2015 has passed and 2016 has begun - another year.
As we bid farewell to the old and welcome the new, people can’t help but look back and look forward: Where did we spend our time in the past year? What things did you plan to do and realized your dreams? What things did you want to do but didn’t do, leaving you with regrets?
Looking forward to the new year, or even the entire life ahead, what are your dreams and ambitions? How to spend a lifetime with no or few regrets?
Where has the time gone?
The Watch Shop company has developed an interactive tool called "Time of Your Life". Users only need to follow the prompts to complete various tasks. , or when you enter "no other personal matters", the tool will tell you that if you keep your current living habits, you can get how you spent a year or even a lifetime, a lifetime (according to the average life expectancy of 83 years Calculate what you spend your time doing, including commuting, sleeping, bathing, having sex, drinking, exercising, cleaning, and even talking about the weather.
The company collected data from 1,300 British people who took part in the test to tell us how these British people spent 2015.
Analysis shows that in 2015, men spent an average of 3 days having sex, which was less than 4 days for women. Men spend more time sleeping and drinking than women. On average, men sleep 80 days and drink 8 days, while women sleep 66 days and drink 6 days.
In addition to sexual activities, many other things are gender specific. For example, women spend more time cleaning and bathing than men, and less time drinking and exercising.
According to reports, in 2015, women spent an average of 6 days cleaning, 6 days drinking, 4 days exercising, and 23 days bathing.
In comparison, men spend an average of 4 days cleaning, 8 days drinking, 7 days exercising, and 18 days bathing.
The survey also shows that commuting and sleeping take up a lot of time for both men and women. Men and women spend an average of 24 days commuting to and from get off work every year. However, men sleep for an average of 80 days, which is significantly longer than women's 66 days.
Surprisingly, men also spend an average of 12 days talking about the weather, while women spend an average of 19 days talking about the weather.
In the entire life cycle, the average person spends 226 days having sex. People who spend the most time talking about the weather can spend up to four times as much time as they do having sex - this may be a British characteristic (in British and American countries, people often use talking about the weather as a way of greeting or striking up a conversation. For example, when strangers meet, you can Say "It's such a nice day!" or "What a damn weather!" etc.).
You will be surprised to find that we spend a lot of time on "meaningless" trivial matters such as commuting, bathing, having sex, drinking, exercising, cleaning, and even talking about the weather. , what a waste of life. It is no wonder that when people approach the end of their lives and look back on the past, they always feel that there are still too many dreams that have not been achieved, too many lofty ideals that have not been realized, and there are many regrets left. remorse".
Five Dying Regrets
The former Soviet Union's novel "How the Steel Was Tempered" has influenced two or three generations of our country. Among them, a famous saying - "The most precious thing in human beings" It is life. Life belongs to people only once. A person's life should be spent in this way: when he looks back on the past, he will not regret for being inactive and wasting his life, nor will he feel guilty for being mean and living a mediocre life. When he was dying, he was able to say: "I have dedicated my entire life and all my energy to the most magnificent cause in the world - fighting for the liberation of mankind." - This is particularly widely circulated.
Although people with normal thinking will no longer regret not "devoting their entire lives and all their energy to the most magnificent cause in the world - fighting for the liberation of mankind", however, When people come to the end of their lives, it is inevitable for people to look back, and it is even more inevitable to leave many "lifelong regrets".
In 2013, a former nurse in Australia shared some of her biggest regrets about the final feelings of many terminally ill patients, triggering a heated discussion among many people about how to spend their lives.
Bronnie Ware is a palliative care (hospice) nurse who cares for terminally ill patients in their last weeks of life. She was surprised to find that many terminal patients shared the same life regrets.
These end-of-life regrets are basically the simple things in life, such as staying in touch with friends, living life as most people would like to live, etc.
Ms. Ware found that the most regretful thing for men is that they work too hard. At the same time, many people hope that they should express their feelings more bravely and more frequently.
Inspired by this, Ms. Ware wrote a book called "Five Dying Regrets" based on her own experiences.
In the book, she introduces: "I take care of patients who go home to die, and I accompany them through a very special period.
“Facing one’s own death, people will undergo many changes, some of which are shocking.
“Everyone will experience various emotions, from hope to self-abandonment, Fear, anger, regret, and more importantly, self-abandonment and finally acceptance of reality.
“Every patient will find peace of mind after leaving.
“When asked about the regrets they have left, they will give different answers, but some* **The same topic is mentioned again and again. ”
The five most common regrets among the elderly are:
Regret that they could not live their true selves more bravely, but always live in the expectations of others
“This is the most common end-of-life regret. When people realize that their lives are coming to an end, it is easier to look back and see how many dreams have yet to come true.
“Most people do not realize even half of their dreams. When death approaches, it is easier to understand that this is mainly due to the choices they have made or failed to make. Few people realize that health brings freedom until they no longer have it."
Regret that a lifetime of working too hard
"This regret comes from almost everyone I care for. Male patients. They lamented that they missed the growth of their children and their partners.
“Women sometimes talk about this regret, but most of this emotion comes from the older generation of women, and many female patients have never done so. Earn money to support your family. All the men I care for feel deeply regretful that they spend so much time at work that they feel like they are on a work treadmill that they cannot stop. "
I regret not having the courage to express my emotions
"In order to maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships. Many people suppress their feelings. As a result, they settle for mediocrity and fail to achieve the heights they are truly capable of. The resulting pain and resentment are the cause of many ills in developed societies. ”
Regrets of not keeping friends
“Often it’s not until the final week that they truly realize the full benefits of their old friends.
“Many people are deeply immersed in their own lives and let the golden friendship slip away.
“Many deep regrets are that they did not change what they should have been. of time and energy devoted to maintaining friendships. Everyone misses their friends when they are about to die. "
I should have been happier
"This is an extremely common regret. Many people don't realize until the end of their lives that happiness is a choice.
“People are often stuck in their old life patterns and habits and cannot extricate themselves. A so-called habitual “comfort” submerges their own physical and mental life.
“Although in Deep down in their hearts, they long to laugh. However, the fear of change makes them deceive themselves and others with masks in reality, and as a result, they can only stupidly return to the original life pattern. ”
What about you?
In the past year, and even in the life that has passed, where has your time gone?
In the future Where do you plan to spend your time in one year, or even throughout your life in the future?
When we come to the end of our lives and look back on the past, let us be brave in order to leave no or less regrets. Live your true self.