1. If you do something wrong in life, your conscience will never be at peace! Really, Balzac said it well: some sins can only be redeemed and cannot be washed away! (p 1) 2。 Life is endless, and at the end of it, it will leave this world again. (p2) Flowers and fruits watered by gardeners with blood and tears will be sent to the world for others to enjoy sooner or later. (p2) 3 ... Everything depends on your firm will and position ... Everything depends on your personal perseverance, belief and will-the will to practice. (p9) 4。 I don't approve of self-reproach and inaction. This is the basic style of being a man. Not just about someone or something. I once told you that only facts can prove your thoughts and only actions can show your heart. You can't be so careless with your friends. People who are fickle in nature are the most wronged and the least worthy to act fickle. Just like a person who is not naughty gets hurt in the end when playing naughty, it is a truth. (p 12) You know everything about being a person, but you lost it because you didn't show the facts. I hope you will remember this for the rest of your life from now on. You have to explain everything to others! (p 12) 5。 People who have not experienced acute pain will not have deep and extensive sympathy. (p 13) A person's venting is to ask for mental health, not to make himself more and more depressed. (p 14) 6。 About emotional problems ... Anyway, we should restrain ourselves and focus on the future and health. (p 15) 7 ... Use more reason and less emotion. Of course, it depends on your strong confidence to control all your troubles. This is not an easy task, but it must be overcome. 8. When a person is lonely and his thoughts are concentrated, all feelings are real feelings. (p 19) 9。 Don't let what you feel float on the surface of feelings, carefully analyze how what you feel is different from your original thoughts, emotions and expressions. This requires calm and strong intelligence to analyze clearly. (p23) Young people are most likely to give the impression of "ingratitude". In fact, he is staring at the front, eager to absorb new things, not necessarily "ungrateful"; But few people understand this psychology ... (P23) 10 As long as it is a fact and a real lesson, whether it comes from parents, friends or strangers, you should accept it. You must get rid of your easy-going temper ... if you are always in the crowd, you will lack the opportunity to reflect; Thoughts, feelings and feelings can't be well sorted out and summarized. 1 1, patience, depression, no matter who will meet from time to time, but it will soon pass. (p30) Try to put aside gains and losses, success or failure, and just try your best to be worthy of your own heart. (p3 1) 12。 People's lives are ups and downs in high tide and low tide, and only mediocre people can live like stagnant water; Or you must have a high level of self-cultivation to be fruitless and truly free. As long as the climax doesn't make you nervous and the low tide doesn't make you decadent, there is no problem. Too strong sunshine will scorch the grains; Too much rain will flood the crops. We just want a psychological balance, so that we won't get hurt ... gradually you will develop another mood to deal with the past; It is to be able to think without soul-stirring, to analyze the cause and effect from an objective standpoint, to make reference for the future and to avoid repeating the same mistakes. Only when a person dares to face up to reality, face up to mistakes, rationally analyze and thoroughly understand, will he not be eroded by memories ... If a person regards these things as the ashes of his soul, he will certainly feel deeply, but don't hurt himself deeply, but cherish his heart as if he were facing an ancient battlefield. (p32~33) 13。 Although the competition question is a heavy burden, you should make some psychological preparations anyway. As long as you try your best not to care about gains and losses, you will be calm and completely relaxed. Only in this way can you hope to achieve good results ... If you can often think of the famous saying "an article learns from the past, it will be much easier mentally." Only in this way can we avoid feeling overworked and tired. The most tormenting thing is not mental and physical labor, but trouble! (p38) Try to relax yourself psychologically and keep it up, so that you can get good grades. Nervousness is harmful to everything. ..... With the concept of "I'll try my best", I immediately call myself lenient when I'm nervous, and treat your spirit like your hands and fingers, so I should always pay attention to relaxation. (p39) Don't be too busy on weekdays. People drag you out and you have to make up your homework, which is harmful to your energy. Let's stop talking about the number of times on the grounds of practicing the piano. If you are not nervous, don't be too busy; I'd rather be free and think quietly ... don't be sentimental, I'm sorry. It is a habit not to go out with people during office hours, and it won't offend people. The energy of life is limited ... (P39) 14 ... Art is your lifelong career, and art itself is already wonderful. You must not be too nervous when practicing the piano. Life is limited, energy is limited. We should take a long-term view and run a marathon. You are an impulsive person, so you should restrain yourself. (p42) 15, ... More suppression of feelings, more emphasis on skills and more use of reason will definitely reduce fatigue. (p42) [This is what teacher Fu Lei should pay attention to when instructing Fu Cong to practice the piano, and how to reduce the fatigue of practicing the piano] Kung Fu is not used enough; You will never get good grades if you don't suffer enough! (p43) 16。 