Understand life-people are right and the world is right. Xu background story: One weekend afternoon, the pastor was at home thinking hard about the theme of the sermon the next day, and his three-year-old son insisted on pestering him to play. The priest was upset, so he tore a map of the world into pieces and gave it to his son, who put it together and took it away and took him to play. After a while, the son ran to the priest and said, it's over. The priest was very surprised and said to his son, "You can't read the map of the world. How can you spell it so quickly?" The son said, "I don't know what the world is like, but on the back of this map is the image of people. I know what people are like." So as long as people are right, the world is right. "The priest suddenly realized:" When people are right, the world is right. "Isn't that the theme of my sermon? 1. What is a person? Man is an advanced animal because he has a social (advanced) side as well as a natural (animal) side. This kind of understanding has been described in ancient and modern China and foreign countries: on the natural side, the ancients said: "food, color and sex are also" (Lao Tzu's language); There are also social aspects, such as: "You will know honor and disgrace when you have enough to eat and wear warm clothes" (see "Pipe". Herders). Ma Si Knorr, an American social psychologist, personality theorist and comparative psychologist, also put forward the hierarchy theory of human needs in his early years. According to Maslow, there are two different needs in the human value system. One is the "instinct or impulse" that gradually weakens along the rising direction of biological pedigree, which is called low-level demand and physiological demand. One is the "potential or need" that appears gradually with the evolution of organisms, which is called advanced need. People hide five different levels of needs from physiology to self-realization, but the urgency of various needs is different in different periods. People's most urgent needs are the main reason and motivation to motivate people to act. People's needs gradually change from external satisfaction to internal satisfaction. After the low-level demand is basically met, its incentive function will be reduced and it will no longer maintain its dominant position, and high-level demand will replace it as the main reason for promoting behavior. Once some needs are met, they cannot be the reason to stimulate people's behavior, so they are replaced by other needs. High-level needs are more valuable than low-level needs. Enthusiasm is inspired by high-level needs. Man's highest need, that is, self-realization, is to express his potential in the most effective and complete way, and only in this way can he get a peak experience. The five basic needs of people are often unconscious in ordinary people. For individuals, unconscious motivation is more important than conscious motivation. For experienced people, through appropriate skills, unconscious needs can be transformed into conscious needs. As the saying goes, what you feel may not be well known, only what you know can better feel it. Second, we need to master the "method" of how to be a person, not "define ourselves"-what kind of person we can become actually depends on the environment, but this is not a speculative idea, because the only constant in this world is "change". A horizontal and static basic understanding of human nature requires a vertical and dynamic analysis, that is, human growth and development. Around the age of 30, in fashionable terms, distress or stress will follow, so we have to think: why are we trapped? Who am I? Why am I alive? How will I spend my life? Wait a minute. Some time ago, I revisited Paul Kochakin's famous saying: life is the most precious thing for a person, and life is only once for a person. A person's life should be spent like this: when recalling the past, he will not regret because he wasted his time, nor will he be ashamed because he did nothing in the past; On his deathbed, he can say, "My life and all my energy have been devoted to the most magnificent cause in the world-the struggle for the liberation of mankind. "Many people say that life is too short to eat, drink and be merry. In fact, life can be short, full and happy because of accurate positioning and Fang Xiangming, and it can also be long because of doing nothing, just as we sometimes feel that a day is very short, even an hour or five minutes (the interview time of a trainer) may become long. Therefore, people's greatest distress is: how to know themselves, know the environment, and find their place in the environment. In other words, when people are right, the world is right. People have two worlds. One is the "subjective world" existing in the mind, and the other is the "objective world" in reality. The objective world comes first, the subjective world comes second, existence determines consciousness, and environment makes people. People's success is due to subjective efforts that conform to objective reality. People's failure is due to the disconnection between subjective and objective. Therefore, in answering "Who am I? ",don't define yourself by heart, choose yourself from subjective and objective perspectives, as the chairman said: what songs to listen to. Instead of: I can sing this song, and I will sing this song everywhere. In fact, it is more important for us to discover and master the strategies and methods of being a man, rather than constantly defining ourselves. Define yourself as noble or not. For example, some people often say: I don't care what others think, I am like this, at least I live up to my conscience. As we all know, people's conscience is not in their own hands, but is determined by the environment. The natural side of human beings tells us that human beings are instinctive, while the social side of human beings tells us that human beings cannot rely solely on instinct. They are dialectical unity. Our distress and confusion often come from the disunity of the subjective and objective world. There are big and small wisdom, and it is small wisdom to follow your own path. It is great wisdom to respect and objectively choose what you do. The way to be a man is obtained in