How to handle the relationship well with the leader

The highest state of handling the relationship well with the leader is to make the leader unable to do without you. Although every leader has different expectations for their subordinates, behind every successful leader is a great assistant. If you want to become the leader's right-hand man, you must first let the leader trust you, appreciate you, take a fancy to you, be anxious about the leader's needs, and think about what the leader wants. At the same time, we must also handle the relationship with subordinates and set an example. When leaders do something wrong, they should take the initiative to bring it up. Don't be afraid of offending someone or being criticized. Leaders like subordinates who tell the truth, are good at getting things done, are popular, understand the rules, and listen to instructions. Don't neglect your relationship with your subordinates just because you want to be the leader's right-hand man. You must have good popularity and subordinates who obey your orders. Only in this way can you gain the trust of the leader and your position will be more stable.

As the saying goes: The waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves in front, and the waves in front die on the beach. This statement is exactly about the cruelty of the workplace. If you don't want to die on the beach, you have to learn to survive in the workplace. Of course, in the workplace, you cannot be a winner in every aspect. If you want to stand out, you must become a "specialist" in some aspect. In fact, if you want to be a person that leaders rely on, you don't have to be a "superman" in the workplace. The essence of a superman is a specialist, not an "all-round champion", as long as he is an "individual champion". In this way, you can gain the favor and respect of the leader, and then become the leader's confidant. Wang Feng went to work in Guangzhou, Shenzhen and other places in the early 1990s. He was smart, capable, and good at learning. He changed jobs several times. Every time, he was fired by his boss, who always tried their best to keep him. When he changed jobs for the first time, his leaders kept calling him to invite him back, promising generous rewards, and sometimes even begging him.

In an environment where others have difficulty finding jobs and are often fired, he is so "favored", which makes people around him envious. A colleague asked him for the "secret". He told his colleagues that the leaders of private companies aimed at making maximum profits and hired him because he had the ability to create wealth for them. While he was working hard, he was also studying the psychology of leaders. They needed When you are with us, you are the "god" in their hearts, but when you are no longer needed, you will be thrown away as garbage. Such examples are everywhere. Therefore, he has a principle of serving the leader: not fully meeting his needs and being an irreplaceable person.

In actual work, he has many ideas and innovative ideas. Every time he communicates with the leader, he will not tell them all, but only provide one to the leader. In this way, the leader has to rely on him all the time. The leader never knows how capable he is and always looks down upon him. If he states all his ideas at once, once he has used them all, he will be ruthlessly abandoned by the leader. Therefore, if you want your boss to rely on you, you must learn to use the art of communication when communicating with your leaders. In modern enterprises, there are a lot of talents. Among the many talents, how you can become the most trusted talent by leaders is the most important. This is not only related to your promotion and salary increase, but also can help your future career path. bedding. Therefore, on the basis of your ability, when communicating with leaders, express your innovative ideas more so that leaders can feel your talent, and of course they will rely more on you.

Skills in communicating with leaders can help you become an indispensable assistant to leaders.

1. Understand the rules: correct your position, adjust your mentality, and clarify your role

Some subordinates may be eliminated from the workplace because they do not understand the rules, so they must understand the rules and subordinates must obey them. Superiors, you should position yourself and adjust your mentality. In public situations, you must also follow the rules between superiors and subordinates. Don't become proud and go beyond the rules just because your leader praises you as the most indispensable person in the unit.

There are many rules. First of all, you must clarify the requirements of the role; secondly, pay attention to some disciplines and don't say anything you shouldn't say. If you have reasonable suggestions, you must express your thoughts before the company makes a decision. This is your responsibility. It is the company’s leaders who decide things. You must clearly understand your position and value, and do not make suggestions that exceed your authority. , otherwise it is you who will be harmed.

Does the leader need you like this? As the saying goes: "How can there be a circle without rules?" In workplace communication, you must understand the rules and regulations, otherwise you will be eliminated.

2. Communication wording should change according to people and situations

Different people have different experiences and cultural backgrounds, and have different communication habits. Therefore, they must be fully expressed when expressing Consider the other person’s cultural background and life style.

