First of all, about learning.
1, learn this word first, it has two meanings. Learning: imitation; Xi: use it. What is the purpose of learning? Chinese learning often loads as much knowledge as possible into the brain, and in many cases knowledge has another name called "garbage" and "knowledge barrier". In our life, most knowledge will turn into garbage and accumulate in our minds. So Bacon said: The ultimate goal of knowledge is action, not knowledge itself. In other words, knowledge is asexual, and the value of knowledge is the result of application!
2. Reading is the investment with the highest return rate in life. After reading the essence of a sage's life in a short time, we can understand the life experiences written by others with their blood and tears. To develop the habit of reading is to let yourself have a boat ticket in your hand in the process of moving towards a brilliant life, and the same opportunity will come to everyone. People with tickets get on the bus, while those without tickets can only drool and watch the "lucky" people get on the bus and leave. He may never know, it's not luck, that ticket is just the reward of others' hard work. Of course, reading still needs to grasp the wisdom of Mencius: it is better to believe in books than to have no books. In other words, if you never speculate after reading this book, but accept it by percentage, you might as well not read it.
3. The highest state of learning is forgetting to learn. This kind of forgetting does not mean forgetting to learn, or forgetting after learning, but has completely integrated learning into life. There is learning in life, and there is life in learning. In the Analects of Confucius, Confucius once said: You can gain something by playing with a rope. Once learning is integrated with life and work, play can become a way of learning. Confucius also said a famous saying: in a threesome, there must be a teacher; Choose the good and follow it, change the bad. This state of learning has been integrated into life, and good deeds can be an example for us to learn; Bad guys and evil things can also be warning signs in our lives.
Smell, think and practice, which is a very effective way for Buddhists to learn and practice. Don't turn your head into a treasure chest, but stuff everything you see and hear into it. Smell is listening, just watching; Thinking is thinking about what you see and hear; Repair, apply the so-called knowledge after speculation to life. Listening without thinking is like drifting wood; Thinking without repairing is like daydreaming; If you just don't think, it's like a blind man running like hell.
Learning is just a medium, and its ultimate goal is to increase your inner wisdom, not how many books you read, how many lessons you listen to and how many classics you recite. All reading, listening and reciting are just a tool, and the only core of this tool is to develop one's own wisdom.
Second, about balance.
1, Confucianism goes too far, Taoism knows white and keeps black, and Buddhism's middle view all show that balance, moderation and not being extreme are not only the core of religion, but also one of the important factors that determine whether our life is happy or not.
2. On the road of life, balance is not static. During the period of starting a business and working hard, your balance may be: working hard for 365 days a year * 12 hours; When you become a department head, your balance is definitely not just about doing your own thing. Maybe you should care more about your subordinates, coordinate the work of various departments and improve your learning ability. When you are already at the top of the company, perhaps your balance should be to create opportunities and space for more people to grow up, and everyone can be arranged in their own suitable positions. Maybe you should spend more time thinking about the philosophy of life instead of working hard.
3. If the career is compared to one leg, then the family may be the other leg; If hobbies are compared to one hand, then socialization may be the other hand. If only one arm or one leg is particularly tough, it can't be called tough, it should be more suitable to be called incomplete! Rich without health, you are still poor; Cultivate one's morality and not cultivate one's heart, you are still a patient; Talent without virtue, you are still a villain.
Just like a car, its beauty lies in balance, not just a strong engine. Can a Rolls-Royce engine with broken brakes still be beautiful? It's definitely not as good as an agricultural vehicle with balanced parts. What you are is not so important, at least not as important as balance. Whether you are a bicycle, an agricultural vehicle or a Rolls-Royce, you should strive to achieve a balance. This is the most beautiful and intelligent effort!
Life is like riding a bicycle, no matter how far your goal is, no matter how good your car is, no matter how strong your physical strength is. Most importantly, you must be able to keep the balance of your bicycle (life), otherwise, no matter how ambitious your goal is and how expensive your bicycle is, your life will definitely be unsatisfactory.
6. Success is not only equal to career achievement, but also equal to fame and power, and should not be just a number in the bank. True success is a balanced state of life, which can take into account all aspects of life, including work and leisure, family and yourself, wealth and health, responsibility and relaxation. When you find the best balance point in life, you stand at the highest point in life, perhaps lower than others, but it is your highest point.
7, inner balance, the world is beautiful: bad people hurt us, good people will make up for it; Fools owe us, and wise men will pay us back. The laity owes us, and God will respond.
