Especially when you need to speak to many people, you are at a loss and confused. How can you break it?

Generally, I will answer:

"Simple methods can't overcome it, dear. People will be nervous, just like laughing, crying and being hungry. It's normal!"

This is a picture I have summarized. Unknown things (environment, objects, processes ...) lead to inner fear, thus showing nervousness.

In the above link, no matter the topic, form, atmosphere and time, when I change these conditions and guide my colleagues from familiar things to unfamiliar things, they will become nervous. This tension stems from the inner fear, which is social, afraid of making a fool of themselves and ruining their ideal image.

in the final analysis, the fundamental thing to relieve tension is to eliminate the unknown. A lot of thinking, practice and preparation in advance can eliminate the strangeness of this matter (environment, object, process ...) for you, so that you can face it easily.

finally, some friends will ask, what should I do if it is a completely strange thing that I suddenly have no time to prepare?

First of all, you can lower your default value, admit that you are not good enough or perfect enough, and allow yourself to make mistakes and make a fool of yourself in front of everyone. If it's a big deal, I will be able to deal with it easily.

Secondly, we can re-understand other people's comments. At the end of the training, I made an interesting interaction: "Everyone is not perfect, but who will know?" If I hadn't observed it deliberately, I wouldn't have found these problems.

sometimes you feel embarrassed and humiliated, and you want to find a hole to drill. In fact, others have no impression, or the impression is very shallow, because who will care about you? Most of the time, everyone only cares about their own business. Why should you care too much about the eyes of others? "

Finally, to sum up,

nervousness is instinctive and normal.

unknown-fear-tension, tension comes from fear, and fear comes from the unknown.

To ease the tension, it is necessary to dispel the unknown and strangeness of things, and it is a good method to think, practice and prepare diligently. The method of improvising is to transfer familiar experience to similar unfamiliar things.

To ease the tension, we can also try to dispel our fears with a good attitude, including lowering our own preset values and reinterpreting others' comments.