For example, when facing a leader who is capable in doing things and short-tempered and fast, when communicating with him, you must also be short-tempered and fast, and be honest and capable. He will definitely appreciate you! For example, when reporting on a month's summary, you get straight to the point and say: "Leader, this month's sales increased by 10% compared with last month. In other words, the output value was 1.6 million yuan more than last month. The report is completed, please give instructions!"

Assume that your superior is more stable and gentle. When reporting work and communication problems, you should not show your personality charm. You must change your style and reduce the frequency of speaking. It is best to have the same tone as the leader. Everyone will Willing to communicate with people who are similar to yourself.

3. When communicating sensitive topics, test first

When communicating sensitive topics, you must have an insight into the leader's values, otherwise it is easy to fail. Many times, speaking is not to express a point of view, but to express one's own attitude, or to test the leader's attitude. This kind of speaking technique is "letting go". You need to communicate with leaders in a flexible way to achieve your goals skillfully.

In short, if you want to become the leader's right-hand assistant, you must not only work hard, but also pay attention to communication skills with the leader. Only by mastering this "magic weapon" of speaking can you comply with the leader's thoughts. If you could know all the leader's restricted areas, would the leader allow you to leave?

For example, if you want to communicate with your leader about your views on a business friend, and you don’t know whether the leader likes him, you can tentatively ask the leader: "Boss, who is the business person you admire most?" "Which ones", "Leader, do you like so-and-so?" As long as the leader expresses his attitude clearly, you can "act according to the situation" according to his attitude. We must correct a misunderstanding. Many people think that it is not a good thing to act according to the prevailing circumstances. In fact, acting according to the prevailing circumstances is to follow the rules and should be promoted. The important point is to do something. Doing good things is right and doing bad things is right. It's just wrong.

How to handle the relationship well with the leader and get the attention of the leader as soon as possible?

1. "Selling" your abilities and talents

Ability includes intelligence, There are three aspects: expertise and creativity; and talent is where everyone's strengths are brought into play. Ability and talent are intrinsic static psychological qualities. Only by adapting to the needs of modern society with high speed, friction and coordination can the value of talent be truly revealed. Everyone must be mentally prepared to struggle for a lifetime in a competitive society.

The abilities and talents of modern people are generally reflected in the following four aspects:

1. Tenacious competitive spirit: Have a spirit of challenge, not be afraid of setbacks and failures, and be clear about your goals and wishes. , compete tenaciously and strive to achieve the goal. Awareness of independent development: Modern people must have a strong sense of subjectivity and ownership attitude, and cannot be content with doing work under instructions without taking risks and responsibilities. You must have the ability to think independently, not be afraid of fighting alone, be able to stand alone, and have an overall vision.

2. Express subjective opinions: Novel insights are reflected in innovation and exploration, which are valuable creative qualities. Modern enterprises regard people who dare to propose and are good at proposing new insights as those who only have diligent qualities. People are more important.

3. Don’t stick to the old ways: People who don’t stick to the old ways are the most charming. Facing the information society running at super speed, those who work according to the established model will only adapt to mediocre leadership. Everyone in a new environment should strive to broaden their horizons to adapt to the continuous changes in the industrial structure of modern society.

4. The degree of frustration tolerance: being unable to withstand criticism or the setback of failure is a sign of low psychological endurance and weak personality. In modern society, success and risk coexist, and smart leaders dare not reuse people who have smooth sailing or hope for smooth sailing; only those who are persevering and have good tolerance for difficulties and failures can be reused.

2. Gain trust in character

No matter who comes to a new environment, the leader and the people around him will have an instinctive psychological wariness. This is due to the sense of strangeness. A psychological "forbidden zone" is created, and the way to eliminate this "forbidden zone" is to gain everyone's trust. In interpersonal communication, gaining trust in character is faster and more lasting than gaining trust in ability. Trust is a catalyst for good feelings, which will spread beautiful colors on your body. To gain trust, efforts should be made in five aspects.

1. Be sincere and not hypocritical

Psychologists have tested more than 500 people. The top qualities are integrity, frankness, loyalty, truthfulness, etc.; and Bad qualities mainly include dishonesty, deception, treachery, etc. Sincerity is a golden quality in interpersonal relationships, and sincere people are open about competition. Competition is an opponent, but after the victory or defeat is determined, we are still friends. This is an excellent quality of modern people that should be vigorously promoted. When dealing with leaders, you must also treat each other with sincerity and express your opinions frankly. Some people think that in order to gain the respect of their leaders, they have to be flattery and flattery. This is extremely wrong. Bacon has a famous saying: "Success and virtue are two yardsticks for measuring life's career. Those who possess both of them are happy." Bacon also believed that a person should not feel guilty even in the face of God.

