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I really envy people who were born 26 years before me!

Because at my age, they can enjoy all kinds of Qiong Yao dramas with bold lines and feel the violent impact of diverse views.

Someone once pulled out a line from Qiong Yao's drama 26 years ago, which was far behind.

This line is from Shui Yunjian, the third part of the TV series Three Lane of Plum Blossoms.

Story background During the period of the Republic of China, Chen Hong played this role as a model of a painting society, named Zi Xuan, the most beautiful woman in the whole painting society and the goddess in the minds of all painters.

She used to have a husband named Gu Yunong, but Gu Yunong is a layman, conservative and possessive, and can't understand art at all, which is what we now call "three views are incompatible", so Zi Xuan divorced him.

After the divorce, Gu Yunong has been actively improving, trying to integrate into the circle of painters, and his relationship with Zi Xuan has gradually improved.

But at this time, Zi Xuan fell in love with the painter Mei Ruohong.

Mei Ruohong is a romantic wit. After a short period of friendship with Zi Xuan, she fell in love with Sandy, a pure rich girl.

Zixuan was heartbroken after her lovelorn love, so she threw herself into the arms of two other painters.

Not long after, Zixuan found herself pregnant and gave birth to a lovely baby.

but the question is, who is the father of the child?

There was no such thing as paternity test in the play. Two painters and their ex-husbands scrambled to be fathers, and the scene was once chaotic.

finally, zixuan made a decision: "this child takes my mother's surname, and you are both the father of the child, so we have equal opportunities!" "

"You can take care of me and the children, just don't try to be the father of the children!"

zixuan is so beautiful, of course she has the final say.

So several men turned swords into spears and started a happy cooperative parenting mode.

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After the screenshot of this video was circulated on the Internet, many people screamed: "It's too ruined!"

yes, my first reaction was that such lines were too damaging.

But on second thought, Zi Xuan is right. She gave birth to the child, and of course she can take her mother's surname. As for the father of the child, she didn't force anyone to be a father, let alone point at anyone's nose and say: Although you are not the father of the child, you must contribute money.

since she has such courage, it shows that she has thought from the beginning that she can raise the child by herself even if the child has no father.

is it over when you think about this layer?

of course not.

Because it is easy for us to see: "It's okay to have a single child and take the mother's surname, but it's still morally unreasonable to step on several boats."

is this a conclusion?

not yet.

Because we can continue to discuss: "If it is incorrect to say that Zi Xuan has several boyfriends at the same time in Shui Yunjian, what is The Duke Of Mount Deer? What is Empresses in the Palace? Aren't they all reflecting the characteristics of the time? When the gender changes, it will be shameful? "

Next, we can think in two directions, one is the different attitudes of public opinion towards different sexes, and the other is whether works of art should respect facts or pay attention to three views.

From this, we can see that thinking about a line is far from being completed by "destroying three views".

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Why did I just focus on a line, which caused a series of problems?

Because I hope everyone can see that human cognition, like climbing stairs, is a spiral rising process.

You may be negative at first, then positive, then negative and repeated.

but repeated, doesn't mean doing useless work. After denying, affirming and denying again, although your conclusion has returned to the original point, your cognitive level has been higher than that at the beginning.

but unfortunately, there are too many parents who don't want to do this at all.

They live in a black-and-white world, firmly believe that what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong, and then pass on what they think is right to their children.

He only wants children to accept the so-called right things, and even does not allow children to chew repeatedly, because chewing means questioning and disrespect.

For example, he told his children, "As long as you persist, you will succeed."

of course, this is a correct sentence with a good starting point. Encourage children to persist in doing one thing.

And once the child asks, "Is this really the case, as long as you persist, you can get the desired result?"

He immediately became angry: "Didn't I tell you that as long as you persist, you will succeed!" "

well, please tell me, if you insist on doing something and I insist on preventing you from doing it, will we both succeed?

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Once, Zhihu's last question was very popular: "If your 3-year-old son wanted to wear women's clothes, how would you react?"

Someone answered-

When my son was two and a half years old, he saw a little sister in the neighborhood wearing a skirt in circles. He was envious and wanted to wear a skirt.

then I found four skirts online and asked him to choose one.

He said, "If my son wants to wear women's clothes, don't say that he is 3 years old, and I will support him at the age of 3!"

I admire such parents.

Because they don't stand on the moral high ground, they tell their children what is right and wrong in an imperative tone, but respect their own feelings.

Some people are unconvinced: "If he grows up and one day begins to be discriminated against and ridiculed by the society, how can you guide him?"

He said, "My children have been taught since childhood to follow their hearts and try what you think is right without breaking the law and harming the interests of others! Don't care about those who laugh at you, those who know you and those who love you, they deserve your precious time! "

how many people can follow their hearts and try more possibilities without breaking the law and harming the interests of others?

There are too many people who "have no room for sand in their eyes". They are against everything they think is "incorrect", as if the world would be clean and everyone's heart would be pure forever.

as everyone knows, such three views are correct, but they just stay at the bottom of the spiral, taking "I should think" as "I think" and can't stand any test.

I really envy those people who sat in front of the TV and watched Qiong Yao's drama 26 years ago.