I have a lot to say about this topic, you can just read the content before the dividing line.
Actually, I have experienced a similar situation. I once stuttered, and have been severely depressed and severely autistic for the past 10 years since junior high school. I have not spoken all year round. Once I speak, even if I only need to say three words, I will be highly panicked. , Stuttering, stammering and unable to respond what to say. Later, after giving more than ten speeches in three years, I finally became the fixed host of the unit.
You can do the following 3 daily exercises.
The first mental exercise: seize the time when you are sitting on the rostrum but not speaking, and scan the venue with your eyes (eyes should be confident, deep, atmospheric, and sunny. The most taboo is that the eyes are too nervous and too nervous. Exaggeration or bitterness and hatred), you must not be the most embarrassing person, and you must make everyone dare not look at you all the time, at least they dare not look at you with provocative eyes. This is to practice aura and courage. During the speech, you should keep scanning your eyes, turning your head and scanning almost every sentence or two. This will attract everyone's attention and also prevent you from seeing eyes that may affect your mentality. In addition, you can also practice in the audience seat, take photos at the venue at the right time, go out to answer the phone or go to the toilet, come and go freely and naturally, don't be nervous or reserved. Practice it over and over again until you are completely understated, adaptable, and dismissive of these "attention-grabbing" behaviors you do.
The second speech practice: This is the most important part. You need to find a lot of time to practice speaking alone in private. Sometimes I practice the speech and hosting in a few days on the road or in bed, and I will Record and listen repeatedly, correct pronunciation, pronunciation and length of speech word by word, and refine the tone and emphasis sentence by sentence. This link is very important and must be done more often. Mainly by thinking about what tone, look, and aura should be used in different sentences to improve speaking skills. For example, sometimes criticism should be kind, some criticism should be serious, some praise should be passionate, and some praise should be subtle, and how to speak well. Even more popular. There are also pronunciation skills. Sometimes you have to relax your whole body and speak softly with your voice. Sometimes you have to tighten your voice and even use your abdominal muscles slightly. Sometimes you need to speak softly and easy-going, and sometimes you need to speak word by word. Pay attention to your aura and be serious but don't use force in your pronunciation and don't speak too fast. Various speaking situations must be rehearsed word for word. During the practice, students can also learn to deal with knots in speech, misspelled words, forgotten words, etc. Your speaking aura will gradually strengthen, and you will be able to cope with various episodes with ease. If your difficulty is really serious, you can write down the speech first, practice reading it in advance, and play freely at the same time. You can even write the content into the manuscript, but you must memorize the theme and idea, and pretend to read it when the time comes. Just think about it and play freely for a while, and try to increase the proportion of free play repeatedly in practice. The biggest advantage of doing this is that it is safe. At worst, you can just read the whole thing.
Third, learn to prepare in advance. Before speaking, you must summarize the speech outline, speech ideas and topic logic chain, prepare evidence, classic cases, famous quotes, etc. in advance, especially prepare a few classic sentences As the finishing touch, words can not only effectively deepen the impression, but also enhance personal charm.
The following is a long story, mainly about my personal process from not being able to respond to two or three words to finally becoming a fixed host in my unit.
First of all, let me briefly talk about my personal growth experience. I started to suffer from severe depression in junior high school, accompanied by severe autism. Even if I reflect on it, I can’t speak clearly (and I can’t even notice it. I can only understand it by listening to the recording). You will find) and there are many wrong sentences, missing structures, and confusing language logic, so others can't understand it. It's still like this at work. Even when working with colleagues ***, they don't speak. Even when they step aside to give way to their own unit and the "top leaders" of the unit, they pass by each other without even the consciousness to say hello. In the eyes of others, he is basically a "nerd" and a "freak".
When I was working for eight months, the street where my unit was located held a speech contest, and all units, companies and communities in the jurisdiction were invited to participate. There are obviously people among my colleagues who are good at giving speeches, but I don’t know whether the boss doesn’t pay attention to this matter or whether he wants me to exercise with good intentions and insists on sending me.
I never thought that I would pass any round of the competition. I had long denied myself. I felt that I would be scorned by the judges as soon as I came on stage. I also knew that after the speech competition, For a while after I came down, I must have been the butt of their jokes.
I was not confident enough to prepare for the first round, but I was selected as the second player in the preliminary round draw. When I came on stage, I was shaking all over. I lowered my head when I stood up and walked onto the podium. When I stood up, I still had my head lowered. I couldn’t think of a word. The head of the judging panel sighed in disgust and asked the staff to hand over my manuscript. Come up and ask me to pick up the manuscript and read it without any tone, then hurriedly returned to my seat.
