Tolstoy told a story in his famous essay My Confession:
A man was chased by a tiger and fell off a cliff. Fortunately, he caught a small shrub growing on the edge of the cliff during the fall. At this time, he found that the tiger was eyeing up overhead. Looking down, there was another tiger under the cliff. To make matters worse, two mice were busy gnawing at the roots of the small shrub hanging his life. In despair, he suddenly found a cluster of wild strawberries growing nearby, within reach. So, the man pulled down the strawberry, stuffed it into his mouth and said to himself, "How sweet!" "
in the course of life, when pain and misfortune approach you, can you still enjoy the taste of wild strawberries? Seeking pleasure in suffering is the true meaning of happiness.
During World War II, a lady named Elizabeth Conley received a telegram on the day of celebrating the Allied victory in North Africa. Her nephew, the one she loved most, died on the battlefield. She couldn't accept this fact, so she decided to give up her job, stay away from home and hide herself in loneliness and tears forever.
just as she was cleaning up and preparing to resign, she suddenly found an early letter, which was written by her nephew when her mother died. The letter reads: I know you will make it. I will never forget what you taught me: face life bravely wherever you go. I will always remember your smile. Like a man, I can bear all smiles. She read the letter over and over again, as if he were beside her, and looked at him with fiery eyes: Why don't you do as you taught me?
Conley gave up the idea of resigning, saying to himself again and again: I should hide my sadness under a smile and move on, because it has happened, and I have no ability to change it, but I have the ability to move on.
Life is a one-way ticket, which never comes back. On the ruins of a 15th century church in Amsterdam, the capital of the Netherlands, there is a message: If this is the case, it won't be like that. Hiding in the mire of pain can't extricate itself, and it will only miss happiness. You have to wave your hand to say goodbye to pain. There is only one shortcut to enjoy the roses in full bloom today: break up with the past resolutely.
Beethoven's life experience of "sowing joy with tears" vividly shows the positive role of pain, and the experience of the legendary Iacocca more vividly illustrates the internal relationship between happiness and pain.
Iacocca became the general manager of Ford by her own efforts. On July 13, 1978, Iacocca, who was a little complacent, was fired by the jealous boss Henry Ford. I have been working in Ford for 32 years, and I have been the general manager for 8 years. The smooth sailing Iacocca suddenly lost his job. Iacocca was in agony. He started drinking, lost confidence in himself and thought he was going to collapse completely.
At this moment, Iacocca accepted a new challenge-applying for the position of general manager of Chrysler Automobile Company on the verge of bankruptcy. With his wisdom, courage and charm, Iacocca drastically reorganized and reformed Chrysler, and sought help from the government, arguing with members of Congress, and obtained huge loans to revive the enterprise. Under Iacocca's leadership, Chrysler launched the plan of Model K in the darkest days. The success of this plan brought Chrysler back to life and became the third largest automobile company after General Motors and Ford Motor Company. On July 13, 1983, Iacocca handed the only cheque with a face value of 813 million dollars to the bank representative. At this point, Chrysler paid off all its debts, and it was precisely on this day five years ago that Henry Ford fired him. Afterwards, Iacocca said with deep feelings: < P > Push forward, even if the luck is bad; Never despair, even if the sky were to fall.
In fact, it's very simple to be happy by yourself. As long as you have more confidence and know how to seek happiness in hardship when you are in a desperate situation, that's the true meaning of life.