Editor Zhang Ma

As the old saying goes, "Friends lead the way and enemies block the wall less." Parents naturally hope that their children can make many intimate friends when they are young, so that their children can have a "good relationship."

However, not every child can have such a "good relationship" Some children have many good friends since childhood, and they are willing to help others. People around you will lend a helping hand when they are in trouble. Some children are withdrawn from childhood and don't know how to share happiness with others, let alone care about others' emotions. They have no friends and are not welcome. The reason why these two types of children are so polarized depends entirely on their parents' education.

Harvard University, a world-famous university, has selected nearly 1,000 kindergarten children for a follow-up survey. The survey results show that the social performance of childhood will directly affect the future social circle.

In fact, it is not difficult to see in our life that every time a child with good popularity meets or has a dinner with friends, many people often express their willingness to attend, and many people will respond when chatting with friends, but children with poor popularity are not very satisfied.

Generally speaking, when children are 0-3 years old, the most important social interaction is mainly parent-child relationship. When the child is three years old, the social circle is changed to classmates, and the partnership is the main one.

Under normal circumstances, when children 1~2 years old, they will begin to be willing to contact other children actively, and they have already acquired initial social skills. At this time, parents should pay attention to it and begin to cultivate their children's social skills.

When children are in kindergarten, there may be many problems: being bullied by classmates and unwilling to communicate with each other; It may even be that children bully their classmates and don't like to communicate with them.

Parents must guide their children well, don't underestimate the problems their children encounter in social interaction, and cultivate their children's correct social skills from an early age in order to let them get through the "social difficulties".

Social competence is actually composed of many factors. Parents can focus on cultivating their children's four qualities to improve their social skills.

As we all know, a person who is willing to share happiness with others is always the most popular.

As parents, it is necessary to cultivate children's willingness to share from an early age, so that children can understand that sharing is a virtue from an early age. When children share with others or themselves, they should express their gratitude to their children and let them know that sharing can be appreciated by others. Children will only be willing to share if they are happy.

If a child wants to be a social leader in the social circle, he must learn how to "win people's hearts", and the best way to win people's hearts is to help others and lend a helping hand when others are in danger. The other person will naturally think that this person is worth making friends with.

"Helpfulness" is a fine virtue of the Chinese nation. Helpful children are definitely the representatives of "brave, reliable and true friends" among their partners, and will be more popular.

Do we often meet people who can't talk in our daily life? They can often make people who have been chatting quiet in one sentence. We usually call these people "ice kings".

Language expression is a very important ability. Parents should train their children to use some polite expressions when they are very young, so that they can learn how to praise others. How to praise others without exaggerating or deliberately? Children who can express themselves in words can often make a friend through several conversations.

However, if children can't express their inner thoughts perfectly, they must learn not to talk. Listening more and interrupting less is also a kind of wisdom. When you see others willing to talk to you, you should also summon up courage to talk to them.

In fact, it is not difficult for children to learn sincerity. We prefer to believe that every child has a pure heart since childhood, and they are always ready to help others and treat others sincerely.

What parents should do is to set a good example for their children from an early age, cultivate them into sincere and reliable people, let them seek truth from facts in everything, and let them become sincere and reliable people.

As the saying goes, "If you get Michinosuke, you can't get Michinosuke." This wise saying is very popular in China. If parents want their children to have a better life in the future, they should cultivate their social skills from the age of 3 and let them make more friends.