The advantage of studying psychology is that you can look at things around you with a more tolerant eye and have a more rational perspective. For example, there are always many sad-faced people around us. They always seem to have endless troubles, and these troubles bring more negative emotions. How to make yourself happier, if you understand these major psychological effects , your happiness index is higher. To borrow what the former comedian Sandra Ng said, it is always better to be happy in life.
1. Marginal effect - don’t overly stimulate our emotions with one thing
Marginal effect refers to the relationship between our input and output. I still remember the story of Zhu Yuanzhang. When he was most hungry, a bowl of noodles among the people was praised by him as the most delicious noodles. Later, in the palace, due to the delicacies from the mountains and seas every day, his immunity to delicious meals gradually declined. , but will miss the hungry bowl of noodles.
From a psychological point of view, we invest very strong emotions into something. When we experience it for the first time, the emotion is the strongest, and then it will gradually fade away. When we understand After this principle, you will understand why some people like to use breaking up to stimulate their boyfriends. However, if you use this method too much, it will be counterproductive. Therefore, avoid excessive use of one method in life, which will make you unhappy. It is to learn to use various methods to adjust your mood.
The Law of Not Worth It
2. The Law of Not Worth It - Learn to Choose
A friend of mine always likes to care about the eyes of others, so he always lives a happy life. Tired, there is a law of unworthiness in psychology, which means that anything we are not worth doing is not worth doing well. Once we have this mentality, we need to understand that many things in life are not worth our time and energy.
How to define the law of unworthiness? You can think carefully about what is the most important thing in your life and what is the most cherished person in your life. When we can sort out these orders, When we are clear, we can truly devote ourselves to living our lives.
The Broken Window Effect
3. The Broken Window Effect - Face it from a different perspective
I believe many people know the Broken Window Effect. Once there is a meaning, If a window is broken, more windows will be broken by others. The broken window effect is about the impact of the environment on us. Once we are in an environment where order is observed, we will naturally learn to abide by order, and once we are always in a chaotic order, this order will also deeply affect our behavior.
This effect has also been found in psychology. When a person falls into negative emotions, she will always encounter blows from all aspects for no reason. But once we cheer up, we can use a positive attitude to By repairing the damaged windows of the soul, our lives will be on the right track and we will bid farewell to our once bleak lives.
Retina Effect
4. Retina Effect - Breaking the Inner False Confirmation Bias
I believe many people have experienced the Retina Effect. For example, when some people are pregnant, they often When you see that many people around you are pregnant, for example, if you buy a BMW car, you will find more BMW cars around you. The retinal effect is our reaction to confirm that we have something or a certain characteristic.
This confirmation effect often leads to subjective biases in our hearts. For example, many people often say that the world is unfair. When he chooses this effect, he will see more unfairness and want to break it. We must believe in this prejudice and not be deceived by it. We must be clear. If we look at it from a different mindset, there are many other kinds of beauty.
Understand these four major psychological effects, you will find that the world in your heart completely depends on how you see it and how you choose. Your choice and the angle from which you observe the world will give you what kind of world you have. Life.
About the author: Tang Ruo, a national second-level psychological counselor, the founder of the mental growth training camp, and an international DISC certified lecturer and consultant. Toutiao Certified Psychological Expert, Penguin Certified Workplace Psychological Consultant.