Third, about the family.
1, family occupies a very important position in life. Without family harmony, no matter how strong the career is, it can only be regarded as a broken winner.
2. There are too many reasons for family harmony, such as responsibility, gratitude, learning, self-discipline, tolerance, and not comparing with others (you can't always compare others with your other half or children). If you want to know yourself, how can you marry the perfect other half? Believe in the sentence of I ching: if virtue is not worth it, there will be disaster. What's in front of you is the best!
3. The relationship between parents and children aims at separation, and the relationship between husband and wife aims at aggregation. In family relations, the relationship between husband and wife is always more important than the relationship between parents and children. The greatest love that a pair of parents give their children is the harmony between husband and wife.
4. Children are independent individuals. They only came to this world through their parents' channels. Parents must not treat their children as their own things. Many parents always pay too much attention to their children and even pin their whole lives on them. I don't know if this will turn my children into flowers in the greenhouse, which will not only make them lack the ability to live independently, but also weaken the happy life that couples should have. Parents must not commit crimes under the banner of "love"!
5, women know how to show weakness, which is a kind of wisdom; Men know self-discipline, which is a kind of transcendence. This wisdom and transcendence is also one of the important reasons for family harmony. Women should learn to appreciate the advantages of their husbands. Once you admire your husband, you will become a happy little princess. Men must know how to be cautious and self-disciplined, improve their ideological realm, and strive to make their families proud of you. That is the embodiment of men's responsibility and value.
6, responsibility, once you have a family, your identity and responsibility are greatly different, you are the husband, you are the father, you are the son-in-law. If you handle the role change well, you will add several sources of happiness. Responsibility and harvest are two sides of a silver coin. When the responsibility is in place, you will gain happiness and happiness. Pass the buck, and you will reap troubles and pains.
7, tolerance, no matter how good the relationship is, it is impossible for couples to have the same personality, ideas, hobbies and aesthetics. If you think everything between lovers can be harmonious, then marry yourself. As long as it is not a fatal problem, we should tolerate and understand each other. Your own ideas don't mean you must be right, and others' ideas don't mean you must be wrong. The Analects of Confucius says: gentlemen are harmonious but different, while villains are identical but incompatible. As long as the mind is big enough and tolerant enough, some conceptual differences will even become lubricants in life.
8. Self-discipline is a compulsory course for both husband and wife. If you have a family and have to give up some personal hobbies, then the family becomes a prison; You should adjust your hobbies and time, because having a family increases your responsibilities. This responsibility is a kind of happiness, but also a kind of pay. This responsibility requires time, energy, love and money. Maybe this time, energy, love and money must be extracted from your personal hobbies. Extract these things from your hobbies, and your happiness will not decrease, but will increase, as long as you understand your responsibilities!
9. Filial piety, on the surface, is to thank your parents with your heart, material, time and action, as if you are the giver and your parents are the beneficiaries. In fact, you are the biggest beneficiary, because you benefit from yourself. Your attitude towards your parents, your children are learning, and all your actions will eventually come back to you in different forms.
Fourth, about the cause.
1. One of the most important reasons for achieving your career is the understanding of responsibility. The thickness of the responsibility you can undertake will basically be the height of your career.
2. Another core of your career is your heart. It is not enough to rely solely on hard work and seriousness. Your heart can exceed the expectations of others. Once you exceed other people's expectations, it will be difficult for you to succeed.
3. How many people can you help grow? How many people can you help grow? How many people can you help make money? What kind of career you can achieve.
4. Carnegie: A person who doesn't pay attention to small things will never achieve great things.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) is about happiness.
1. There is no uniform standard for happiness in this world. But it is undeniable that happiness is actually just a feeling in everyone's own heart.
2. Growth, gratitude, self-discipline, altruism, contentment and not being happier than others are the keys to happiness. The most important killers of happiness are complaining, comparison and selfishness.
3. Many people do not pursue happiness on the road of life, but pursue happiness more than others. All happiness that comes from comparison is unreliable and short-lived, because its decision is in your hands.
4, every worry, every pain, they are not necessarily the poison of happiness; If you can reflect and perceive, they are more likely to be the seeds of happiness and the upper edge of happiness.
5. Remember what should be remembered and forget what should be forgotten; Change what should be changed and accept what cannot be changed. This is the highest state of happiness!
