We have a saying here: "Those who know how to do something can do it, and those who know how to do it can find something to do." It means that those who work hard will have a hard life, and those who are leisurely will have a leisurely life. Troubles are all caused by fate and cannot be controlled by others. Those who have a good life will have smooth sailing, and those who have a hard life will have ups and downs.
Are the sufferings and happiness in life destined to happen? Idealists believe that this can be the case: your life's ups and downs, ups and downs, birth, old age, illness and death have been arranged for you, and no matter how painfully you struggle, it will be in vain. And materialists think there is no destiny in the world? It's just your character that determines your destiny. Everything is the result of your own efforts or lack of effort. It is true that the father-in-law is right and the mother-in-law is right. No one can convince anyone.
I personally tend to have more elements of destiny, which is inseparable from my experience and mental journey. Our family has been influenced by Buddhist culture for a long time. Being in such a family atmosphere, I can imagine my understanding of destiny. What’s more, Buddhist culture is profound, philosophical, and encourages people to do good, so I believe in Buddhism and destiny. I won’t talk about my strange life experiences today. Now let’s talk about something that everyone has experienced: in our lives, we often have a sense of déjà vu to the surrounding environment, people, and activities, as if we have already experienced the recurrence of old events. How do materialists explain this mysterious phenomenon? The idealists attribute all this to fate, which is just a result of fate's manipulation of people, which explains this difficult problem very well. I remember there is a famous saying in the West: The end of science is theology. You should still believe in fate. No matter whether it is smooth or bumpy, it is fate, and you should work hard to live honestly. Do more good deeds and put an end to evil thoughts. If you do this, you will definitely receive God's mercy, and you will definitely turn the rot into a miraculous turn around, change your destiny, and make your life smooth from now on. Remember, remember!
There is a family in a neighboring village. The head of the household, Lao Bao, is 66 years old this year. The husband and wife are the same age. Mr. and Mrs. Laobao have had 4 sons in their lifetime. To this day, it seems that the inheritance of the family line is a myth and cannot be counted on.
Lao Bao, a rural person, is very particular about continuing the family lineage and believes that having more children means happiness. Back then, I was under tremendous pressure to survive, steal, and hide, and tried every means to have more sons.
***After giving birth to 4 dragons and completing the mission, Laobao had a sterilization surgery and decided to never give birth again. If he raised 4 dragons, he would be infinitely happy.
Surprisingly, when the eldest child was 9 years old, he fell into the pond next to the house and could never get up. He slept in the pond. The deepest fish pond was only 1.3 meters and the shallowest was only 30 centimeters deep. , Logically speaking, a 9-year-old boy is innocent, spirited, lively, active, good at water, and has the ability to cause havoc in heaven. Why can't he just sink there? Incomprehensible.
Another fifteen years later, the three children grew up. The second child was 25 years old and the third child was 23 years old. One day during the Spring Festival, they returned to their hometown for vacation. The second child and the third child were riding a motorcycle together. They were playing in the street and collided with a truck 15 kilometers away from home. The two brothers died on the spot. Their souls returned to the Buddha, and Lao Bao and his wife fainted from crying.
At that time, Laobao and his wife were about 58 years old. They buried their son in old age, which was one of the three major misfortunes in life.
Of the four children, only the fourth child is left. What worries Lao Bao is that he cannot eat because of the fourth child. It turns out that the fourth child suffers from a moderately severe mental illness. He can eat, wear, and play, but he can't work, make money, or have fun with men and women. When such a fool has more men than women, will a matchmaker come to propose marriage?
The fourth child is now 26 years old, and no girl has ever visited him, and not a single girl has said that he likes him. Although Laobao has a house and a car, who else cares about your house and car now?
Destiny is like this: if you have your destiny, you will finally have it. If you have no destiny, don’t force it. Lao Bao values ????continuing the family line and raising children to provide for old age. It is estimated that this will only be realized in the next life.
When I was in school, I accepted materialist theory and did not believe in fate. However, I couldn't explain it clearly later. The old man always said: It's better to have life than to have anything. It really made me slowly accept it.
