A woman over 50 years old is halfway through her life, and her appearance is no longer as full of collagen as a young girl in her 20s. Her body is about to enter a long aging period, and her energy and vitality are not as good as when she was young.

Women over 50 have grown up children and no longer rely too much on themselves. My husband has lived together for decades, and the freshness of each other has long since disappeared...

At this time, some people will be afraid that no one will care about them, and they will be afraid of losing this and that. Showing excessive anxiety and lack of security.

Emotional writer Su Cen once said: "In a woman's life, her origin affects you for twenty years, her appearance affects you for thirty years, and only wisdom affects your life. A woman's success begins with: she knows how to do it A real woman. ”

Everyone thinks about their own life to some extent. As a woman over 50, she should divert her attention from others. Come back and think about how to learn to "enrich" yourself so that you can live more freely and happily for the rest of your life.

1. Improve yourself through rich experiences

People often say that the road you travel is full of scenery; Everything is based on experience.

Regarding experience, these words often pop up: experienced, experienced, experienced, experienced, experienced, etc. This is the accumulation of the ups and downs of life and the beating of various things.

In his 50 years of life, most people will experience a lot of things. They can review, summarize, and reflect on them, improve their understanding, and understand the true meaning of life.

At the same time, by constantly enriching your own experience, you can enrich your own connotation and enrich your life.

Life is limited, it is impossible to experience everything, and there is no need to experience everything. There are many ways to enrich your experience.

Communicate with different people. You can communicate with your parents and learn from them the wisdom and insights of life in the longer years. You can communicate with young people and learn from them their knowledge and feelings about new things. You can communicate with people who love traveling, and learn from them their closeness to nature and their broad vision... Everyone has different experiences and views on things. Communicate with others and learn more. Their thinking, attitudes and views on things also have different experiences.

Increase some accumulation. In our work and life, it is very important to accumulate necessary knowledge and experience. Whether it is direct experience or indirect experience, it is meaningful to our lives. We should observe and experience more and continue to increase various accumulations.

Read more books. An important way to gain knowledge and enrich experience is to read and learn to invest in your own brain. Once the knowledge in the book is converted into your own, no one else can take it away even if they want.

2. Learn to be calm in the cultivation of sentiments

Mr. Yang Jiang wrote in "Remarks on One Hundred Years Old", " We once longed for the ups and downs of destiny, but in the end we discovered that the most beautiful scenery in life is the inner calmness and calmness. We once looked forward to the recognition of the outside world, but in the end we realized that the world belongs to us and has nothing to do with others. Relationship. "

"The Book of Dadaili" once wrote: "If the water is extremely clear, there will be no fish, and if people observe it, there will be no disciples." If the water is too clear, there will be no fish. It is difficult to survive, and if a person is too smart, he cannot tolerate others, and there will be no partners around him.

When you are alive, you don’t need to understand everything. When I was young, I was full of energy, motivated, competitive, and fought back and forth. I often won the words and momentum, but lost friendship and even family affection.

Good cultivation can best reflect a person's taste and value. Start from the things around you, start from the details, cultivate your body and mind, and improve your taste and pattern.

Learn to take things lightly. Only by taking everything lightly can we be self-sufficient, moderate and become a well-educated person. You will not force others to understand, you will not be demanding of others at will, and you will not blindly demand yourself. What you get may not be happy; what you lose may not be a disaster; looking down is luck, and being open is blessing.

Learn to think broadly. People trouble themselves because they think too much, pursue too much, desire too much, and have too much greed. Living in this life is not easy. Everyone will encounter unsatisfactory things. The key is that as long as we think about it, our lives will be easier. People who think openly will have fewer worries and learn to treat everything with a normal mind.

Learn to live clearly. People who live a clear life often know that there are joys and sorrows in the world, which is the most normal thing. When they encounter something happy, they will at most be happy in their hearts, and will not show too much on their faces, let alone get carried away. They do not live for others, but live with their own characteristics. Be true to yourself, have your own standpoints and opinions, and have your own attitude towards the world.

Nine out of ten things in life are unsatisfactory. You must learn to be simple and don’t care too much about many things. Learn to forget some things and forget them less. With less entanglements and less complaints, your heart will be relaxed and you won't be tired. Tolerance and generosity will make you feel happy and live your life calmly.

3. Improving cognition in lifelong learning

There is a sentence in "Shi Kuang Encourages Learning", "When you are young, you are eager to learn, like the rising sun; when you are strong, you are eager to learn, like the light in the sun; when you are old, you are eager to learn, like the brightness of a candle.", which fully illustrates the meaning of life. The importance of learning.