the process of "knowing yourself-affirming yourself-denying yourself" and "knowing yourself-affirming yourself-denying yourself", just as the chairman said: Where does the correct concept of people come from? Did it fall from the sky? No. Is it inherent in your mind? No, people's correct thinking can only come from social practice, and can only come from three practices: production struggle, class struggle and scientific experiment. Third, the method of being a man The method of being a man is precisely a strategy and wisdom of being a man. The chairman said: politics and strategy are the life of the party. Since people have a natural side and a social side, so does the environment. Our judgment on people's gender actually comes from the environment, and the two complement each other. The natural side of the environment is "all the year round, spring, summer, autumn and winter", "the moon is full of yin and yang, and the weather is unpredictable", "it is fun to fight with the sky; Fighting with the ground is fun, and it is the survival of the fittest; The sociality of the environment lies in the relationship between people, that is, "it is fun to fight with people." Therefore, we said not to "complain about others". Dealing with the naturalness of the environment, we all know that we should add clothes in cold weather and reduce clothes in hot weather. Dealing with the sociality of the environment may not be understood by everyone, which depends on people's consciousness. In my life, I divide people into four types: shallow and clear, shallow and turbid, deep and clear, and deep and turbid. The depth here refers to the understanding of environmental sociality. The problem of turbidity will be described later. In my work, I also divide people into four types: those who have virtue and talent are genuine materials, those who have no virtue and talent are defective products, those who have no virtue and talent are dangerous goods, and those who have no virtue and talent are waste products. Human consciousness consists of two parts: consciousness and subconscious. When the consciousness makes all the decisions, the subconscious makes all the preparations. In other words: the consciousness decides what to do, and the subconscious will sort out how to do it. Consciousness is like an iceberg floating in the corner of the horizontal line, while the subconscious is a large and deep part buried under the horizontal line. We call consciousness and subconsciousness the automatic guiding system of human beings. If a person is determined to achieve something, then he will rely on the drive of consciousness and the power of subconscious to cross the obstacles on his way forward, and success will be reliably guaranteed. If consciousness gives the subconscious a goal, the subconscious will take action to achieve it; If the consciousness gives the subconscious an instruction, the subconscious will seriously carry out the instruction. Therefore, if a person thinks about success, he may succeed; If you consider failure, you can fail. A person expects more, gets more, expects less and gets less. Success comes from those who have a sense of success, and failure comes from those who unconsciously let themselves fail. Of course, consciousness has innate components and acquired environment. In the innate content, people are half "angels" and half "demons". Angels are in people's hearts, and demons are in people's hearts. "Angels" can breed ideals, honesty, love, integrity, honesty, selflessness and joy ... "Devils" can breed evil, cruelty, cold storage, betrayal, greed, jealousy and arrogance ... Angels will become demons, and demons will become angels. Of course, while angels and demons are sharply opposed, they also contain the possibility of mutual transformation. Hints can lead people to "heaven" and "hell". Hint is the "medium" of communication between consciousness and subconscious, and everyone will be greatly influenced by hint in life. Blaming others face to face, or criticizing others regardless of the occasion, will only lead to the stubborn resistance of the other party, and subtly suggesting that the other party pays attention to their mistakes will get the best results. This is a positive and healthy suggestion and will bring people into "heaven". Hint is the "medium" of communication between consciousness and subconscious. It is impossible for people to consciously choose and control everything in their thoughts and actions, and consciousness is often produced through frequent and lasting hints. Hint can make the most powerful thoughts in people's consciousness become subconscious and become a part of it. Everyone will be greatly influenced by hints in life, including good hints and bad hints. Some people accept positive and healthy hints and move towards success, health and happiness; Some people accept wrong and harmful hints, but lose their health, success and happiness. We should consciously resist false and harmful hints, consciously accept positive and healthy hints, and turn beautiful hints into subtle forces to overcome and surpass ourselves. We often say that "personality determines fate", and personality can create brilliance or brew tragedy. If you want to change your world and create your brilliance, you must change your bad character. It also includes a person's good personality. If your personality is healthy, your life will be happy; If your personality is morbid, then your life will be painful and sad. If you want to change your world and create your own glory, you must change your bad personality. Bad character will bring tragedy to people, so good character will inevitably bring glory to people. Socrates is a great man with good moral character. His wife was angry with him and threw water at him. He said: after the thunder, there will be a heavy rain. People's good character is mostly shaped by various intangible influences. That is, the role of the environment. Only with a healthy personality can we enjoy a healthy life. Many misfortunes and diseases in life are closely related to personality. People can't control congenital genetic factors, but they have the ability to master and change their own personality. Because people can save themselves, create