1. The way you talk to your child determines his attitude towards you. If you use a respectful tone, he will respect you. If you don't respect him, he won't respect you.
2. Educate children to be brave when they are young and wise when they grow up; In addition to loving children, we should also let them have respect and awe. Respect comes from fear, and he will respect only if he fears first. If he is not afraid, he will not respect.
3./kloc-before 0/2 years old, your words are gold in the eyes of children; /kloc-after 0/2 years old, your words are rubbish to children. He grew up and listened to them for more than ten years. He understands everything you say. What should I do if there is a dispute between two children in a second-child family?
4, don't focus on caring for the small, but educate the boss.
5. children should be managed well before they are 6 years old, otherwise they will not be managed well in the future. When the child is 4 years old, you refuse him, and at most he rolls on the ground. When you refuse him when he is older, he will use extreme methods.
If a child is not treated well since childhood, you can't expect him to treat the society well when he grows up.
7. Children's problems must be related to parents' education. When a child has a problem, the problem already exists.
8. Psychological development has a critical period, and so do children. /kloc-before the age of 0/2, it is called attachment period and needs family education. 12- 18 years old is called adolescent attachment period, which requires social participation.
9. Before the child 1 year-old, even before the child is 3 years old, it is best for the mother to raise it herself to obtain the psychological capital of the child.
10, some people are grumpy and easily excited; Some people are peaceful and generous; Before-and people's early upbringing is owed; It must be appropriate to raise a person at an early age.
1 1, children's psychological growth is more important than intellectual education. I'd rather my daughter didn't get into a famous university than live happily. So, don't ask your children how they are after school. I asked him how he was doing.
12, we must follow four principles for unreasonable demands of children. Don't fight, don't scold, don't preach and don't go away.
13, the real parenting process is definitely nagging, which is called family parenting. In the case of family support and non-family support, speech development, social development and cognitive ability will be different.
14, adolescent children, education methods must be changed, and there are some words to say; It is enough for him to know some mistakes, there is no need to force him to admit it. Adolescent children rarely admit their mistakes; Don't argue with him, in the end he will be forced to disrespect you.
15, in early years, the more bitter you eat, the better your endurance; Especially if you have a son at home, you have to suffer more. A rebellious son is often caused by your obedience to him.
16, children who are not respected will not know how to respect others.
17, when eating, don't indulge him just because he is a child, let him eat first; Tell him that he can't move until his elders move chopsticks. A child who is hungry for an hour will do nothing, but it will make him know how to respect his elders.
18, frustration tolerance is related to willpower, and the cultivation of willpower depends not on intelligence, but on physical strength, so let the child do more manual work when he is young.
19, the score is very important, but it is the teacher's task, and as his parents, your task is to pay attention to his all-round development; Pay attention to how he is doing today and whether he has encountered any difficulties.
20. Personality can really determine fate, and personality is a social behavior pattern formed by people.
2 1. Let children participate in important events at home, regardless of their learning status, which is conducive to cultivating their sense of responsibility. It won't hurt to tell him what happened at home and listen to his opinion.
22. If your child's friends are not very good, you can ask your child, "What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of your friends?" Instead of forcing him not to associate with him, let him take the initiative to pay attention to the advantages and disadvantages of his friends.
23. In fact, no one wants their children to become "baiwenhang", and it is difficult for an unfilial person to gain a foothold in society. Because of this, mothers should get out of the quagmire as soon as possible, learn to refuse their children's unreasonable demands as soon as possible, and ask their children to give them emotional returns within their power.
24, people must find their own position. She told her daughter that it doesn't matter whether she goes to college or not. If you want to open a shop, I will give you the start-up capital. Don't be an idle person.
25. After all, children should go out into the society and be an independent person. Therefore, parents should keep a proper distance and give their children room to grow freely, which is not only conducive to maintaining parent-child relationship, but also conducive to the healthy growth of children.
26. Children are not afraid of shortcomings. What is terrible is that parents, as the leaders of their children's lives, lack correct family education.
27. The education of humanity is greater than the education of intelligence; Survival education should be greater than essential education.
28. Parents must let their children know that the road to growth cannot be smooth sailing, and success is often accompanied by hardships and setbacks.
29. Accompanying children to grow up is the greatest kindness. A sound family is not equal to a sound family education. Many social problems are blamed on people. Where do human problems come from? It comes down to people's early years.
30. Family support is not only material, but also psychological. The time to earn money for children is not as good as the time to accompany them; Trying to save money for children is better than trying to teach children to be human and do things; It is better to find a wet nurse to take care of the children than to take care of them yourself. An important factor of psychological education is companionship.