Wu Bofan once mentioned "cognitive grade repetition", "Many people say goodbye to their status as students, but also say goodbye to the career of learning. Cognitively, he has become a repeater. Unlike true repeaters, cognitive repeaters may be of the same age, but their cognition may be decades apart. ”

Think about it, this sentence makes a lot of sense. We might as well find two such people, and I believe they are almost the same as what he described.

I very much agree with what a netizen said when commenting on the difference between people who often study and those who don’t. “There will be a difference in temperament and conversation, and people who study often will be People are more qualified and speak more politely. Their mental states will also be different. People who study often are positive in their hearts, and learning greatly enriches their abilities and broadens their horizons. People who don't study will complain all day long. , will only complain about others and will not improve their own abilities."

Sanmao said: "When you read more, your appearance will naturally change. Many times, you may think that many of the books you have read have become a passing smoke and can no longer be remembered. In fact, they are still It is potential. In temperament, in conversation, in the boundless mind, it can also be revealed in life and writing. "

Keep learning throughout your life and avoid " "Cognitive repetition", work hard to achieve it, and have the spirit of poetry and calligraphy in your belly.

4. Stimulate vitality through exploration and curiosity

Many studies have shown that regular acceptance People who are infected and stimulated by novel things have high brain cell activity, which can constantly mobilize the brain's excitement points, promote brain thinking, and boost people's spirit.

You must have an eye for discovery and a curious heart.

Without curiosity, how could Newton's discovery of "universal gravitation" be possible?

Curiosity is not just for children and young people. People need to have a curious heart at different stages of their lives. As age increases, especially after the age of 50, physical decline will accelerate, thinking will begin to slow down, and reactions will gradually become dull, which will lead to easy forgetfulness, conservatism and negativity. Being more curious and childlike can not only delay the aging of the brain and the degradation of thinking, but also stimulate vitality and refresh the mind.

On the contrary, he is not interested in anything, and seems to have seen through everything, but seems to understand nothing. Turn your nose up at new things and look down upon them. Over time, people will become depressed and depressed.

People must have a certain amount of sustenance. If they have nothing, they will inevitably focus their energy and attention on a certain aspect, or even transfer it to the negative side. They will be sad and resentful all day long, constantly anxious, and constantly worried. uneasiness.

Maintain passion while never being satisfied; maintain vitality while always being curious.

5. Cultivate the spirit while strengthening the body

If you want to pursue your dreams, you often need a healthy body to be calm and energetic. Move towards your goals in life.

Last week, I met an elder sister whom I hadn’t seen for about 5 years. During a casual chat, I learned that she had just retired from her work the year before, so she subscribed to a health newspaper and participated in After attending a traditional Chinese medicine health care class, I learned the Book of Changes while maintaining health. My whole life became happier and more energetic.

A 50-year-old woman should develop the habit of exercising. Some people say that I didn’t even exercise when I was young, but now that my arms and legs are old, I can’t exercise anymore. Having said that, we might as well try walking, practicing yoga, square dancing, Tai Chi, etc. every day, step by step, not for a long time. After a month, compare the steps before and after. Are you more relaxed before, are you in a more cheerful mood, and are your spirits better than before?

You can learn some health knowledge. If you study a little bit every day, you will be healthier. For example, you must have a good habit of drinking water on time; eat more whole grains, vegetables and fruits, and have a balanced diet; when you are sick, don't force yourself to go to the hospital for diagnosis and treatment; develop a nap habit and maintain your spirit. For another example, in a fast-paced life, don’t keep yourself in a state of tension. Occasionally let yourself be lazy and relax properly, which is good for your health; for example, get up early and go to bed early. Don’t be too hasty when you get up. You can stay in bed for a few minutes. ; Sit down to relax your mind, etc., learn some knowledge about traditional Chinese medicine and health care, and persevere.

Civilization is the spirit, barbarism is the body. Spirit and body are two aspects of a person that promote each other and cannot be neglected.

Everyone is familiar with this famous saying: "A sound mind resides in a healthy body." Exercise and health maintenance strengthen the body externally, cultivate the mind and spirit internally, and cultivate both internally and externally. If you want to maintain a healthy body and energetic mind, start exercising and staying healthy.

No one can live forever, no one can look good forever. The increase of age, aging of appearance and degeneration of body are the laws of nature.

Women over 50 don’t have to be afraid or worry, try to learn to enrich yourself. This kind of wealth is not the accumulation of luxury goods and money, but spiritual wealth and inner peace, nourishing a rich soul, a sound personality, and a full spirit. Start the rest of your life calmly and calmly with a firm pace and a confident smile.

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