If you are good at chatting, maybe your connections and social relationships are very good, so at this stage we should learn how to chat with others in a friendly manner and how to avoid making the chatting process worse. Got to be boring and cold. When chatting, the other party always behaves very coldly. It may be due to the following reasons: Not interested in you. In fact, this is the simplest truth. When a person is not interested in you and has no interest in you at all, no matter you No matter how nice you say it, no matter how proactive you are, the other person will ignore you. Maybe he will find a lot of excuses saying that he is busy and has no time to talk to you, but in fact the most important reason is because he doesn't like you, and he doesn't care about you. You have no interest at all. If it is between the same sex, it means that you are of no use to him. If it is between the opposite sex, it means that you are not his cup of tea at all. There is something wrong with your communication style. Some time ago, I saw a friend complaining to me about a boy's chat style. For example, when she told the boy that she had eaten, the boy would ask her what kind of food she had, and when she replied, it was rice. Sometimes, the boy will ask her what kind of food she is eating. When the girl replies that she is eating shredded potatoes, the boy will ask her if the food is delicious, and the cycle will never end. It’s hard for me to imagine how patient this girl must be to be able to continue communicating with this boy. This kind of communication will make everyone feel cold. As the old saying goes when two people don't get along with each other, the two of you are not speaking on the same channel at all. It's like playing the piano to a cow. In current terms, one is talking about sheep and the other is talking about dogs. They are not the same thing at all. How can we communicate with each other? Woolen cloth? The two people are not related, so the way of communication and the language of communication will become obstacles. In this way, the two people cannot interact well, and their relationship will become very cold. One is very busy and the other is very idle. A few years ago there was a particularly popular song called One in Spring and One in Autumn. This means that two people are in different seasons and their communication will definitely not be on the same channel, just like cicadas in summer. , how do you know the pain of the snowman in winter? If two people communicate, one person is very busy and the other person is very idle. The topics and tone of communication between them will be completely different. They may be able to talk to each other for a while, but they will not be able to communicate for a long time. The topics we talk about are not attractive enough. For example, men who major in science will always talk to girls about their studies. At this time, girls will feel very bored. As a girl, what I like may be beautiful clothes and good-looking cosmetics. , but if you talk to me about something about machinery, who would be interested? In the same way, the same is true for girls. Boys don't like cosmetics. You always tell him about the color of lipstick, and gradually the two of you can't continue the conversation. Living status If two people want to communicate very smoothly, then at least the living status of the two people is the same. For example, the wages earned by the two people are similar and the class they are in is similar. Otherwise, How can we communicate with one person who eats steamed buns every day and another who eats fish, duck and meat every day? Living status is a very important issue. If the living status of two people is different, the topic of communication will come to an abrupt end. Emotional message: Nowadays, the way people communicate is a science that requires careful consideration. In many cases, through communication, we can get ourselves higher profits or more beautiful girls. So after understanding the reason why the two of you communicate indifferently, you might as well think of some ways to correct it in time, so that the two of you can still get along in a friendly way. Taking the initiative to chat with the other party, the other party is very cold. 2. When the other party responds very coldly during the chat, does it mean that he is not interested? Definitely! In fact, whether a person is interested in you depends on his attitude when chatting. If you like her enough, no matter how busy you are, she will take time to talk to you, and you will not be kept in a humble state in the communication between two people. Ignoring you and being cold to you means that he is not interested in you, there is no doubt about it. The relationship between people seems complicated, but in fact everything has a trace. Those who give you a cold face are telling you to "cover your lukewarm heart and don't force it." There is no kind of relationship that requires you to give up your dignity and humiliate yourself, and requires you to suffer. For example, when chatting on WeChat, someone who really cares about you will not often reply to you with these words, because he knows that no one will like these kinds of replies. I didn't understand it when I was young, but later I got used to being humble and got hurt many times, and then I understood. And you have to know that in chat, people who really care about you will not reply to you like this. If he misses you, he will look for you; if he cares about you, he will tell you; if he likes you, he will show his true feelings; if none of these happen, then he will not bother you. Not taking the initiative or paying attention is a clear rejection. Adult feelings are actually very obvious. People who don't want to have anything to do with you can always be the most familiar strangers. People who want to stay in your life can enter your life no matter how far away they are. But when you are looking for a topic to chat with a person seriously, he always responds with um or oh. No matter how you ask him, he will not cooperate with you and will always end every topic of yours very quickly. It puts you into a moment of embarrassment. Most people like this are not interested in you.

