Without rules, we will soon become slaves to our emotions, and there is no freedom in this situation. When we judge by untrained instinct without restraint, we will not only lack pursuit, but also worship those qualities that are not worthy of our worship.

2. Idealists refer to those who pretend to know how to make the world a better place without dealing with their own internal chaos, and the warrior status given to them by their ideology just covers up their internal chaos.

3. There is nothing special about suffering itself. Each of us can find a specific angle to describe ourselves as victims. Pain is something that everyone is destined to experience. Even if it doesn't happen now, it will come in the future.

4. Cultivating the ability to distinguish good from evil is the first step to acquire wisdom, which is an eternal truth.

In contrast, modern relativism asserts from the beginning that it is impossible for people to judge how to live, because true goodness and virtue do not exist, and everything is relative. Therefore, the closest thing to virtue in relativism is tolerance. Only tolerance can unite different social groups and avoid hurting each other. So on social platforms, people will publicize how inclusive, open and compassionate they are, and then wait for the number of likes to increase. Promoting your virtue to others does not reflect your virtue, you are just selling yourself, which is probably the most common bad habit of people.

Relativists' position is uncertain, while ideologists are just the opposite. They are extremely critical and can always find fault with others and correct them.

5. Order and chaos are also the yin and yang that Taoists talk about, and they are two fish connected end to end in Taiji. Order is a white fish representing yang, and chaos is a black fish representing yin. Black dots in white and white dots in black indicate the possibility of mutual transformation between order and chaos. When everything seems stable, the unknown may suddenly come; When everything is destroyed, a new order may emerge at this time.

According to Taoism, meaning is the boundary between black and white, that is, Tao, which is the sacred road of life.

rule one? Winning lobsters never bow their heads: stand upright and hold your head high

? RULE 1? Stand up with your shoulders back

? Be careful with your posture, and don't hang your head.

? Say what you think and pursue what you want,

? This is the same right as others.

6. The pleasant chirping in human ears is actually a warning that birds are sending out to defend their territory. The singing birds are actually little soldiers who protect their homes.

7. The cold of the rich is the pneumonia of the poor.

8. High serotonin and low octopamine are typical winners.

9. The world of lobster is winner takes all. The same is true of human society. The top 1% population and the bottom 5% population of the social pyramid have the same wealth, that is to say, the richest 85 people in the world have the same wealth as the poorest 3.5 billion people.

this cruel principle of unequal distribution is applicable to any creative production field, including finance.

Bach, Beethoven, Mozart and Tchaikovsky, four classical composers, composed almost all the music played by modern symphony orchestras.

The principle behind this is called Price's law, which commemorates the scholar Derek J. de Solla Price who discovered the scientific application value of this law in 1963. This law can be expressed by a roughly L-shaped graph, with the vertical axis representing the number of people and the horizontal axis representing the productivity or resources. The basic principle of this law was actually discovered very early.

this polarization trend is sometimes called Matthew Effect.

1. Money will become useless because of your ignorance. It is very difficult for people who are not familiar with money to use it correctly.

11. When people's daily repetitive behaviors are automated and become stable and reliable habits, the complexity of life can be reduced and the predictability can be improved.

it doesn't matter when you go to bed, what matters is waking up at a fixed time.

? Negative emotional regulation system is closely related to maintaining an orderly biological clock.

12. When you start to have, you may have more, which is a more positive aspect of Price's law and Pareto distribution. You can create such a positive cycle in your own subjective world. Take body language as an example. If you are asked to adjust your facial expression and act sad, you will feel even more sad. If you make a happy expression, you will also feel happier. Limbs can express emotions to a certain extent, and this expression can even amplify or suppress emotions.

Some positive feedback loops embodied by body language can also occur in social interaction. If you are depressed and depressed, you will feel small and frustrated, and the reaction of others will amplify your feeling. People, like lobsters, will evaluate each other according to their body posture. If you fail, others will treat you as a failure. If you stand upright, people will treat you differently.

? Standing upright and holding your head high in spirit means opening your eyes to see the important task of life.

? Rule two? Care for yourself like a sick pet: treat yourself like a helper

? RULE 2? Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping

? Treat yourself like a helper,

? Does this mean that you need to choose

? Things that are really good for you,

? Even if these things are not necessarily what you want

? Or make you happy.

13. People naturally like order, in which people can make long-term plans and feel stable, calm and confident, so we all tend to stay in familiar places and stick to existing ideas.

Order is the stability of marriage, which is usually supported by past traditions and your expectations of traditions; Chaos is the collapse of your relationship when you find out that your spouse is unfaithful. Chaos is the feeling that we fall freely like scattered pages when our habits and traditions collapse day after day.

when chaos appears, the brain will react very simply and quickly.

There will be an instinctive reaction of the body at first, then a more complex and slow emotional reaction evolved later, and finally a more advanced thinking process. These reactions are automatic, and the faster the reaction, the closer to instinct.

14. Sacrificing for the noblest ideal does not mean accepting the continuous exploitation and oppression of others willingly and silently, otherwise it is tantamount to supporting tyranny and allowing yourself to become a slave. It is immoral to put up with bullying blindly, even if the person who bullies you is yourself.

