The pace of contemporary society is very fast, and everyone is under tremendous pressure. When you are out of breath, negative emotions are easy to burst out, which not only hurts your body, but also damages your relationships. So how do we control anger?
First conscious control. When anger is about to explode, use consciousness to control yourself, remind yourself to stay rational, and perform self-suggestion: "Don't be angry, anger will hurt your body." Educated people can usually control themselves. And encourage yourself. Comfort yourself with some philosophy or quotes to encourage you to fight against pain and adversity. Entertaining yourself will put you in a better mood. You also need to learn language management. Language is a powerful tool for influencing emotions.
If you are sad, reading funny sentences can relieve your sadness. Self-reminder, self-control and self-suggestion, such as "anger control", "patience" and "calm", can also regulate your emotions. The environment plays an important role in regulating and limiting emotions. When you are depressed, stepping outside can regulate your mood. When you are unhappy, it can regulate your mood, and the best way is to watch interesting movies.
When a person cannot achieve a certain goal in his pursuit, in order to reduce his inner disappointment, he can find a reason to comfort himself, just like a fox cannot eat grapes and say sour grapes. This is not a lie, it can be very beneficial as a way to lighten your mood once in a while.
In fact, I have always suspected that this city is a big prison. Every night, the lights on the building look like prison cells. ?Well, sometimes, home is also a kind of prison. ?Otherwise, will children grow up craving escape? If you do not deceive yourself and others, then people will eat grains and grains, including worldly desires, become demons, become Buddhas, have troubles everywhere, and always have Bodhi. When your five aggregates are hot, you are angry with someone, frustrated with something, or angry because you don't want to stand it or can't stand it. ?
In fact, life is a practice, and your bad temper is a checkpoint. Only by controlling it can you achieve sublimation and progress. No matter how many beautiful words I say, I actually haven’t done it yet. But it is precisely because of this that I want to fight with you in front of me.