I never raised my head during the whole process. My mind was full of self-denial as always. I also imagined that I was being laughed at for being so cowardly and incompetent as a young man on such a big occasion. I was also ridiculed along with my work unit. The more I thought about it, the sadder and inferior I became. This was also my inherent reaction after seeing only one person and saying only one sentence on any occasion in the past ten years - thinking about how embarrassing I was. Inferiority and complete denial of oneself.
But then I discovered that some of these contestants lacked common sense, and some were very unprofessional and just went through the motions. They read the manuscript intermittently, emotionlessly, listlessly, and even two people even The dialect is used. Moreover, several people's manuscripts were randomly downloaded from the Internet, and the place names in the content were actually from other places. But unlike me, they were able to liven up the atmosphere by making jokes or making fun of themselves, causing constant laughter and applause. It can be said that these people have the worst speech content, but they have a better mentality and atmosphere. I can't even tell whether they are cheerful or shameless.
Suddenly I no longer felt so inferior. I thought to myself: There are so many co-authors who perform worse than me! I asked the staff if I could leave early if I had something urgent to do, and the staff said it was OK as long as you had already given a speech. Actually, what's my emergency? I just want to get back on my feet and be better prepared to play again. I can't remember any other time in my life when I was so proactive and eager to show myself in front of others. I went home and closed the doors and windows, took a deep breath for the first time, moved my shoulders and mouth, and tried to read the manuscript with the posture I had in my mind for a speech. At the age of 24, I was surprised to find that my voice could be so bright and loud. ! But after all, I haven’t moved my mouth for so many years, and I always read and pronounce it wrong, or even mispronounce a sentence repeatedly. There is a 23-word sentence that I read 17 times before I read it correctly for the first time, and the tone and emotional color are still a mess. . But I practiced it repeatedly, and I could practice this sentence for more than an hour. Then I thought about the tone I should use sentence by sentence, the stress on those words, etc., and practiced it over and over again. I practiced it while lying in bed, brushing my teeth, taking a bath, eating, going to the toilet, and riding an electric bike in my head.
I was a little excited when it came to the semi-finals. For so many years, I have been embarrassing my parents, relatives and friends no matter what the occasion. And today, I can finally stop being embarrassed! I can't compete with the masters, but I think there is still room for comparison with these people! So, with my heart beating violently, I walked upright to the podium and repeated one sentence in my heart: I can do it! I can do it!
My voice was still shaking at the beginning, but with enough proficiency in advance, I managed to get off to a decent start. After a minute or two, I got used to it and continued my impassioned speech. Just as I longed for, my speech received warm applause. When the speech ended and I took a step to the right and bowed, I was so excited that I almost cried - at the age of 24, after more than ten years, I finally have a baby. There is no shame in the occasion! For a person who has suffered from severe depression, autism, and low self-esteem for many years, the inner feelings are indescribable.
Sure enough, I was still not eliminated this time. After returning home, I felt like I had been reborn. For the first time, I opened the curtains and stood in front of the window and looked out. Before that, I had never dared to go near the window where people would see and notice me. I recollected the whole process of the speech over and over again, recollecting every word. Although I still felt that there were many areas that needed improvement, the confidence in it made me linger. I recollected it over and over again, after eating and at work. , lying in bed still thinking about it. This is an important point. You should not deny yourself because of the shortcomings in your speech. Instead, you should actively look for problems, repeatedly think about how to improve them, and practice repeatedly to keep improving and prepare for the future.
This experience made me deeply understand a lot of things:
In fact, there are three aspects to the inability to speak in public. The first is stupidity. The key lies in the second and third points. Three points: lack of preparation, lack of confidence and courage. Silly mouth, you can prepare in advance.
Problems with courage and self-confidence are all caused by one's own heart. As said on the Internet: As long as you are not embarrassed, others will be embarrassed. In the same way, as long as you are not nervous, no matter what situation you are in, you can be " "The most handsome guy" is like those people who were just going through the motions in the preliminary round. They performed so poorly, but they could face it with a smile. They even joked with everyone when they returned to their seats after giving a speech. Even if the content of the speech was terrible, they were charming. Full and lively atmosphere.
From here on, I will add it again today, a few years later.
Because of this unexpected performance, the leader also strengthened my training and training, and arranged some tasks related to public speaking. For example, I gave two classes to more than 40 people; I once participated in a personal There were 15 people participating in a plan consultation meeting, 14 of whom were at the "big boss" level. I was the only young man with no position, and my leader only came forward to sit in. I was solely responsible for the exchange and discussion; after 3 years of work, Now I basically don’t get stage fright when seeing crowds of people. There was a speech. There were dozens of business representatives and dozens of government leaders sitting in the audience. There were not too many speakers but too many speakers. There were only 5 speakers in a day, and I was the fifth to appear at the finale. I received the loudest applause, and many people took out their mobile phones to take pictures of me, which was not the case when the other four contestants were delivering their speeches.
