The importance of pattern and mentality

The importance of pattern and mentality, most of the time, it is not other things that embarrass you, but yourself. Many people have a wrong mentality and think that their value is not equal to the gains they are currently experiencing, so they begin to haggle over every ounce. Let's share the importance of the pattern and mentality. Importance of pattern and mentality 1

A positive life comes from a positive attitude

If a person faces life with a positive attitude, accepts challenges and responds to troubles optimistically, then he has succeeded for one to a half. In life, most losers are mainly due to the fact that their mentality is not correct. Whenever they encounter difficulties, they just choose the easy way back. "I can't do it, I'd better back down", and the final result is to fall into the abyss of failure. Successful people still keep a positive attitude when they encounter difficulties, and use "I want it!" I can! " Positive ideas such as "there must be a way" encourage themselves, so they try their best to keep moving forward until the day of success.

Victor frankl, a survivor of a concentration camp in Nazi Germany, said: "No matter what the environment, people still have a freedom, that is, to choose their own attitude." Therefore, we can think that it is not only the environment that affects our lives, but also the mentality that controls individual actions and thoughts. At the same time, the mentality also determines one's vision, career and achievements. Careful observation and comparison of the mentality of winners and losers, especially at critical moments, will reveal that different mentality will lead to different lives.

So, how can we cultivate a positive attitude? You can try to start from the following aspects.

1. Act like the person you want to be

Many people always wait until they have a positive feeling before putting the cart before the horse. Positive action will bring positive thinking, and positive thinking will bring positive attitude. Take active action from the beginning, and strive to be the person you want to be, and your mentality will naturally become positive.

2. Have a winning and positive mind

When we start to use a positive mind and regard ourselves as a success, we have already started to succeed.

whoever wants to reap the fruits of success must be a good farmer. We must never just sow a few positive and optimistic seeds and expect to get something for nothing. We must constantly water these seeds and fertilize the seedlings. If we neglect these, the weeds with negative mentality will be overgrown, depriving the soil of nutrients until the crops die.

3. influence others with beautiful feelings, confidence and goals

as your actions and mentality become more positive, you will gradually gain a sense of happiness, confidence and goal. Then, others will be attracted to you, because people always like to be with positive optimists. Use others' positive responses to develop positive relationships and help others acquire this positive attitude.

4. Make everyone you meet feel important and needed.

Everyone has a desire to feel their importance and the need and gratitude of others. This is the core of our ordinary people's self-awareness. If you can satisfy this desire in others' hearts, they will take a positive attitude towards you. As Ralph Waldo Emerson, an American philosopher and poet, said, "One of the most beautiful compensations in life is that after people sincerely help others, they also help themselves."

it's not very difficult to do the above, the key lies in whether you want to do it and whether you can stick to it. We know that the biggest difference between successful people and losers is that successful people always dominate and control their lives with the most positive thinking and optimistic spirit. Losers, on the other hand, are guided and dominated by all kinds of failures and doubts in the past. In the final analysis, how to look at life and grasp it is determined by our own attitude.

Always complain that fate is not as good as your own actions.

In the face of all kinds of disappointments in life, if you can't keep your mind straight, then you can only blame others and have a hard time with yourself. In fact, no one is sorry for you, but what is really sorry for you is your own heart.

Many people are used to attributing their failures and disappointments in life to their bad lives. In fact, it is not one's bad fate, but a negative attitude that affects oneself. Dickens, a famous British writer, once said, "A healthy mind is more powerful than a hundred kinds of wisdom." This immortal famous saying tells us the truth: what kind of mentality there is, what kind of life there is. The same thing is done by people with different mentality, and the result is bound to be different. Therefore, instead of complaining about fate, it is better to adjust your mentality to a positive side.

Every day, many things happen to each of us, both good and bad. When something bad happens, some people's moods get worse. In fact, this is unnecessary, because everything has a good side, which depends on what kind of mentality you use to treat it.

A man passed under a coconut tree, and a monkey dropped a coconut from it and hit him right on the head. The man touched the swollen head, then picked up the coconut, drank the coconut juice, ate the pulp, and finally made a bowl out of the shell.