When chatting, he always answers wrong questions. You ask him this and he tells you that. Either this person has completely different interests and hobbies from you, or this person doesn't like you at all, so he doesn't want to chat with you. Take the initiative to chat with the other party and the other party is very cold 3 What should I do if I am chatting with a girl and she is very cold or does not reply at all? 1. Reasons for not replying when chatting with girls 1. Failure before taking action If a girl has just met you, she will ignore you. Basically it is affected by things other than your language. We often say, "Victory lies within the scabbard." Two swordsmen are competing. One has practiced swordsmanship for ten years and holds a steel knife. The other has only practiced for a month and holds a rusty knife. Who do you think will win? Even if they haven't fought yet, the outcome has already been decided. Similarly, if you go to chase a girl, if you are unprepared, it will be over before it even begins. Social display is the business card of a person in the Internet era. Nowadays, social networking is mostly online chat, and it is mainly text-based. No one wants to chat to a landscape or cartoon character, so even if you chat online, girls need to understand your image and your life. In order to quickly understand strangers, the human brain will draw a portrait of the other person in their mind through a small amount of information. For example, when she sees a photo of you working out, she will think: This man likes sports. He must be healthy, energetic, in good shape, and not a nerd. When she sees you having exquisite afternoon tea, she will think: This person should be of good quality, quite sentimental, and be able to live a fulfilling life with ease. He won't be busy with life all day long, and it will be more fun and relaxed to get along with him. When she sees you wearing well-matched clothes, it not only adds points to your personal image, but also creates the association: This man is very good at dressing up. Walking with him will definitely turn heads and introduce him to his friends. There will also be face. Such a classy man is really rare. If you have three photos like this at the same time, girls will be more interested in chatting with you. This is the importance of life construction. We do not advocate making fake photos, but you can learn how to dress, go to online celebrity stores, and hobbies such as fitness are also worth cultivating. If you want to become attractive to women, you must break through your comfort zone and become a better man. On the other hand, if your photos are all selfies, the environment is sloppy, the clothes are tacky, and all your friends are forwarded, girls will regard you as a loser and be unwilling to continue chatting with you. Take a careful look at your photo wall and see if you have found the reason why girls don’t reply to you? 2. Putting too much pressure on girls. Many boys have not had a girlfriend for a long time. When they meet the one they like, they must be a little impatient and lose their temper. As soon as he comes up, he impulsively confesses his love, expresses his feelings, or asks for help, wishing he could be with this girl right away. Girls are afraid and uncomfortable with this kind of pressure, so they simply don't reply in order to avoid getting entangled with you. If you do something similar to confessing or pestering, the chances of a girl not replying to you will be greater. This is a typical example of excessive pressure. Before a girl develops a crush on you, it's like picking the fruit in a hurry before it's ripe. Of course, you'll get a bitter fruit. The early chat should be mainly relaxed and interesting, and you can express your appreciation for the girl, but don't be in a hurry to clarify your relationship with the girl. 3. Plain water chat: Girls are more passive in chatting and will not take the initiative to flirt with you. This requires men to be able to do it and to take the initiative to do it. Girls don’t provide topics, and you don’t provide topics. As a result, the chat is dry and has no content. The girl chatted very calmly, and you also chatted very calmly and logically, without any emotional fluctuations at all. The whole thing is like a glass of boiled water, tasteless. Where does love come from? Don’t think that if you logically talk about your advantages and conditions, girls will like you because of these. Like is an emotion that you need to create during interaction. Don't turn the chat into a logic seminar. Girls will feel like they are drinking boiled water and chewing steamed buns, which will be difficult to swallow. I won’t be willing to reply to you soon. 2. What to do if a girl doesn’t reply when chatting? Advanced techniques: Cut off the water. Don’t be impatient when chatting. Don’t send too many messages to a girl at one time. Give the other party time to respond to every word you say. We imagine chatting with girls as a flowing river, which requires both of you to participate and flow together. It can't just be you who talks eloquently. If you are simply enjoying yourself, girls will feel that they cannot connect with you, and you two will feel like you can't talk together and have no sex. In your chat, there will definitely be some topic points that girls are willing to respond to. Give girls time and space to respond to you. If you express yourself unilaterally, one sentence after another, and the girl can’t get in the conversation, she will eventually stop replying to you. In an interaction, the more involved a person is, the more they value the relationship. Just like a flower, if you water it every day, it will form a habit. You will pay attention to whether it blooms and worry about whether it will die. You feed a stray cat every day, and one day you suddenly don't see it anymore, and you feel a sense of loss in your heart. On the other hand, if you never pay attention to a flower, it will wither. You have never paid attention to a cat, and it has nothing to do with you whether it disappears or not. Therefore, the more you can understand some small pauses in the chat and let the girl participate, the more you can keep the conversation going. The chances of a girl not replying to you will be greatly reduced. You must take the initiative to introduce some topic points in the chat so that girls have something to reply to. If you always ask girls if they have eaten or slept, without providing any topic points for girls to reply to, it will be in vain no matter how hard you pause.