In addition, I also had an unexpected gain, that is, I found the secret of pronunciation without any teacher, and I can produce various types of advertising sounds, such as "A drop of Taibaijiu, the fragrance of ten miles of grass and trees" with a steady and rich voice. ", or the youthful and lively "XXX is on sale!..." in the shopping mall. This discovery allows me to make a very nice voice when giving a speech, and through repeated practice in advance, I can master what kind of words to use in different content situations. The emphasis and tone are the best, and my ability to speak in public improved rapidly, so much so that my employer asked me to be the host of various programs and activities. Once we hosted an event, and the nearly 50-meter-wide auditorium was filled with four and a half rows of government leaders and business CEOs, as well as hundreds of spectators. The leader specially invited a professional female host. As for why "Since "Why did the host not invite a couple but only one?" Everyone already knows it. Sure enough, the male host leader designated me as the host. After it was over, my girlfriend told me excitedly: The audience all thought I was the host of the TV station, and they kept praising me and saying that this man did a great job hosting, and his voice was so comfortable to listen to! In fact, I heard these compliments from the audience myself. I completely overshadowed my professional partner... which made my partner say sourly afterwards, "You are quite professional. Do you want to consider coming to our place?"
In fact, in terms of strength and skills, they are definitely much better than me, but I have been preparing for this hosting for a long time. I got the program plan and hosting words at least one month in advance, and revised them repeatedly. I have been thinking about it over and over again, and I am still thinking about it like I usually eat, drink, and have sex. I even participated in a lot of planning including the construction and layout of the stage, so when it came time to actually go on stage, this stage part-time job was as interesting to me as my bed. She felt familiar and relaxed, completely outshining her on the spot. This made me understand more deeply the importance of preparation in advance. Therefore, the more stage frightened you are, the more preparation you need in advance.
The key point of my advice to you is: practice more when you are alone. You can even use the sound effects of the bathroom when taking a shower. No one in the unit can go to the stairs or elevator after working overtime. Play to your heart's content, the sound effects in these places are very conducive to connection, and then revisit and ponder over and over the more satisfying parts. This will not only further master the skills, but also make yourself more confident and magnanimous, just like a calligraphy competition. , if you practice diligently, I don’t believe that you who have practiced for 5 years in advance are not as good as a person who has just learned calligraphy - even if the other person has calligraphy talent, you can definitely completely overshadow him!
The most fearful thing is that we are nervous every time, but we only think about being embarrassed and feeling inferior. Then when we are nervous and things are over, we just don’t care, and there is nothing more to do. This will go on forever. Failure to improve will not only lead to loss of self-confidence, but also form a vicious cycle. The approach I advocate is to find opportunities to use the skills you have practiced emphatically, and use actual combat as a test. Even if you don't perform well, don't think about embarrassing yourself, but focus on how you have performed and improved this time. What has been achieved and what needs to be consolidated. Then continue to practice and improve.
When you only have confidence and appreciation for your own speech recording, this is the bottleneck of self-study. You need to further improve yourself by comparing yourself with better and more professional people. Look more at professional People host speeches, and even repeat news broadcasts and high-quality advertisements sentence by sentence along with web pages to improve their own shortcomings. You can even find opportunities to learn their timbres. Grandmaster Bruce Lee liked to challenge others in his early days and failed repeatedly. But the important thing is that he would carefully summarize each time afterwards, absorb the strengths of others, and improve his own shortcomings.
Perhaps a small number of people feel that doing so is too troublesome, and they are even afraid that if word gets out, others will regard them as crazy. But this is not the case. The fact is that when you succeed, others will not laugh at you for the hard work you put in. They even don’t know how much hard work you put into it. For a person who is not doing his job properly, some people will say that he is crazy, but for a person who has made progress, some people will only say that he is motivated, hard-working, and excellent. Once I was busy until 2 o'clock in the morning, thinking that no one was in the office, so I rehearsed loudly for a while the host speech for a few days later. Some of it was mispronounced, some were out of tune, and some were obsessed with it. I didn't expect that the whole process would be interrupted by others. heard it. I felt very embarrassed when I found out, but the stories that came out in those days were how inspiring I was and how serious I was about my work. Even everyone greeted me with more respect than before. Who in the world would laugh at the qualities of perseverance and hard work? If so, then it is he who is mentally ill, not you.
After some time, I will go to the city to participate in a speech contest. This competition can be said to be full of experts, including senior Chinese teachers who graduated from prestigious schools, as well as professionals with literary, artistic and broadcasting skills. But despite this, I no longer have stage fright. I don’t care where I get. I only care about what I can see and learn this time.