The ancestors said: "Marry a wife with virtue, not with sex." The second half of the sentence is more classic and is a wise saying from our ancestors. The meaning of this proverb is easy to understand. It says that when a man is looking for a life partner, he should look at the heart of the person and not just pursue a beautiful girl. There are many things in our lives where we judge people by their appearance. We all like beautiful things, including beautiful faces. Good-looking people have an advantage among social competitors, especially when choosing a mate. After all, there are many people around us who control their appearance. In order to look good, people will pay attention to their clothes and maintenance, and some even go directly to medical beauty treatments or plastic surgery. When we dress ourselves up to look good, we naturally also want our partners to have good looks and temperament.

However, marriage is a long-term process, and even the most beautiful face will sometimes get tired of looking at it. Maybe we don’t understand when we see the golden boy and girl in our hearts parting ways. However, whether a couple or partners want to get along for the long term, the key is personality compatibility, not two matching faces. People are inherently lonely. We have independent souls, so we need a collision of souls, instead of watching a beautiful face hanging in front of you every day, but you are still lonely inside.

So, our old ancestors use the form of common sayings to tell their descendants the wisdom of life: The key to a happy marriage lies in the criteria for choosing a spouse. When choosing a spouse, you should pay attention to the character of a happy person. The probability will be greater. If you only look at the outside without looking at the inside, then it is like buying a beautiful lottery ticket. There is another half of this proverb, which is equally classic: Make friends and care, but not money.

In ancient times, the highest state of a friend was a confidant. But it's hard to find a confidant, because among the many people you have good relationships with, there are not many friends who really have the same interests as you and really care about you. Therefore, the ancients valued confidants very much. There is a classic saying: "A scholar will die for a confidant." In our modern fast-paced life, resources are a very important thing. And connections are one of those resources. Therefore, in order to keep up with the rhythm of society and do the most efficient things in the shortest time, people will make a lot of friends.

However, many of these fast-paced friends are your friends when you were rich and wealthy, and they will not be your closest friends. So in today's society, we need close friends to slow down our lives. Let us have a leisurely and happy state of mind during our time outside of work. Marry a wife with virtue but not with sex, make friends with your heart but not with wealth. Regarding choosing a spouse and making friends, everyone must have their own opinions.