Two years ago, my 3-year-old daughter was diagnosed with autism! At the time, we didn't know how to start. In order to seize this precious golden period of recovery, we find hospitals, institutions, and books for our children
As a parent once shared this sentence: Educating children, especially children with special needs, is the final step. It is the life skills of parents. I totally agree with this statement.
For the sake of my children, I need to understand the knowledge about this disease as soon as possible, hoping to help my children on the road of intervention.
So, I have read more than 80 books in the past few years, some intensive reading and some extensive reading. I have spent tens of thousands of yuan on reading alone. Now my children have Hats off.
I have compiled and summarized the books I have read, hoping to help parents avoid detours!
No.01 "Ten Things Autistic Children Want You to Know"
This book is known as the Bible of autism and has inspired millions of readers. It is recommended to everyone. A parent of a child with autism reads.
The author of this book, Ellen Noteboom, is the mother of two sons (one has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and the other has autism). As a parent and from the perspective of a child, she explains to us the ten characteristics of autism that autistic children hope every parent will know, so that parents can better understand their children and their children's behavior, and at the same time, she can better guide parents. Communicate with children in the correct way and help them develop.
Her books and articles have been recognized by many parents, have been translated into at least 19 languages, and have won multiple publishing awards.
I gained a lot from this book, and I understand my children’s behavior better, which is of great benefit to enhancing the relationship with my children!
Underlined sentences in books:
Only when parents get out of "autism" first can children truly get out of loneliness. ——Quoted from page 3.
Children with autism do need to acquire the vocabulary and skills necessary for normal communication (called generative language), but more importantly, they need to find a way to express their needs, fears and desires. . ——Quoted from chapter: Chapter 5.
Happiness does not come from getting what you want, but from what you have. … You cannot use the excuse that your child has autism. ——Quote from chapter: Chapter 10.
No.02 "Let Love Reborn" Coping, Acceptance and Growth of Autistic Families
This book is considered to be a must-read for every autistic family. of a book. The author, Dr. Robert Nassef, is a psychologist and the father of an adult son with autism.
He has a famous saying: "Special children are a challenge for parents." Whether from personal experience or professional experience, Robert has a wealth of experience to share with all autism families. Because I read this book at *** reading camp, I was very inspired after reading it, and it also allowed me to see the family members and their emotional needs that were ignored due to autism.
Underlined sentences in the book:
Break through each one and resolve the pressure - self-awareness, leading to the light. —Quoted from Chapter 6.
Love sets sail again - the rupture and reconstruction of the parent-child bond - quoted from Chapter 4.
No.03 "Capturing Children's Sensitive Period"
When I first got this book, I read it overnight. The cases in the book are simply wonderful! It contains Nearly 200 real cases of children (0~10 years old) in their sensitive period were collected, and all cases were recorded by parents or teachers. Watching these cases is actually a great enjoyment, and it also makes me understand the code of conduct that children have built since childhood.
This book makes me feel like a family doctor. When a child encounters a difficult disease and cannot understand it, he quickly picks it up and looks through it to find out what is wrong with the child and how the child behaves. Everyone can get the right seat.
Underlined sentences in books:
The emergence of self-awareness - the emergence of private awareness, clearly stating: "This is mine." - Quoted from Chapter 3.
Stubbornness - After the order-sensitive period, children form an internal pattern of order. Once adults destroy this order, children will cry and become anxious, showing irreversibility. —Quoted from Chapter 4.
No.04 "The Power of Games"
To be honest, I didn’t know how to play with my child when he was too young, and this book gave me the answer. I have to say that I reflected while reading and found the direction from my own perspective, such as how to get along with children, how to strengthen connections with children, and how to use play to resolve conflicts. This book also reminded me of In the movie "Life Is Beautiful," this kind of father is the father who interprets his gaming power to the highest level.
Underlined sentences in books:
The inner loneliness will make some children hide silently in corners and become unreasonable when getting along with others. Their uneasiness and irritation may even be annoying, but they are actually expressions that they need more care and help. ——Quoted from the chapter: Game Power.
Sometimes when a child is hit or punished by an adult because he tries to repair himself psychologically through games, he will psychologically retreat into a self-enclosed world. ——Quoted from the chapter: Game Power.
