About marriage, there is a well-known saying that describes it very agreeably. "Marriage is like a city. People inside the city want to get out, and people outside the city want to get in."

I often hear this sentence said to me by my classmates and friends who are married. Talking about the many bad things and unhappiness in marriage.

But no matter what truth or famous saying, it cannot be generalized for everything in the world.

In the current era, what we see is that some people inside the besieged city live happily, and some people outside the besieged city do not want to enter.

So, please don’t try to convince others or yourself with one sentence.

Whether it’s time passing by or time flies by, I often feel as if in just a blink of an eye, the age of twenty-five or six has happened to me. At the same time, more missions and responsibilities come with it.

For example, starting a family, building a career, cultivating oneself and managing the family, getting married and having children. This is a big event in your twenties, and it is also a big event in your life.

Sometimes I often feel that all this is in a dream. It's not me moving forward, it's time pushing me. I can still clearly remember that 10 years ago, when I was in college, my second sister, who was twenty-four or five years old, was anxiously urged and worried by her parents and elders because she had not found a partner yet.

Ten years ago, most young people got married relatively young. In small towns and counties, most people got married when they reached the legal age for marriage. Some even get married before they reach the legal age.

Today’s older, single, unmarried young people should actually be grateful to society. It is the independence and awakening of personal ideology, and it is the tolerance and compatibility of the development of the times. If another 10 years had passed, I think our group of people would have faced greater external pressure.

Looking around at the colleagues, friends and classmates of the same age that I know around me, it seems that they have all entered the palace (grave) of marriage, established their own families, and become parents one after another. Many have even given birth to a second child, and those who have not yet given birth are in the process of preparing for a second child.

Even though in the outside world, some sociologists predict that society may move towards a marriage-free society in the future, there is also a large amount of data showing and explaining that more and more people are single and unmarried.

But these data and ideas cannot reach the small towns and counties where we are located. Nor can it compete with China’s 5,000-year-old deep-rooted traditional culture.

However, I know that more and more people will live more according to their hearts.

Marriage or divorce, non-marriage or DINK, this will all become a choice. Rather than a must!

Since it has become a choice, there is nothing better or worse outside the siege or within the siege.

People in the besieged city should not always say to people outside the besieged city: I regret getting married, and there are many troubles in getting married.

Please, getting married does not mean that the rest of your life will be smooth.

So what does it mean to get married?

It means so many things.

Whether it is a smooth or unhappy marriage, a happy or unhappy marriage, I personally think it is a meaningful marriage.

Because it is meaningful to experience it. Understanding after experiencing it.

A happy marriage allows you to cherish and be grateful.

An unfortunate marriage teaches you self-love and discernment.

It also gives you your own thoughts on marriage. Rather than what a married person says.

What about the people outside the besieged city? Don't always talk to the people in the besieged city. Because they always have a lot more to do than you do. And through communication, I found that some married people and unmarried people I know have very different concepts and views on many things.

Because of the different roles and angles. It has been difficult to empathize with these two groups.

(Except for some people who are empathetic)

Therefore, every stage has its troubles, as well as its happiness.

This is true both outside the siege and within the siege.

But what I want to say is that among millions of people, you and I are just ordinary people. In Zhou Guoping's words, no matter how extraordinary people are, they will eventually live an ordinary life. Therefore everyone is an ordinary person.

Most ordinary people want nothing more than an ordinary life. What is ordinary life? It is a life that meets the expectations of the public.

Having a home, companionship, warmth, a sense of belonging and a purpose.

The above is complete.

I really admire those who live their lives freely and freely by themselves. I also admire those who make their small homes warm and happy.

At least now, I still believe that everyone yearns for marriage at first. Even those artists. There are many artists who end their lives alone because they are forced to do nothing.

Since primitive society, human beings have been acting as group animals, slowly multiplying and passing on from generation to generation. Loneliness is an eternal topic for human beings, and so is love. Sometimes they conflict with each other, and sometimes they complement each other.

Friendship is destined not to accompany us for a lifetime, because friendship will meet its love. Neither will family affection, nor will family affection meet her love.

At the beginning of love, there is heartbeat; in love, there is mutual respect; after love, there is marriage.

At the beginning of marriage, there is perfection; within marriage, there is triviality; after marriage, there is life.

Every moment in life is life.

Hope:

People outside the besieged city can enter the ideal besieged city. Even if you are "surrounded", you are still willing and happy.

People in a besieged city can manage the siege they have entered. If you are already "surrounded", if you are happy, make peace with it; if you are unhappy, cultivate it; if you are unhappy again, leave it.

Beyond the siege and within the siege, I hope you and I are both happy people.

(At the end of writing, I don’t know what I wrote. I want to express it but I don’t know how to start. Thank you to my parents and elders for urging me. That is your concern and worry. From today on, I will no longer See it as pressure. I am also grateful to those friends who have always cared about me sincerely.)