6. Be your best self, and leave the rest to God. I firmly believe that no matter what God's arrangement will be, it is the best, and it is worth accepting and celebrating.
Six, about health
1, health, of course, refers to the physical and mental level. Most people think that good health is the most important thing. Without good health, everything is zero. Actual mental health is more important than physical health. Simply put, the influence of mind on physical health is definitely greater than that of body on mental health.
2, the health of the body, the most effective way is to keep your mouth shut and take your legs, not any health care products such as Cordyceps sinensis and bird's nest; Persisting in long-term exercise is not only an investment, but also a practice. Its reward is good health and fortitude, and it can also save money for hospital treatment.
3. No matter what kind of exercise, it is basically difficult to be perfect, that is, every exercise is good and bad at the same time, just like China's Tai Chi map, if it is too white, it will turn black, and if it is too good, it will become harmful. This requires you to find the exercise that suits you according to your physique, rather than blindly following hearsay. Like my favorite mountain climbing, many people say it will hurt my knees; I like winter swimming. They say it's bad for my joints. I like riding a bike. Some people say it will hurt my prostate. But I have been doing moderate exercise for more than ten years. At present, my physique is better than that of ten years ago, and I am as strong as an ox!
4. As for mental health, you can learn to enjoy loneliness and meditation by properly understanding and learning some religions and Chinese studies, and try to reduce some desires for fame and fortune; You know, life has never happened for no reason. We should face it calmly, handle it well and let it go, no matter what happens in life, good or bad.
Although health is very important, don't be bound by it, because no matter how important it is, it won't be the whole of life. Drinking is definitely not good, but it's no big deal to get drunk once or twice occasionally; It's not good to spend too much energy, but it's also a good thing to climb the snow-capped mountains occasionally. Sleeping late is harmful to your health, but being crazy once in a while is also a colorful side of life. Too much is not enough, whether it is health or physical injury, we must know that persistence is a serious mental illness.
6, some people say that exercise is not necessarily good, like turtles rarely move, but their life span is several times that of people. Fallacy, absurd rhetoric, you may learn from the turtle's small movements, but can you learn from the turtle's breathing times and heart rate? It breathes five times a minute and its heart rate is less than 10 times a minute. If you can reach this frequency, maybe you can really live for 2-300 years. People still need to exercise more. Exercise is the foundation of health. Don't make excuses for your laziness.
Seven, about friends
1, a good friend is the breeze of life, the warm sun in winter and the breeze in summer; Hurting friends is the negative growth of life and an indispensable teaching material for practice. Good friends and bad friends are all you will meet in this life. When you are wise enough, their appearance is grateful. When your wisdom is insufficient, you may have to complain before you can continue to help your bad friends fulfill their wishes.
Just like Laozi's "inaction" and Buddha's "no cover", friends are actually useless. Of course, the uselessness here does not mean that they are worthless, but utilitarian. Only in this way can they be called friends. Friends should not only be your drinking buddies, your playmates, your tools, the objects you ask for, nor should they just be your emotional trash can.
3. Friends' three views are not necessarily the same. Friends may not always agree with your point of view, but after a lot of communication, they can always collide with each other. Don't just make "like-minded" friends, otherwise you can only see half of the world; Friends who think differently from you may give you more ideological surprises. Of course, first of all, self-tolerance should be strong enough. -
Friends don't need to stay together all day. People who stay together all day are more likely to be friends who drink, gamble or chat. Friends may not always be together, but they will naturally appear when necessary; Seeing useful information, friends will naturally want to share it with you.
True friends sometimes have endless words together, but they won't feel embarrassed even if they don't say a word together; A true good friend exists like air. You don't have to remember it deliberately, because he has never left or bound you.
6. What kind of friends you make is important, but it is still more important than what kind of person you are. If you are excellent, your friends will certainly not be worse; If you are just a layman, it is meaningless to know a lot of sages. You are not good at learning and making progress, and even the best person can't be your mentor.
? Your happiness is determined not only by material wealth, but also by inner wealth; Your health depends not only on your strong body, but also on your healthy heart; The quality of a friend depends not only on his personality, but also on the volume of your tolerant heart. There are still many feelings, and I feel that I can't finish writing in a few days. Today is the last day of 20 18, and it has been 30 years since we entered this colorful society. Finishing my "University" is a course! The road to college will continue, and study and life will be integrated. As long as life goes on, learning will not stop. ?
? echo/20 18- 12-3 1