No.05 "Behavioral Teaching of Autistic Children"
The author of "Behavioral Teaching of Autistic Children" uses vivid metaphors and easy-to-understand teachings based on his own teaching experience. The language, combined with cases in daily life, explains in detail the basic concepts and principles of applied behavior analysis, and answers people's questions about it.
This book also allows me to clearly see how this method can be correctly applied in real life and how to more effectively improve the abilities of children with autism and other disabilities. I have to say that this is a systematic and complete book on ABA training, with many and comprehensive methods. If you are not clear about the intervention methods and plans for your child, this book can help you.
Underlined sentences in books:
String together children’s good deeds - quoted from Chapter 3.
No.06 "Denver Model of Early Intervention for Autistic Children"
A must-have book for novice parents. This book guides parents to promote their children's participation and learning through daily activities. and communication skills. The book also provides a large number of examples for parents to refer to.
Each chapter in the book generally follows the same framework: why such activities are important, what about normal children, what about autistic children, how to intervene, review and summary. The intervention plan is step-by-step: seize attention, feel social routines, back-and-forth interactive activities, non-verbal communication, imitation activities, focus on the same attention, pretending games, verbal communication, the learning process of 0~3-year-old babies is broken down in detail Actionable and interventional steps.
The biggest advantage of this book is that the steps are detailed enough, which is simply good news for some parents who don’t know how to intervene with their children and novice parents!
Underlined sentences from the book:
After those first anxious and hectic months have passed, as new routines are established and the children begin to make progress, the future also becomes It’s becoming clearer – Quote from Chapter 2.
No.07 "Social Integration Teaching for Autism"
As the only high-functioning autistic case in China who not only went to college but also got married and had children (although I had (Always thought it was misdiagnosis or marginal), Zhen Yuelai and his wife also stumbled along the way and encountered the same situation of being rejected by kindergartens and primary schools. However, their mentality and intervention methods are very powerful and are worth learning from.
My daughter found employment after graduating from college in 2008 and has basically achieved independence in social life. This successful case has become a huge inspiration and role model for parents of autistic children.
For more than 20 years, Zhen Yuelai has been providing autism education and training guidance to parents across the country and has helped hundreds of families.
Book underlined sentences:
"Relationships" are learned in "relationships" - Quote from Chapter 2.
No.08 "Children's Emotional Psychology"
If you feel powerless and have no solution to your child's crying, rebellion, anger, sadness, anxiety and other emotions, then this This book must be read. The theory is very professional. It quotes many theories from education and psychologists. It explains it from real cases and some emotional problems of children. It is also easy to understand. It has specific guidance methods and teaches parents how to communicate with their children. This book is really Very useful!
Underlined sentences in books:
Children’s health and happiness depend on parents’ ability to regulate their emotions - quoted from Chapter 1.
Don’t let “other people’s children” ruin your children’s self-confidence - quoted from Chapter 5.
No.09 "Positive Discipline for Children with Special Needs"
"Positive Discipline for Children with Special Needs" is the only book in the family education best-selling "Positive Discipline" series that focuses on special needs. Children's books are in demand.
I really like the ideas in this book, because every child deserves to have a happy and fulfilling life, and children with special needs have the ability to grow and change positively!
Book underlined sentences:
Provide children with opportunities to make emotional connections and contribute. ——Quoted from Chapter 9.
Focus on the kids, not the labels. ——Quoted from Chapter 10.
No.10 "From Diapers to Dating"
"How should we prepare for adolescence?" "How should I deal with sexual harassment on campus?"... As parents, in As children grow up, they will inevitably encounter the above problems. How to talk to children about "sex"? How to provide sex education to children? How to make children develop healthily sexually?
Especially for autistic parents, when I read this book, I was confused and worried. Fortunately, the book introduces corresponding treatment methods for different age groups, for the growing and developing autistic babies. In general, sex education is also very important, and I highly recommend it to all parents!
Book underlined sentences:
As parents, we know that children grow taller and go through puberty during these years, but are often concerned about the changes that occur to them socially and emotionally. No preparation. ——Quoted from Chapter 5.
Finally, I would like to share with you some unwritten tips about choosing and reading books:
1. When buying books, listen to and read more recommendations from parents. Don’t blindly believe in the best-seller list. The pitfalls I jumped over in the list would probably bury me.
2. It is better to believe in books than to have no books at all. Read more books, read more books, and read dialectically, so that you can eliminate the false and retain the true, establish your own parenting system, and then continue to practice, adjust, and improve based on the situation of your own children. practice.