate in the discussion. It is not that they don't want to participate, but that they lack confidence.
In public, taciturn people think, "My opinion may be worthless. If I say it, others may feel stupid. I'd better not say anything. Besides, others may know more than me, and I don't want them to know that I am so ignorant." These people often make a vague promise to themselves: "Wait until another time." But they know very well that they can't fulfill this promise. Every time he is silent, he is poisoned by a lack of confidence again, and he will lose confidence more and more.
On the positive side, if you try your best to speak, you will increase your confidence. No matter what kind of meeting you attend, take the initiative to speak every time. Many people who were originally dull or stuttered became confident by practicing speaking in public, such as Bernard Shaw, tanaka kakuei and Demosthenes. Therefore, speaking in public is the "vitamin" of confidence.
5. Learn to smile
Most people know that laughter can give people confidence, and it is a good medicine to cure the lack of confidence. But there are still many people who don't believe this, because they never try to smile when they are afraid.
Real laughter can not only cure one's own bad mood, but also immediately dissolve the hostile mood of others. If you sincerely smile at a person Zhan Yan, he will have a good impression on you, which is enough to make you confident. As a poem says: "Smile is the rest of the tired, the day of the depressed, the sunshine of the sad, and the best nutrition of nature."