I saw a sentence that said: "Children who grow up in a loving family have a strong sense of self-confidence and security that I will never be able to imitate in my life." This sentence is really true. It makes sense and is very touching.

It is said that character is the product of environment. When a person grows from an ignorant child to an adult with mature thinking, the impact of the environment on people is really great.

Everyone says that in happy native families, children strive to be happy throughout their lives; in bad native families, children spend their entire lives getting rid of unhappiness and healing the spiritual damage suffered in childhood. This is really the case in reality.

If you grow up in an unhappy native family, you will be affected by many bad influences. You may have low self-esteem, you may have a bad temper, and you may not be able to see your own problems.

But we should also realize that we have no right to ask our parents for understanding and changes. After all, they have given us the most precious life, but it is still up to us to improve the relationship.

If you really want to overcome the influence of your family of origin on you, you can work hard. You have to learn to embrace yourself, face yourself, and most importantly, accept yourself and be brave enough to change.

Analyze yourself deeply, understand the obstacles you have, and list them down one by one, such as low self-esteem, procrastination, fear of making decisions, etc. When you list the obstacles you currently have without politeness, When you come out, you have already taken the first step.

You have to make peace with your family of origin. When you make peace with the resentment in your heart, you will find that the impact on your life is no longer so heavy.

If you are already a parent, don’t impose the problems you have suffered on your children. You can change yourself and give your children a better living environment.

"Fortunate people are healed by childhood throughout their lives; unfortunate people are healed by childhood throughout their lives." This famous saying of Adler, the founder of individual psychology, has been quoted many times. As parents, we want our children to be lucky people.