themselves, honor themselves and control themselves. What kind of life do you expect? To be the best you can be, you don't have to be a "home" or a "name", let alone compare yourself with others. Just like human fingers, there are big and small, long and short. They have their own uses and beauty. Can you say thumb is better than little finger? Deciding the best of you is neither your material wealth nor your position. The key is to see whether you have a strong desire to realize your ideal and whether your potential can be fully exerted. Dogra wrote in his poem: If you can't be a big tree, be a bush. If not all captains, there must be sailors. If you can't be a road, you can be a path. Everyone can achieve the goal of "shaping the best of you". As long as you realize that you are a member of nature and a unique figure in the world, and firmly believe that you have "infinite ability" and "infinite possibility", you can create a harmonious psychological and physiological rhythm and establish an ideal self-image. The biggest development zone in the world is under your hat. At any time, most cells in my brain are "virgin land". When people often think of beautiful things and happy things, the brain will secrete a hormone, which can improve human immunity, defend against diseases, guide imagination and increase memory. If you keep thinking about sad things and annoying things, your brain will secrete a toxic hormone, which will have the opposite effect, bring people diseases and reduce immunity. As the saying goes: optimists live long, pessimists live short. Everything in the world can find the good side and the bad side. Holding half a glass of water, an optimist will say, "This is half full" and a pessimist will say, "This is half empty". Lose your wallet: Optimists say "It's a good thing I didn't put money in", pessimists will say "I lost all my living expenses this month". The brain is afraid of not using it, and the body is afraid of not moving. People who use their brains frequently have sufficient cerebral vascular oxygen supply and strong brain jogging activity, which can slow down aging. Generally speaking, only 5% of brain cells are working, and Einstein has only 10% more brain cells. When people are grateful, life will always be nourished. The whole of life is interdependent, and nothing depends on others. Since people have their own lives, they are immersed in the ocean of grace. A person who truly understands this truth will be grateful for the gift of nature, the upbringing of parents, the stability of society, the sweetness of food, the warmth of clothes, and the difficulties and adversity. Even his enemies will never forget to be grateful. What makes a person really successful is that he becomes witty, brave and open-minded, not rich and magnificent, but those blows, setbacks and opposites that can often kill himself. As the chairman said, it is the cunning of the enemy that makes us smarter. Dull is the bane of the spirit, which can make the mind more relaxed. People's hearts can't be clean, because they are too materialistic. Philosophers say that human freedom lies not only in doing what they want to do, but also in never doing what they don't want to do. This sentence reminds us that any freedom has limits and rules. Only the lack of freedom of behavior can achieve real spiritual freedom. Most people who are spiritually free can be cautious, self-satisfied, and keep a quiet and detached attitude. Do things calmly, calmly and methodically. In the face of various changes in the outside world, we are not afraid, angry, violent or impetuous. In the face of material temptation, the heart does not move and the hands do not itch. There is no trouble caused by trivial matters, and there is no drag caused by fame and fortune. Live easily and comfortably. I was satisfied during the day, slept well at night, walked steadily, and suddenly looked back without regret. The nervous system of the human body is in a stable, balanced and regular normal state, which is the greatest stretch of the mind. With a dull mind, he can keep pace with interests and be arrogant. He can resist the temptation of material desires and help you succeed in your career. With him, God will not forget you, but will teach you to understand the true meaning of life and enter a quiet and far-reaching realm of life.

Tolerance is a kind of wealth, and peace cannot be separated from life. A person who has experienced forbearance will get a bright life; Experience tolerance once, and it will open a door of love. If a person retaliates, he will be hurt more. Revenge will drive a good man to the edge of madness, and revenge can also push the innocent to sin. According to psychologists, revenge is very harmful to health. Hypertension, heart disease, gastric ulcer and other diseases are all caused by long-term resentment and excessive tension. Philosophers say: forbearing pain can bring sweet results. There are many things in life that should be tolerated and tolerated. Tolerance and forbearance are dedication, dedication, wisdom of life and magic weapon to establish good relations between people. Facts remind themselves that "evil ends here." Slander speaks louder than words. Anyone will inevitably misunderstand the world in life and encounter unfair criticism or even abuse from others, but remember: don't let the other person make unfair criticism or ugly abuse and become as irrational as the other person. Don't burn your body. "Being angry is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes." Kandy, experts believe that long-term resentment will not only make your face stiff and wrinkled, but also lead to excessive tension and heart disease. Mr. Ba Jin said: My only attitude towards rumors is to ignore them! The only tactic to win is to keep silent, not to have direct conflict with others, and even unnecessary explanations are unnecessary. If you are blessed, you will not be arrogant. If you don't understand this truth in life, you will be teased by good and bad. Because in a disaster, happiness is not necessarily hidden, but in happiness, the root of the disaster is not necessarily hidden. An old frontiersman loses his horse—a blessing in disguise. Look down on success and honor, look down