The reason why two people are too self-involved in love can continue to rely on constant correction and repair of the relationship, which requires both parties to work together and understand each other for a long time. And when two people are dismissive of this, every time a problem arises, their first reaction is to find fault with the other person, shirk their own responsibilities, and feel that they are the most aggrieved. Naturally, they will feel tired. 3. If you have too strict requirements for the "sense of ritual", you will be more likely to be disappointed. If you have too many requirements for the sense of formality in the relationship, you will set too many rules and regulations, and then secretly accumulate "favorability" for the other party in your heart. Once the other person makes the wrong choice, you will be disappointed. 4. Taking too much control means that you are involved in areas that should not be involved. Many girls are prone to making this mistake: taking up the other person's personal space as a matter of course, asking the other person not to hide anything, staring at the other person's whereabouts like a prisoner every day, and his shadow is everywhere in their lives. Once it reaches this level, you will feel physically and mentally exhausted regardless of whether the other party will resist you. 5. There are too many wrong ways of giving. People regard "paying" as absolutely correct. Because they give a lot, do they have no fault? This is nothing more than a form of moral kidnapping. The other party needs an apple, and you give them a carload of pears. You have paid for it, but the other party has not noticed it. It is equivalent to waiting for a ship at the airport. Can you not be tired? So, how to effectively reduce fatigue in love? You can start from the following aspects: 1. Enrich yourself, find other interests besides love, and realize that love is only a part of life. 2. Make yourself better. Many times it feels hard because you are not as good as the other person. Make yourself better. 3. Regain your confidence, discover your own strengths, don’t worry too much about gains and losses, don’t mythologise the other person, and realize that he is just an ordinary person with shortcomings. When you have a little self-confidence and know how to reconcile yourself, the trivial details in your relationship become compulsory topics. Although you may still have a headache about it, you also have the confidence and ability to solve it. 4. Establish a correct concept of treating feelings. The earth will turn around no matter who you leave. You should try your best to maintain feelings, but you should not be too persistent. Know how to let go realistically and not lose yourself in feelings. Let yourself be fulfilled and excellent. Don't spend all your time on the other person, let alone think about where he is and what he is doing all the time. 5. Expand your circle and make more friends. Many times, the lack of friends is one of the reasons why you don’t get support or understanding when you encounter problems in love, which makes you feel hard. 6. Learn to consider issues from the other person’s perspective and avoid blaming the other person too harshly and causing trouble. 7. Remember what your goal is. Do you want to force the other person to seem to love you more? Or do you want the other person to really love you from the bottom of his heart? If it's the latter, complain less and be less emotional. 8. Learn some experiences and skills in love. This is not for everyone to learn routines, but for everyone to continue self-reflection and growth. When you truly understand some truths, you will look at the problems in your relationship more objectively. Problems, your heart will be more balanced and calm. At the same time, some experiences will indeed help us gain more happiness in intimate relationships. 9. Learn to communicate. Many times, two people find it difficult to be in love. That is, neither of them knows how to communicate, or there is a problem with the communication mode. For example, one likes to talk about problems when they encounter them, and the other likes to hide when they encounter problems. Then This will trigger the "attack-avoidance" conflict handling mode. As a result, the attacking party will feel that it cannot vent its grievances and become even more angry. The avoiding party will feel that it is hiding at every turn, but the other party is still pressing forward step by step and evading even more, forming a vicious circle. When communicating as a couple, how can we not appear to be preaching? 10. Learn to be brave and dare to let go. Many times, we feel hard in a relationship because the relationship has really deteriorated. The best way for you at this time is to let go decisively and leave bravely. Otherwise, this relationship will only make you worse. Near pain and toil.