2. Be easy-going but not stubborn

Modern people like to understand easy-going as pleasing others, and stubbornness and aloofness as being inconsistent with others. In fact, this is a sign of stubbornness. Stubborn people only believe in their personal inner experience and lack a broad concept of social space. They build an isolation barrier between themselves and the public. The result is that they are excluded from everyone. Being easygoing means being friendly and tolerant, and is a sign of loving life. Easy-going people are happy in life, have many friends, are not restrained and undemanding towards leaders, and can easily let leaders understand their own character and talents. Zhuangzi said: "If the water is clear, there will be no fish; if the person loves you the most, there will be no friends."

3. Be confident but not inferior

The superficial manifestation of inferiority is the belief that others look down on you. , and the deeper manifestation is actually that you look down on yourself, that is, you lack self-confidence. People with low self-esteem do not necessarily have poor abilities. Franklin, the first scientist to discover DNA, admitted against his will that his discovery was wrong at an international conference where his authority was challenged, and gave away the Nobel Prize he deserved. Gave it to someone else. Franklin's tragedy was that his lack of self-confidence caused good opportunities to pass quickly. Existential psychology believes that believing in yourself is the driving force for social progress, and the most trustworthy thing is your own wisdom and potential, not others.

4. Enthusiasm but not indifference

"Enthusiasm" mainly has two aspects, that is, loving one's work and enthusiastically caring about and helping others; for those who have the courage to realize themselves, work is not only The means of making a living is also the pursuit of psychology and life, and is an integral part of the joy of life.

5. Learn to "love" people

Love for the people around you is selfless, but love has feedback, and the people around you will definitely reciprocate your enthusiasm. Enthusiastic people are quickly welcomed into a new environment.

3. Master the art of rapport

Speaking skills: Avoid beating around the bush when speaking, speaking, and reporting work, and be concise and to the point. In the new work unit, you should practice the three-paragraph speech method, that is, talk about the general situation, existing problems and personal opinions. Keep your speech brief and don't talk nonsense in front of the leader.

1. Listening ability

When the leader assigns work, listen attentively, write down key points when necessary, and be able to summarize the leader's instructions in a few sentences. You can ask one or two questions to the leader around the core issues. This can show your alertness and ability and "enlighten" the leader to make concise arguments; however, do not let the leader repeat himself.

2. Help the leader make decisions

When you make a report to the leader, you must have your own opinions and methods, and propose several solutions; so that the leader’s intentions are reflected in you Within the scope of assumptions, leaders can also choose better methods to deal with problems. In this case, you will establish a good image of being stable, sophisticated and well-mannered in the minds of your leaders.

3. Bring glory to the leader

The glory of the leader should be regarded as a collective honor, attention should be paid to publicizing the leader's strengths, and providing the leader with work-related technical and social information in a timely manner. Even if it is a job that you are in charge of, you should always communicate with the leader to make the leader feel comfortable, which will also be of great benefit to your work.

4. Work hard and be diligent

Working hard and being diligent are human virtues that we should inherit and carry forward. If you can complete the more difficult work through tenacious and hard work, the leader will definitely appreciate you from the heart. Some business management psychologists believe that new employees should not leave work too late, but should go to work early.

5. Treat colleagues like friends

When everyone comes to a new unit, the relationship with the colleagues around them is very important. It is necessary to establish a harmonious relationship with colleagues. Never neglect the relationship between colleagues but have a heated relationship with the leader. New employees and leaders are equal in personality, but in people's subconscious, there is still a sense of subordination. This kind of subordinate friendship has a hidden crisis. It will involve you in an unexpected whirlpool of right and wrong, which will make you You lose your independence of thought and behavior at work, and you gain a bad reputation from your colleagues. Therefore, the correct way is not to participate in the leader's personal interactions and life, and not to be inseparable from the leader. If your leader sincerely establishes a personal friendship with you, you should accept it in your heart without revealing it.