on bad luck and humiliation, and look down on light. Honor and disgrace are the spiritual defense of life. There is no royal road to life, and on the long road, everyone will inevitably encounter bad luck and misfortune. There are many things in the world that are really unpredictable. Success is accompanied by failure, and failure is accompanied by success. Man is the unity of failure and success. When you succeed, always remember that any success or honor in the world depends on other factors around you, not your own success. If you fail, don't be depressed. As long as you struggle, you can say to yourself with a clear conscience: "There is no trace of me in the sky, but I have flown." In this way, we will win a broad spiritual space, gain nothing, lose nothing, grasp ourselves and surpass ourselves. Even if you own the whole world, you can only eat three meals a day. Who really understands its meaning, who can live easily, comfortably, contentedly during the day, sleep well at night, walk steadily, and suddenly look back without regret! Tolstoy said: "The less desire, the happier life". Carnegie said: "if we can't get what we want, we'd better not let worry and regret bother our lives." Let's forgive ourselves and learn more. " The essence of philosophy: the happiness of one's life should come from reducing dependence on foreign things as much as possible. If you are always dissatisfied, you will feel sad even if you have the whole world. Fame eludes those who pursue it, but pursues those who avoid it. People's pursuit of fame, if beyond the limit, beyond reason, will often lose themselves, not what you want to do, but what fame tells you to do. Madame Curie's attitude is: treat medals as toys. Being famous is the inevitable result of a person's pursuit of ideals and self-improvement, but it is not the goal of life. Showing off everywhere and showing yourself everywhere will go beyond the limit and reason. Time caught is like gold, but not caught is like running water. Time leaves regrets for those who have passed away and a glorious life for those who cherish it. Riddle: That thing in the world is the longest, shortest, fastest, slowest, least valued and most regrettable. Without him, nothing can be done, and any little thing will be destroyed. The biggest challenge in life is to challenge yourself. Challenge yourself, not by opportunism or cleverness, but by confidence. When people have self-confidence, they will have restraint. The biggest difference between people, the weak and the strong, success and failure lies in the difference of restraint. Once people have willpower, they can overcome their weaknesses. When you need courage, you can overcome your cowardice; When you need diligence, you can overcome your laziness; When you need to be honest, you can overcome your own selfish desires; When you need humility, you can overcome pride; When you need peace, you can overcome your impetuousness; A writer once said: convincing yourself is the victory of reason; I was moved by myself, which is a sublimation of my soul; Conquering oneself is a kind of maturity in life. Generally, those who convince themselves, touch themselves and conquer themselves have the power to conquer all setbacks, pains and failures. With the strength of self-confidence and will, a person has the quality to dare to challenge himself. Neither health nor spirit is indispensable. Whether a person wants to have a rich material life or a rich spiritual life, he must have health. Health is the first wealth of mankind. With health, there is hope; with hope, there is everything. Do people really cherish the most important wealth they have? The answer is no, people always put what they already have aside and hold on to what they don't get or what is unimportant. Many people don't realize the importance of health until they are seriously ill. This cannot but be said to be a great sorrow of mankind! Health is the capital of career success and the fundamental condition for a person to create wealth, enjoy the joy of success and the happiness of life. What is health? Some people think that no disease is health. In fact, it's only half right. According to the World Health Organization, besides physical health, people also include mental health and social communication health. People should not only have a strong body, a disease-free body, but also have abundant energy, smart wisdom and a good attitude. What is happiness? Happiness is like a butterfly. If you reach out and catch it, it will often fail, but if you put it on quietly, it will stay with you. Loving yourself too much will only make you lonelier, and loving others will make you happier. Happiness is a state of mind that has nothing to do with wealth, age or appearance. People who never know how to be grateful will never understand the true meaning of happiness! If you want to be happy, don't let yourself be listless. Do one thing that makes others happy every day, and you will be quick. Want to be happy, not to increase wealth, but greed! People who are too busy are often the happiest people, because they have no time to think that they are unhappy! The strong regain confidence from adversity, and the weak lose themselves from inferiority. If you underestimate yourself, you won't realize that you have unlimited abilities and possibilities. The more so, the more I can't jump out of my own thinking mode; The more I can't jump out of my own mode of thinking, the more I feel that I can't; If you feel that you can't do it, you must rely on others and be manipulated by others. In this way, every time I fail, my confidence will be hurt. Over time, everything will be done according to other people's views, everything will be manipulated by others, and sad things will follow. People's inferiority complex exists and arises not because they are inferior to others in knowledge and ability, but because they have inferiority complex and feelings. Why is there a mentality and feeling that is not as good as people? Because I often like to measure myself by other people's standards, not my own. To put it bluntly, I like to compare myself with others, especially the advantages and disadvantages of others. To be the best of yourself is the purpose of this article.