15. Treat yourself as a helper, which means that you need to choose things that are really good for you, even if they are not necessarily what you want or make you happy.

you need to look to the future and think about what your future life will be like if you take care of yourself. What kind of career should I choose to become a valuable and beneficial person? When I have time and energy, how should I improve my health, expand my knowledge and strengthen my body? You need to know where you are before you can plan your future route. You need to know who you are before you can balance your own advantages and disadvantages; You need to know where you want to go before you can control the chaos of life, rebuild order and make the world full of the sacred power brought by hope.

? Take yourself seriously, redefine yourself, cultivate your personality, choose your goals, and clearly exist. Nietzsche, a great philosopher in the 19th century, said a wonderful sentence: "A person who knows what he lives for can endure any kind of life."

? Rule three? Give up bad friends: make friends with people who really want you to be good

? RULE 3? Make friends with people who want the best for you

? Make friends with kind and enterprising people

? It's no easier than associating with bad and decadent people,

? Because the former represents an ideal,

? It takes strength and courage to walk with them.

16. Not every loser is a victim, and not everyone who falls to the bottom wants to try to climb up.

17. The wicked don't become heroes just because they don't do evil. Heroes are positive, not just the absence of evil.

18. Malignancy is contagious, but self-discipline and feeling sorry for you are not, because it is much easier to fall than to forge ahead.

19. If you believe that a bad thing happened on your own, and the victim is not responsible for it, then you are equivalent to depriving this person of all subjective initiative in the past, present and future.

in most cases, people will choose to give up because the road to progress is difficult, which should even be the default assumption before you help others. You may think this is too harsh, but have you ever thought that failure is easy to understand and its existence does not need any explanation? Similarly, fear, hatred, addiction, promiscuity, betrayal and deception do not need to be explained. It's not difficult to get into bad habits and fail. You just have to avoid responsibility and thinking with an attitude of inaction and indifference.

2. The secret of success and virtue is elusive. Failure only requires you to form a few bad habits and let them ferment, and then you will fall into a vicious circle. Failure will come uninvited, and human sin will accelerate its progress.

Before helping a person, it is necessary to confirm whether he really wants to be helped.

21. Loyalty needs to be based on fairness and frankness, while friendship should be the result of reciprocity.

You have no obligation to support a person who makes the world worse. You should choose friends who are motivated and beneficial to you. This is not selfish, but in order to make each other better.

22. The courage to make progress can not only help you find the shortcomings of the present, but also reveal the hope for the future.

It's not easier for a kind and enterprising person to be a friend than to associate with a bad and decadent person, because the former represents an ideal, and it takes strength and courage to walk with them. You should be humble, brave and think independently to avoid unnecessary sympathy and pity.

So, make friends with people who really want you to be good.

23. People lack independence and cognition when they are young.

Because they haven't had time to accumulate experience and wisdom and establish personal standards,

they have to compare with others.

? Rule four? Overcome the inner critic: compare yourself with yesterday, not with others today

? RULE 4? Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

? You need to know who you are,

? What do you want and want to do,

? Then you will find,

? Solutions to your own unique problems need to be tailored.

24. "There is always someone better than you" is a nihilistic cliche, just like another saying: "What is important now will not matter after one million years." The response to this statement should not be "well, everything is meaningless", but "any idiot can name a time span that makes everything seem meaningless"

25. Arrogance, deception and resentment are the trinity of evil and the most harmful existence. The generation of resentment always means two possibilities: either because a person is immature, then he should stop complaining and continue to work hard; Either because a person is oppressed, then he has a moral obligation to speak out boldly.

why? Because the consequences of continuing to be silent are even worse. At present, it is easier to keep silent in order to avoid conflict, but in the long run it is fatal. When you have something to say, silence is lying, and tyranny is often based on lies.

26. Let me give you a hint: the future is very similar to the past. The only difference is that the past is fixed, but the future may get better. This kind of goodness may be what you can achieve with the least effort in one day. The present is always flawed, but the direction you are going is more important than your starting point.

? What you pursue determines what you see.

? Compare yourself with yesterday, not with others today.

? Rule five? Discipline your little monster: don't let your child do anything that makes you hate him

? RULE 5 Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.

? Disciplining children is a responsibility,

? Discipline is not anger or revenge for bad behavior,

? But a careful combination of kindness and long-term judgment.

27. Generally speaking, people will get better rather than worse with age, because we tend to be more kind and conscientious, and become more mature and stable emotionally. Bad behaviors like school bullying will be less common in adult society. Therefore, William Golding's dark anarchist work Lord of the Flies will become a classic.

28. A child will have many friends, but only one pair of parents. The role of parents is far more important than that of friends. Children are not aware of the long-term adverse consequences of a certain behavior, and friends have limited ability to guide them, so parents must take necessary measures and learn to tolerate their children's temporary anger and resentment. Parents are the arbiters of social rules. Only when children learn proper behavior from their parents can they interact with others in a meaningful and valuable way.

? The callousness and indifference of society will only impose more severe punishment on children.

You can choose to discipline your children, or you can choose to transfer the responsibility to a harsh and indifferent society, whose motives must not be confused with love.

? Rule six? When you feel so miserable that you want to curse everything: clean your room before criticizing the world

? RULE 6? Set your house in perfect order before you criti