1. "The opposite of total concentration is numbness, no thinking, no feeling, and a mechanical and unconscious life. I believe that many of the pains of ourselves and our relatives and friends around us are actually caused by our numbness. Because of numbness, you can maintain this relationship that is not beneficial to you, and may even be harmful, and completely ignore your own misfortune.
Because of numbness, you will ignore what your body is saying to you for many years. If you ignore the warning signs of chronic indigestion or gastric ulcers, you will only take them as gastrointestinal tablets. It will not be until years later when the doctor tells you that you are terminally ill that you will smoke, drink, or take drugs. Ignore your coughing day and night, your mood is unstable, your energy is up and down, and you don’t know that you are committing suicide slowly or hurting everyone who loves you.
It is because you are numb that you may know that you are in an unfair situation. But they still endure it silently without any resistance.”
I am convinced that most people live in numbness. They are too busy running around, don’t pay attention to their own health, don’t pay attention to the feelings of their families, and don’t care about their bodies. I don't care about my family's feelings. In their world, there is constant pursuit, constant possession, and constant toil. They think happiness is far away, but they don't know that life requires living in the present.
2. “In the United States, we live in a culture that only values ??action over substance. It’s no wonder we are so poor at creating real moments, let alone being content with each moment. . We always care about the stimulation brought by constant activities, and are indifferent to substantive issues. We often judge others or ourselves based on external achievements, but forget what we are in essence. Such people. We are a group of movers and achievers who make waves.”
?This is the so-called American spirit. In fact, it’s not just the United States. Aren’t we in China currently in such a whirlpool and strange circle?
3. "I am unhappy because I have not allowed myself to experience many real moments, those moments when I am doing nothing, those moments when I am not busy with my work goals, those moments when I simply It’s just a moment to stay somewhere.”
“I believe with all my heart that as long as I can achieve my wish, I will be happy. Now I have what I longed for before, but I also understand: Even if I get more, I will be happy. You will not be happy, if you feel it is not enough now, you will never be enough. "Yes, desire is too greedy. When we reach our past goals, we will write down another goal. When we are not satisfied with the past. By the time, we will not be satisfied with the future. If we don’t adjust our mindset, we will never feel enough and unhappy.
4. "What is the difference between happiness and satisfaction? Satisfaction is basically a kind of spiritual satisfaction. It means completing something for which you have done something - a plan, a conversation, A good meal." "Happiness is more about emotional satisfaction." "The only source of happiness is to have many real moments in life." "If we can bring ourselves back to the present and concentrate on the things at hand, we will be happy. Then it will come to you without asking for anything.”
Thich Nhat Hanh, the world-famous Vietnamese Zen master, wrote a profoundly inspiring book, "One Step, One Lotus", in which he wrote: The meaning of life is only You can find it from the present moment. What has passed is gone, and what has come cannot be pursued. If we do not pursue the present, we will never be able to detect the pulse of life. ”
? “If you don’t learn to enjoy everything you already have, then no matter how much you have, it won’t bring you happiness. ”
?5. “If you don’t know how to cherish everything you have and yourself now, and can’t get happiness from it, then even if you have more in the future, you won’t be happy. If you don’t know how to make the most of it, Enjoy the 500 yuan in your hand, even if you have 5,000 or even 5 million, you still can't enjoy it; if you can't get much pleasure from taking a walk with your significant other near home, it's useless even to go to Hawaii or Paris. I'm not saying that more money and more leisure activities can't make life more comfortable; in fact, life will be more comfortable because of it, but you won't be happy because of it, because money and leisure activities don't have this effect. Only you, and then learning to live in the present and keep pace with the times, can make yourself happy. ”
?Yes, your happiness has nothing to do with how much money you have, because it doesn’t matter where you travel or how far you go. To make yourself happy, you really have to start from the heart and follow your heart. When happy people do happy things together, your heart will be happy no matter where you are.
?6. Only children are masters of happiness. Children are experts in creating real moments. They have not learned to suppress their joy, so they can enjoy themselves as much as they want.
They have the ability to explore and taste pure surprises from every bite of food, every flower, every cloud, and every experience. Their ability can satisfy them.
One of the founders of the Decision Institute, Koffman, has a wonderful saying: "Our worries are not born with them, but we learn them from time to time." ”
We must have the power to act and the power to simply live.
The more I tried to do something to be happy, the less happy I became.
?You must be stronger than the mountain before you can conquer the mountain; completely surrender to the power of water and let it be stronger than you, and you don’t have to exert any more force. In fact, being completely relaxed can be just as powerful as pushing forward.
?7. The formula of the real moment: concentrate on the current experience or feeling; break the illusion of individual separation, fully connect and communicate with the people, things, and things you face; then, fully integrate yourself Invest in spiritual communication, and now you should be enjoying real moments. Real moments are everywhere in your daily life.
?The time is coming when you need to keep doing things, and you will naturally find people who need help, or plans that need to be started. In fact, you have been shouting that you want to have more time to enjoy life. But you will never do such a thing. There is a mystery here-getting appreciation and encouragement, especially if you find that you have achieved a lot and really helped a lot of people, this will make you tend to overwork, and even more so. strengthen. People who are overworked will appear very nervous once they are free. They will feel very uncomfortable facing the air and want to fill it up quickly. They are the kind of people who spend a day at home, twice in the city, or are busy doing work for their schedules. For those who are prepared, I cannot spend a quiet, unarranged vacation doing nothing. On the contrary, they will definitely visit every museum or every hotel, must-visit attractions, or read 5 books. , if you are this kind of person, it is likely that whenever you are at home, your TV or mobile phone is already powered on because you cannot stand the silence of a room.
?The result of overwork will become a vicious cycle. Your answer is similar to mine, so you feel empty. You feel that you have to work non-stop to fill your emptiness. When you work non-stop , there is no free time, because you never stop, so you can't experience any real moment. You will fill your hole with non-stop work in the future, and the vicious circle will never end. Keep going.
?Yes, some people can’t always find themselves and don’t know what they need, but they need a sense of accomplishment, and their sense of accomplishment must come from the praise of others, so they have to keep Work cannot allow one to be idle, cannot enjoy loneliness, and cannot touch the real self. They have always received a kind of appreciation from the outside. Such people cannot experience the real moment because they lack this ability and can only use helplessness. Keep busy without stopping, and escape from the inner dialogue with yourself in the busyness.
8. People who like cynicism, under their armor of disdain and bitter sarcasm, I see are lonely souls longing for the moment of truth.
9. Behind the cynical appearance, there is actually a painful heart and hopeless anger towards today's world.
10. If we do not have our own life goals, it is easy to replace them with other people's goals... Knowing your own life goals is the key to a long life.
?11. People who love to criticize always put themselves out of the situation and become a bystander.