Many people should have heard Professor Hong Lan’s TED talk that went viral on the Internet in 2016. In her speech, she introduced how the brains of men and women are very different. She was humorous and explained things in simple terms, which suddenly brought the distance between brain science and life closer.

There is no starting point for learning, and the brain is malleable throughout life;

It is difficult to force children to achieve success, and children learn fastest when they want to learn;

The brain is a limited resource , few people are blessed with everything;

Sports, games and reading are the three best ways to develop children’s brains?

Successful people do not win at the starting point but at the starting point. Turning Point As an educator, Hong Lan also received a PhD in experimental psychology from the University of California, a brain scientist, and was the director of the Institute of Cognitive Neuroscience at Central University. She told everyone that adults need to know what is going on in children’s brains: The areas represented by different colors in the picture below actually have different functions. For example, the yellow part is the frontal lobe, which also has the most advanced integration in brain development. The function, where the purple and gray meet, is the auditory value.

Therefore, parents cannot hit their children, especially on the head. Because this may cause damage to the physiological mechanism of the child's brain. Once the brain is damaged, people will encounter obstacles in the physiological mechanism. No matter how hard they try to educate themselves in the future, the hope is very slim. From the perspective of brain development, Professor Hong Lan said that everyone's nerves are plastic. Nerve cells in the hippocampus are regenerated, and the neural connections in the brain are constantly changing. When you learn, neural circuits strengthen.

Nerve cells in the hippocampus regenerate, and the neural connections in the brain continue to change. After the 9-month-old baby can crawl, he begins to explore, and the nerves begin to connect in large numbers.

On the far left is the brain of a newborn baby, in the middle is three months, and on the far right is the neural connection of a two-year-old child. In her opinion, there is no such thing as "lost at the starting line" or "3-year-old". Lifelong? and other statements. Because the human brain is always developing and changing, and the brain has plasticity. The brain constantly changes neural network connections in response to external demands. ?Its neural circuitry can be changed? Life is a marathon. What you compete for is the end point, not the starting point. The winner is the one who reaches the end point. Successful people do not win at the starting point, but at the turning point. Some parents may feel that their children are slow to awaken. Professor Hong Lan quoted two classics to answer their doubts.

If a person can do it, he can do it a hundred times. A person can do it ten times, but he can do it by a thousand. If you can do this, you will be wise even if you are stupid, and you will be strong even if you are soft. Either you know it when you are born, you know it when you learn it, you know it when you are trapped, or you know it when you are tired. ?Western Han Dynasty. Dai Sheng's "Book of Rites? Doctrine of the Mean"

Learning is "learning + learning".

If someone learns it once and learns it, learn it a hundred times; if someone learns it ten times and learns it, learn it a thousand times. If you can really act like this, no matter how stupid you are, you will become smart, and no matter how weak you are, you will become strong.

Some people are born knowing them, some people know them through learning, and some people know them after encountering difficulties, but as long as they all know them in the end, it is the same.

Emotions are the fastest tool to change the brain? Children have a lifetime to learn. There is no need to rush them or rush for a moment. However, improper handling of emotions will make children hate going to school and even become negative. Towards personality. ?Professor Hong Lan told us that emotions are the fastest tool to change the brain. Take learning as an example, active learning is useful, passive learning is useless. Children who want to learn learn fastest by secretly learning. Professor Hong Lan said that if a person thinks about bad things every day, negative emotions will be amplified. The brain produces ideas, ideas guide behavior, actions produce results, and the results change the brain.

Family is the earliest place for learning. Parents are the first teachers, teaching by words and deeds. Why is teaching by deeds so important? The answer is that imitation is very powerful.

The best toys in childhood are playmates. Many parents have a wrong understanding that a child's intelligence is related to the number of toys. So, buy a lot of expensive toys for your children. When she was at the University of California, Hong Lan personally participated in this experiment: The experiment put one mouse, two mice, and 10 mice together. The experimental results showed that the brain nerves of 2 mice together were the same as those of 10 mice. Put together there is no difference.

The brains of two mice together are no different from those of 10 mice. In other words, what children need most when growing up is not toys, but playmates. ?As long as a child grows up in a normal environment, having playmates is better than anything else. If parents can be their children's playmates, it is better than buying countless high-end toys for their children. ?

Where did you fall and get up in another place? How to deal with children who make mistakes? Professor Hong Lan tells everyone the correct answer: I don’t ask you to be perfect, I ask you to learn. When you make a mistake, what matters is not how bad the mistake was or whether it was your fault. What matters is that you turn the mistake into an experience. In the traditional Chinese concept, it seems to have become an iron rule that you should get up wherever you fall. Professor Hong Lan’s point of view is the opposite: where you fell, get up somewhere else. Why? She quoted a classic quote from Einstein: "Everyone is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its entire life thinking that it is a fool."

?Adults think their children are not good, mainly because they compare their children with others. Don't compare your children with others. The genes are different and the environment in which they grew up is also different, so the comparison is unfair. A child can only compare with himself. If he is better today than yesterday, he should be rewarded.