In life, although some people don't talk much, they are always comfortable and persuasive when talking to others, while others are eloquent but boring.
Many times, people who can really speak are not right or wrong between words, but know how to speak to make people comfortable.
The impression a person brings to others is both good and bad. Besides appearance and manners, speaking is also an important performance.
Mr. Zhu Ziqing once expounded the three realms of words for the world in "There are three realms of words". The highest state is forgetting words, followed by being cautious, taciturn and slow, and finally being sweet or sweet. Among them, forgetting words is something that the world has not done. Even if Zen says hang your mouth on the wall, it can't stop people from talking. Therefore, being cautious and taciturn has become the key to people's life.
People once thought it was important to be able to speak, but they gradually found that listening is sometimes more important than speaking.
If you observe carefully, you will find that people who often talk are actually very good at listening to other people's words and finding out the problems, so as to solve problems through words and make life or work smoother.
There is a line in the movie "Eternal Sunshine of a Beautiful Mind": "Talking nonstop is not necessarily communication."
It can be seen that enough is enough, and more words may not be useful. Only by listening carefully to other people's opinions can we gain more knowledge.
China has a record of being cautious and independent since ancient times. Zhu Yuanzhang, the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty, and Zeng Guofan, an important official of the Qing Dynasty, both had their own unique views on prudence, especially Zeng Guofan, who realized the importance of prudence through personal experience.
This stems from Zeng Guofan's father's birthday. Zheng Xiaoshan is here for his birthday. He is Zeng Guofan's hometown. At that time, Zeng Guofan had just entered imperial academy and got carried away. He boasted with Xiao Shan, and some said nothing, which annoyed Zheng Xiaoshan, so Zheng Xiaoshan left angrily.
Afterwards, Zeng Guofan noticed his mistake and was very annoyed. From then on, he began to pay attention to his words and deeds, leaving a classic sentence "Don't do it with your heart, don't say it with your mouth", and also warned future generations to be careful what they say.
Being cautious is a kind of wisdom, so it is generally considered that smart people are more reticent.
There is an old saying: "People who can talk want to talk, while those who can't talk scramble to talk." This not only reflects the right or wrong of a person's speech, but also reflects a person's cultivation.
Mr. Lu Xun once said in the article "On how to be afraid of people's words" that there is Longquan on the tongue, but killing people does not see blood. It can be seen that the power of words is powerful.
It is often said that it takes us a year to learn to speak, but it takes us a lifetime to learn to shut up, which is probably the same reason.
Speaking is an art and a person's accomplishment. Everything you say will determine the height of your life. Therefore, don't say what you think, you must think twice, learn to be cautious and learn to listen.
As a popular TV series said before: You can have different opinions, but you have no right to throw bricks.