The boundlessness of heaven and earth is mostly hidden in the struggle without desire; The wisdom of the world is often born of warmth and humility. It means "the elephant is invisible and has a loud voice."

In the noisy world, it seems to be the normal state of modern people to persist in pursuing the satisfaction of desire and gradually sink into desire.

However, in a life born with desire, only by staying restrained and sober can live high become what he wants after abstinence.

Mencius said, "Nourishing the heart is not good at lust."

The so-called no desire is just, that is, to control your own desires and face life with an indifferent attitude of "I am lucky, but I lost my life";

You can clean up your inner desires, walk the world with a comfortable and natural mental attitude, and enjoy life with peace of mind.

Remember Zhao in in the name of people?

Zhao holds the power to examine and approve the country's mineral resources, and leaders at all levels have to line up when they see him, and his personal vanity is satisfied, which makes him greedy.

He scrimped and saved on weekdays, lived in a very ordinary house, had a particularly cheap Zhajiang noodles for dinner, gave his mother 300 yuan living expenses every month, and lived a life like ordinary people.

However, it is such an honest-looking person who is greedy for 230 million. Money is everywhere in the refrigerator, bed and wall at home.

When the story was revealed, he knelt on the ground and hated it. He cried and said, "I am a farmer's child, and I am afraid of being poor. I dare not spend so much money! " "

Nothing in the world is difficult for one who sets his mind to it. A greed ruined his sincere happiness and made him nervous all his life.

The old saying goes well: "People are worried if they want more, and happy if they want less."

If there are not so many worldly and unrealistic desires, people will have more pure happiness;

I'm not afraid of ill-gotten gains, and I don't have to worry about competing for the valley of desire. I will live a happier life.

In Zhuangzi's "Happy Travel", there is a saying:

"Wren nest in the depths of the forest, but one; The mouse drank the river, but it was full. "

It is said that no matter how lush the forest is, birds only occupy one of them;

The mole crossed the Yellow River and drank desperately, but only drank his little belly.

Everything is limited. Even if you want to have the whole world, you have been to the whole world, but those worlds are in your square inch.

In one of Tolstoy's novels, such a story is recorded:

The king wanted to reward a warrior and said to him:

"You run, how far you run before the sun goes down, then this area is your city."

The soldier was very excited. He ran like hell, ran like hell, foaming at the mouth, and went on. The sun is about to set, and he wants to run farther and go to more cities.

However, when the sun really set, he fell down and died of exhaustion.

Unfortunately, the king said, "Why are you so greedy? You fell, this is the only loess that buried you. "

If you don't have enough desire, you lose it.

It is wishful thinking to want to include all the endless desires in your hand.

Know how to be content, and jump out of the encirclement of desire to get real gains.

You know, if people can control their own desires and make clear the real needs of life and self, comedy will happen;

Indulge in the desire to grow up and indulge in desire will only lead to tragedy.

Nietzsche once said, "Adult, you need something more advanced than desire."

A Japanese drama diary of a 38-year-old divorced woman dating APP tells such a story.

Qian Qiu, a 38-year-old freelance illustrator, occasionally feels lonely when she rents a house alone after divorce.

Under the recommendation of a friend, she downloaded the dating APP and began to try to contact the person she matched.

The world is full of miracles. Qian Qiu was surprised that so many people were interested in her divorce at the age of 38. She thought she could find the right one here, but the reality was embarrassing.

Some people's real looks don't match the online pictures, and their behavior is obscene. They wanted to send her home for the night the first time they met.

Some people are arrogant and extremely confident in themselves, and don't care what Qian Qiu said at all;

Some people are gentle, and they can talk about artistic life with Qian Qiu. Qian Qiu just had a crush, but he immediately exposed the prototype.

It turns out that no matter what kind of man he is, he wants to have sex with her quickly on this APP.

At first, she also thought, is it really possible to have such feelings from the beginning of the body?

Later, when you brush it, you will feel a little fresh meat, indulge it and make her crazy.

She learned to take part in accidental amusement, and slowly, she fell in love with this feeling of indulgence.

However, when she wandered between different men, her best friend died, and she suddenly realized that fresh physical lust could not solve any problems in her sadness, loneliness and depression.

These people who sleep in the same bed with her today have no value to appease her emptiness and loneliness.

Life is a lot of desires. If you are not satisfied, you will suffer, and if you are satisfied, you will be bored.

But the satisfaction of the body is only a temporary pleasure, and the filling of the heart will have a more lasting charm.

As Mr Schopenhauer said:

Completely solving the injustice and pain of life, controlling one's own desires, that is, abstinence, practicing Buddhism and Zen, so as to enter the world of nirvana, this is the most correct direction of life and the direction one should take.

Life needs to have the determination to put quality before quantity, even if it is just a fast food and a ladle of drinks, it will not change the fun, so that we can really enjoy the wonderful life.

I quite agree with Mr. Ma Boyong's words: "People who are insatiable and know how to control themselves are often extremely clever."

Knowing what you want, how to do it, self-control and self-restraint are just right, and they are smart people.

Mr. Liang Shiqiu was diabetic in his later years and could not eat sweets. He well practiced the meaning of "not eating is eating".

Once I got together with my friends, I served many dishes, such as delicious mixed fried rice, rock sugar elbow and smoked fish. He didn't order chopsticks. A friend asked, he said:

"This contains sugar, and that starch is too much, which is converted into glucose. I can't eat. "

The friend sighed: "It seems that you can't eat anything today."

However, when the eight-treasure rice was served, Liang Shiqiu feasted on it, which puzzled his friends. You should know that eight-treasure rice can contain all kinds of sugar and starch.

Liang Shiqiu explained: "I didn't eat so much delicious food in front, just to leave the quota for me."

In the face of delicious food, I can't control my mouth, so I have to control my mouth. "

Yes, behind every pleasure, there is a kind of self-restraint. Because the so-called freedom is the freedom gained after knowing the limits of one's ability.

As the poet Tagore said, "restraint itself can be used as a spiritual sustenance."

Because abstinence and restraint are just to do what you want.

Abstinence and restraint is to open up a road of "whatever you want, follow the fate" in the sea of people, and pick up a corner of "heaven and earth are free and unfettered, Ren Woxing" in the humble room;

Can have the determination to "take only one scoop of three thousand weak water", not exceeding the moment from the heart, hope from the heart.

Life is precious, and life never deceives others.

Keep pure, don't expect too much worry; Be rational, not wishful thinking; Exercise restraint, not abuse.

Only by practicing abstinence and truly getting rid of the bondage of desire will we have more ability and confidence to choose the life we expect.

Light it up. I hope everyone can live the life they want after abstinence.

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