I have encountered such a case:
There is a student who can't adapt as soon as he enters school. A month later, he still couldn't keep up with his studies. The teacher talked to the mother of the child very responsibly. As a result, my mother said that I didn't really want to have children at all. Later, my in-laws told me that as long as I have children, I don't care about anything else. I also think that although I have children, I have to have my own life! The teacher froze! Told my colleagues, and we stayed!
What logic is this! ?
Needless to say, there are not a few people who have this idea.
Traveling in a circle of friends, saying that we should maintain the world of two people.
Go to sing, go shopping and say relax.
Friends don't pull the party, saying they can't lose their social life.
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They are eloquent-they can't lose their lives because of their children!
This sentence is actually very correct. Don't lose yourself because of children, because of who and because of what. I agree with both hands!
It's just-there are many behaviors that are actually eating, drinking and having fun under the banner of not losing yourself, which I despise! You can play if you want. You are an adult and have the right to personal freedom. No one and the law forbid you to go, but don't use such a grandiose banner! Isn't this a trick played by three-year-olds?
As parents, it is as important as your own life to have basic care for your children, minimum companionship and early education for your children!
Indeed, with children, basically all personal time is occupied, from the influence of newborns on sleep, to accompanying reading, chatting and playing while growing up, and then to the transfer of reading and learning.
Time spent playing mobile phones, partying with friends and playing drama is gone. In the words of a friend, you can watch one episode of TV series a day when you have no children, and you can't finish watching one episode a week after you have children!
In fact, you have nothing to lose, because children are actually a continuation of your life! Think about it this way. Are you balanced? Humans have been expecting immortality since Qin Shihuang. In fact, children are the panacea for immortality!
However, nothing can go to extremes. How many parents are unreliable and only care about their own games, how many parents are indifferent to their children.
Too busy at work to spend time with children? Resign!
Children stay up late? Hug, pat and sleep!
Friends gathering? Don't go!
Husband wants you to accompany him to the movies for dinner? Forget it, I'm not interested without children!
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In fact, no matter whether men or women have children, they should not lose their goals in life, let alone give up their efforts in the name of children, as Zhao Xing (net name "a maverick cat") wrote in an article. Especially mom, I added this sentence.
I believe this "famous saying": mothers study hard and children make progress every day.
Around us, there are many such people who have accelerated their growth because of having children.
"Anne flowers" recorded her children's English learning blog, which unexpectedly created her new career.
"Ji Li Guala" is a post-80s couple who used to work in Google. They created it after leaving their jobs because they couldn't find an enlightenment product suitable for teaching their daughters English (an APP that can help parents aged 0-6 to complete their children's English enlightenment).
Uncle Kai tells a story, which is a story that Uncle Kai tells his daughter. Later, I found that many people liked it, and it grew up and became his new career.
Even Han Han, who is rebellious and unruly, founded babyONE, a children's wear brand for her daughter.
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Even myself. Although I have been a primary school teacher for more than ten years, I can't say that I have no experience, but I feel that the biggest progress is after having children. In fact, I am a person who is indifferent to fame and fortune-whether I pretend to be lofty or not enterprising, I am not that character anyway. But after having children, I have more pursuits in my career. Because I want to create better conditions for children, I also want to be their role model.
So I think that after having children, parents undoubtedly need to give up a lot, pay a lot and sacrifice a lot; What we should never do is to lose our pursuit and build ourselves. Because-what's the word? It seems that "children need not only nannies, but also role models." This role model-is yourself!