Anyone who keeps playing tricks is an artist, not an artist. A person can't jump out of this level, nor can he dream of art all his life! Art is the purpose, and skill is the means; Those who always pay attention to the means will inevitably forget its purpose. (p47) 17, ... Don't push yourself when you are already very tired. Keep more vitality, and you will still have an advantage in the long run. (p54) 18, the size and level of achievements are beyond our control, half by manpower and half by talent, but as long as we are strong, we are not afraid of failure, setbacks and blows, whether in personnel, life, technology or study. From now on, you can fight alone. (p56) 19, the greatness of motherhood lies not in reason, but in that kind of intuitive feeling ... (P60) Thinking about the difficulties of the past will make you have more courage to overcome them in the future and not lose confidence! Life is an endless marathon ... (P6 1) ... Young people often overestimate their own strength. (p6 1) ... Today, you have passed this conceit, but I will always be a disciple of Confucianism in China. When you meet something extremely prosperous, you will feel particularly solemn, particularly afraid and particularly alert. (p6 1) ... In fact, perfection does not exist at all, and the whole life, food street and universe are far from perfection. This is the ideal of philosophers and politicians. The pursuit of our life, the pursuit of generations in history, is nothing more than perfection, but it will never be pursued. Because people's ideals and fantasies are endless, perfection is like the moon in the water and the flower in the mirror, which is always within reach. But at a certain stage, it is also good to get the overall "integrity" or comparative "integrity". (page 62). One must think carefully before doing something. Especially when you want to change course, abandon the old road and take a new road, you must balance your own reason and weigh the old road and the new road on two plates very accurately. (p69) Reading Notes: A Letter from Fu Lei is a "devoted and fatherly teaching article"; It is also "the best reading for art apprentices"; It is also a profound portrayal of ordinary and typical "unwise" intellectuals in modern China. What is printed in this collection is not an ordinary family letter. Fu Lei said in his letter to Fu Cong, "Writing a long letter to you is not empty nagging, not inexplicable gossip, but has several functions. First, I really take you as an opponent to discuss art and music; Second, I really want to inspire the feelings of some young people, so that my father can get some fresh nutrients, and I can also indirectly spread them to other young people; Third, it is not only your writing that exercises you through communication, especially your thoughts. Fourth, I want to remind you all the time to be a' faithful mirror', no matter in life, in the details of life, in artistic accomplishment and in playing posture. " The affection that runs through all the family letters is to let the son know the honor and disgrace of the country and the dignity of art, treat everything with a serious attitude and be an "artist with both ability and political integrity and excellent personality". As a model of China's parents, Mr. and Mrs. Fu Lei devoted their whole lives to training their two children: the famous piano master Fu Cong and the special English teacher Fu Min. This is the successful embodiment of their educational thought of being a man first, then getting married, surpassing themselves, thinking independently and teaching students in accordance with their aptitude. Parents' inculcation, sincere communication between children and parents, and affection between the lines have strongly infected parents and children all over the world.

2. Letters from Fu Lei is an excerpt from the letters written by Fu Lei and his wife to Fu Cong and Fu Min. From 1954 to1June 966. This is the best reading for art apprentices and a textbook full of fatherly love. Mr. and Mrs. Fu Lei are models of China's parents. Their two children, Fu Cong, a famous piano master, and Fu Min, a special English teacher, are the successful embodiment of their educational philosophy of being a man first, then getting married, thinking independently and teaching students in accordance with their aptitude. What is printed in this little book is not an ordinary letter from home. In his letter to Fu Cong, Fu Lei said: "Writing a long letter to you is not empty nagging or inexplicable gossip, but has several functions. First, I really take you as an opponent to discuss art and music; Second, I really want to inspire the feelings of some young people, so that my father can get some fresh nutrients, and I can also indirectly spread them to other young people; Third, it's not just your writing that exercises you through communication, especially your thoughts; Fourth, I will always be your warning and be a' faithful mirror' everywhere, no matter in life, in the details of life, in artistic accomplishment and in playing posture. " The affection that runs through all the family letters is to let the son know the honor and disgrace of the country and the dignity of art, treat everything with a serious attitude and be an "artist with both ability and political integrity and excellent personality." Parents' inculcation, sincere communication between children and parents, and deep affection between the lines have touched parents and children all over the world. Letters from Fu Lei and Fu Cong inspired me a lot. Many of our parents have neglected the friendship with their children, and have raised them for more than ten years, but they have never really enjoyed the fun of being parents. Because they are eager to make their children succeed, their attitude towards their children has been distorted, and all kinds of encouraging measures have come out. Some parents blindly imitate Fu Lei's practice of "showing filial sons under the stick", but have they ever thought that they have the quality that Fu Lei's example is more important than words and deeds? Can optical Frey's word "hit" produce good results? So the child tasted abuse and fists, as well as the pain of studying under pressure and fear, and his golden childhood was eclipsed. Fu Lei realized that although he suffered from political movements in his later years, he was happy at this point because he and his son became the closest friends. Now, many parents are also scrambling to imitate Fu Lei's way of educating their children. Therefore, this has become a mode of parenting education. Speaking of father-son letters, of course, it is the condensation of our godson's lifelong study of piano art. Memory is a thin book, fresh and elegant. Although reprinted many times, it is still unpretentious, and the concise recent article reveals strict father's deep love. Although the author and original readers of this letter from home are separated from us for centuries, although the moral standards and values in different times and social systems are quite different, and even though today's publishing industry has added more commercial speculation to it, what today's readers should do is to abandon these external barriers and shackles and read between the lines with deep feelings, which will certainly benefit a lot. Francis Bacon once said: "The fate of mankind is in our own hands." We are all eager to succeed and want to do great things, which requires the guidance of wisdom. Then, let's start with this book! It will tell you all the successful methods and skills, help you open the door of wisdom of wealth and create your brilliant life!