The poet Sadie said: "Career is often made of perseverance, but it is ruined by impatience. Indeed, impatience often prevents us from calmly examining objective conditions and acting arbitrarily. As a result, we often get twice the result with half the effort, or even get the opposite result.
Impatience is related to a person's temperament and personality type. Generally speaking, people with bile and blood tend to be more irritable than those with mucus and depression. For example, people with type A personality have a strong sense of urgency and competitiveness, which shows that they are busy and flustered all day. However, it is often skimmed, and it can't get in or sink. The efficiency is not high and the effect is not necessarily good. Of course, in addition to temperament and personality, it also has a great relationship with a person's acquired environment, education, cultivation and understanding. So, how should we overcome impatience?
1, and realize its harm. Only when we fully realize the harm of one thing can we have the motivation and strength to overcome it consciously. In practice, impatient people are likely to bring the following adverse consequences: First, a fleeting glance will leave a leak. For example, when reading a book, some students read ten lines at a glance, but in retrospect, they don't know what they are talking about, and they are also full of mistakes when doing homework or exams; Second, it is difficult to ride a tiger and put yourself in an awkward position. Some people like to say that wind is rain, which is euphemistically called "resolute and vigorous". Once they have or hear a novel idea, they will go into battle regardless of their subjective and objective conditions and will not calmly and comprehensively analyze the advantages and disadvantages and feasibility. The result is often to give up halfway, go away, and even make yourself unable to step down; Thirdly, he is often emotional, prone to lose his temper, rude and reckless, and blindly forces others to maintain unity with himself regardless of others' self-esteem and personality characteristics, thus making interpersonal relationships difficult to be harmonious. Sometimes good intentions don't bring good results. The fourth is to create unpleasant and irritable psychology for yourself, which affects physical and mental health.
2. Develop the habit of being calm and cautious, and think twice before you act. To see that the world is complex, it is impossible to act according to one's own wishes, and everything may be restricted by other factors. Sometimes "urgency" can't solve the problem, but it is easy to make things worse. Therefore, we should think calmly, make careful decisions, comprehensively analyze all possible situations, deal with them patiently, try to avoid some deviations and improve work efficiency. If the conditions are not ripe for the time being, first, create the conditions as much as possible, second, wait patiently for the opportunity, and third, change the goals or practices for the impossible to avoid thankless work.
3, timely self-suggestion, to eliminate the impatience that can be diluted. For example, when you are impatient, remind yourself: "Be calm, can impatience solve the problem?" ? Impatience will only make things worse. "Why are you too impatient?" And so on, you can also ask others to remind you in time when they find themselves impatient and unconscious. So as to help them restore their normal mood and avoid impatience.