I have a brother who has been smart since he was a child. The teachers said that he could not see him studying, but he was among the top in the exam. When we were in middle school, it was not fashionable to take college entrance examinations. We were in the order of technical secondary school, normal school, and high school. My dad made the decision for him to apply for the normal school, but that year, he got sick and fell down when he was taking an extra test for the physical education subject. While we were waiting for the announcement, our family went to my grandma’s house for the holidays. My mother was very worried about him and started talking about it. My eldest sister-in-law said that there is a fortune teller in the village. People say that his fortune teller is very accurate. Otherwise, he can tell it to my brother. My mother listened and asked her husband to be invited. He was a middle-aged man who was blind. My mother told me my brother's birth date, and the blind fortune teller pinched her fingers. I remember one of the sentences was: He will definitely fail the high school entrance examination. However, he is destined to live on royal food, and you have to support him in his education. He is not a person left behind in the countryside. At that time, I, a junior high school student, was so proud that I sat on the window sill and made trouble for my mother: "You are still eating the imperial food! The emperor is gone long ago. This is because New China does not believe this!" My mother was so angry that she beat me away.
My brother really didn’t get into the normal school because of that fall. My dad sighed and said, "You can't do anything with horizontal grass and vertical grass. You can't do anything in the countryside. You should go to high school."
"After receiving the admission notice to No. 1 Middle School, I asked my uncle to send him to school.
My brother attended No. 1 Middle School for half a year. One day he ran back by himself and said, "I am not in good health. Well, my eyes are still short-sighted, and no one wants to go to a better university, so I won't go to it. "My father and mother refused to go back despite all the persuasion. My father had no choice but to obey him and let him follow him to do farm work. As a result, he was not doing what he wanted, and my father was so angry that he scolded him every day.
Two weeks later, a male teacher wearing glasses came to the house one day. He said he was my brother's class teacher. He said to my father: "Why don't you send your child to school? I have never seen a student as smart as him. Once taught, you will know it. I don't see him studying alone at night, but his test scores are particularly good. You parents can't stop him from going to school just because of the tuition fee, it will delay him. "My brother was having a hard time at home, so he followed the teacher back to school obediently. But because of his physical condition, he was hospitalized in major hospitals in Tianjin and Beijing from the second half of his sophomore year to the first half of his senior year. I especially remember his senior year of high school. After returning from the hospital to participate in the college entrance examination preparatory examination, I moved a small bench to sit in the backyard and read a book. I asked him worriedly: "Brother, can you keep up?" He said, "Can you still keep up?" ! When I returned to the classroom from the hospital, there were piles of review materials on the desks of my classmates. I didn’t even know where to start. You can't follow them anymore. Let's read the textbook first. "As a result, my brother ranked first in the preliminaries and fifth in the college entrance examination. His reputation spread. When I went to No. 1 middle school, his classmates and teachers who had taught him heard about me. Even his sisters came to see me.
My brother studied mechanical manufacturing in college. When he graduated in 1989, he worked as a technician in the county machinery factory (the best company in the county at the time), which meant he passed the exam. One year, there were rumors that the factory was about to go bankrupt, so my brother joined the machine repair factory (ranked third in the company). After working there for half a year, the factory went bankrupt. When he was working as a technician, a businessman admired him and asked me to work there. My brother came to Beijing to work in his company. Unexpectedly, the businessman's financial chain broke down two years later. He told my brother that he would like my brother to join me again if he made a comeback. But my brother said that he had enough wandering outside and wanted to go back to me. The sister-in-law made new plans and just like that, he returned to the county. As soon as he arrived home, his father-in-law said to him: "It's just a good time to come back." The County Justice Bureau is recruiting civil servants. Today is the last day. Please sign up quickly. "My brother took the exam every day from registration to taking the exam one month later. As a result, he was admitted to the judicial team with first place, and it was not until he passed the exam that he obtained the lawyer's license. So many years have passed.
Waiting for him to join the job When he called me later, I was surprised: “Oh my God! The fortune teller said. Is he really destined to eat the royal food? ". It is hard to believe how he, a science student, became a civil servant in the judicial field in a roundabout way. I really can't explain it in my life.