We have all experienced that no matter what you say or do, you are always misunderstood, distorted, and slandered. Trying to explain, not only did not get understanding from others, but also made myself upset and aggrieved. Zhuangzi said: "The great beauty of heaven and earth is not mentioned, the four seasons have clear laws but are not discussed, and the principles of all things are not mentioned." After understanding these few words of Zhuangzi, we will eventually understand: the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. It doesn't matter. Don't wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep. "Zhuangzi: Zaiyou": Worldly people like others to be the same as themselves and hate others who are different from themselves. If you are the same as yourself, you will want it; if you are different from yourself, you will not want it. There is a relationship between people based on fate. Everyone has his own growth environment, experiences and encounters, and naturally has different horizons and different views. The ancients said that birds of a feather flock together and people divide into groups. Modern people also have their own social circles and friend circles, which are the barriers they set up for themselves. Trying to wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep is like trying to fit into a circle that is incompatible with your own magnetic field.
It's not his fault, nor your fault, but no matter how much you shout, you can't make him wake up from his dream.
According to legend, the ancient Jewish king Solomon once met a fool on the street. He said: "I will give you wisdom, do you want it?" The fool was unmoved. While chewing the steamed bun, he asked: "Wisdom What's the use?" King Solomon said: "Wisdom can give you endless steamed buns." The fool said, "Why don't you give me steamed buns now?" To forcefully persuade a person with completely different views and cognitions. Not only will they return in vain, they will often be harmed themselves. People who are willing to go the same way with you don't have to work hard to get a ride; people who are willing to treat you sincerely will not ignore your efforts. There are only more than 20,000 days in a person's life, please don't waste your time playing the piano to others. Because you can never wake up a person who is pretending to sleep, unless that person is willing to wake up. Don't associate with people who are flattering. "Zhuangzi: Robber Zhi": Those who praise others with a good reputation will also destroy them by betraying them. As the old saying goes, it's harder to draw a dragon or a tiger than to draw a skeleton. You know the person but not the heart. There is a kind of person who puts on a smiling face every time we meet, and can praise you to the sky in front of you for no reason. You should always pay special attention to this kind of person, because he may also be the one stabbing you in the back. During the reign of Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty, Li Linfu and Li Shizhi were prime ministers of the same dynasty.
Li Linfu was jealous of Li Shizhi and deliberately suppressed him, but on the surface he pretended to be friends with him.
One day, he said to Li Shizhi: "I heard that Huashan produces a lot of gold. If it can be mined, it can greatly enrich the national treasury.
It's a pity that the emperor doesn't know that you are the royal clan. I have deep trust, so why don't you propose mining?" Li Shizhi believed it was true and hurried to offer advice.
Xuanzong was very happy after hearing this, and asked Li Linfu to discuss it afterwards. But Li Linfu said: "I already knew about this, but Huashan Mountain is where the Dragon Veins of the Tang Dynasty is located, how can you dig it casually? Others advise you to mine, I'm afraid they have bad intentions." Associating with duplicitous people often results in bad intentions. Like Li Shizhi, he was still helping count the money after being sold.
“There is a pot of fire in the open, but a knife in the dark.” People who want to flatter others have no principles of their own. They are as enthusiastic as they are when they flatter others, but they are also cruel when they add insult to injury.
When you are in trouble, he will hide away, for fear that you will harm him; when you become famous, he will immediately nod and bow to you. Yang Jiang said, "When you are in a high position, all you see are flashy dreams; when you are in a humble position, you have the opportunity to see the truth of the world." Life is already crowded enough, there is no need to invite too many people into your life in life. Don't associate with people who are flattering, because it's not that you have more friends, but that you have more friends. Don't argue with people of different levels. "Zhuangzi: Autumn Waters": A frog in a well cannot talk to the sea, and a summer insect cannot talk to the ice.
You cannot talk about the sea with the frog in the well, because they have never seen the magnificent scene of "turbulent waves rolling up thousands of piles of snow".
You can’t talk about ice and snow with the ephemeral summer insects, because they have never seen the midwinter scene of “thousands of miles of ice and thousands of miles of snow drifting”.
In terms of personality, there is no distinction between high and low; but in terms of cognition and level, there is indeed a difference.
There are always some people around who like to comment on things that they don’t understand: What’s the use of spending hundreds of thousands to send your children to study abroad? It does not include assignment of work. What's the use of dressing up? Not sure what kind of glamorous thing it is. What's the use of going to college? When you come out, you don't mean to work for a boss who hasn't graduated from elementary school. What’s the use of a doctorate for a girl? It’s not about getting married and having children. depression? Nothing to do! If you ask him to carry 100 bags of cement every day, will he still be depressed? When you meet such people and argue with them, it just turns into a personal attack. Not only did you hurt others and yourself, but you also lowered your own level. You say you like the current working atmosphere and prospects, but he says it’s not because you can’t make much money; you say you can’t make do with marriage, and you can’t rush it, but he says if you don’t hurry up, no one will want you; you say life should have a sense of ritual, and he says Why are they pretending to be ordinary people with flat heads? As the old saying goes, always compete with your peers and never argue with fools. Instead of arguing loudly, it is better to be yourself silently, let time bear fruit, and give the most powerful response. Please remember: People of the same level do not need to argue; people of different levels, why do they need to argue? Don't argue with people at different levels, because not everyone is worthy of your explanation.
In a life that cannot be repeated, why put the shackles of the world around your neck? Please remember: life is here, not elsewhere; in your heart, not in the eyes of others. Don't live in the eyes of others, because there are thousands of appearances of sentient beings in the world, but none of them can match the appearance of you being loyal to yourself.