If the coconut dropped by the monkey hit your head, what attitude would you take towards this "unexpected blow"? If it is resentment or cursing, it will not only help, but also make your mood worse; If you choose a positive attitude, just like the person in the story, just touch the lump on your head, then pick up the coconut, eat the pulp with great interest, and make the coconut shell into a bowl, then you may also thank the monkey, the lump on your head and the coconut for getting better. Because without all this, you may not be able to solve the loneliness and boredom in the journey. Importance of Pattern and Mentality 2

Mentality determines pattern, and pattern determines life!

One person left me a message saying that when I was in love before, it was because my pattern was too small, I often suspected and doubted each other, and the two sides always quarreled over a trivial matter. Now, looking back, I find that I was so naive that I lost a good partner.

in life, you always need to experience something before you can understand the importance of cherishing. But people can't live in the past, and people still have to look forward.

It is also a pattern that a person can re-examine himself and then correct some of his mistakes.

A good attitude can guide a good pattern, and only a pattern can determine the height of life.

There is a sentence in Caigen Tan: "What time is there to compete for long and short in the firelight of stone?" On the snail's horn, it is more female than male. What is the big world? "

Life is like a flash of fire when an iron object hits a stone. If you only know how to fight against each other, you won't know when time has passed. Life is very short, and the space for survival is as small as a snail's tentacles. How can we be competitive in such a narrow world?

Life is just a drop in the ocean. To be tolerant of others is to be tolerant of yourself, to be convenient to others is to be convenient to yourself, and to cross others is to cross yourself.

what is the pattern? It is how you look at the world and yourself, a person's vision of things and his mind to deal with things, and a person's mind.

what will a structured life be like?

People with patterns are not arrogant when they are proud of their lives, and they are not discouraged when they are frustrated. They laugh at the ebb and flow of the world and are optimistic about the ups and downs of their lives. This is the pattern.

There was a man who was in the top of the list as a teenager. Originally, he had a high-ranking official, but when he reached middle age, he experienced twists and turns. Not only was he separated from his family, but his life was also wandering.

Even though he was in the wilderness, he always cared about the imperial court and the people, and he lived stronger than anyone else.

This man is Su Shi. After being demoted several times, he has already been relieved, so wherever he goes, he will eat. Even if his official career is not smooth, he can't let his mood be bad. Just give himself the opportunity to travel everywhere, feel the local customs wherever he goes, and then look for local food to please himself.

Therefore, his mentality is open-minded, and he can't ruin himself because his career is not smooth. People who can think like this can see that the pattern is really good. The Importance of Pattern and Mentality 3

Bai Yansong once said: "The reason why you feel that you can't get through is because the pattern is too small." I am deeply impressed.

Twenty years ago, Bai Yansong gave a speech at Sun Yat-sen University. He said, "Not long ago, a student told him that he was experiencing the darkest moment in his life and simply didn't want to live."

what exactly is it? But I just didn't get into graduate school in Tsinghua. Bai Yansong asked him, "Do you think this is a setback?"

Real setbacks are life-related ups and downs, such as Comrade Xiaoping's three ups and downs; For example, Mr. Yangming is ready to die. As for some disappointments encountered in academic, career and even emotional course, it is only an experience at best, and may become a beautiful memory.

Zhuangzi said, "A well frog can't talk to the sea person; Summer insects can't talk to ice people; Qushi can't talk to Taoists. "

In fact, these seemingly so-called "big things" are no different from every little thing you have encountered in the long river of your life. So:

"The reason why you feel that you can't get through is because the pattern is too small."

What is the pattern? To better understand what pattern, it is best to start with the "mind-Tao-morality-things" tetralogy.

Mind decides Tao, Tao decides virtue, and virtue decides things; Conversely, the root of things is virtue, the root of virtue is Tao, and the source of Tao is heart. Therefore, this is a "mind-Tao-morality-things" tetralogy.

Heart is the source of Tao, Tao is the foundation of virtue, virtue is the root of things, and virtue can carry things. The thickness of virtue determines the level, quality, size and quantity of things, and all things together are life.

To tell you the truth, at first I felt a little confused when I read this writing, but when I read it repeatedly until I got a comprehensive understanding, I deeply understood and practiced it through words, from "remembering" to "knowing" to "knowing", and I had a deep understanding and signs of the above words.

Tao is the pattern and realm of human beings. The realm determines the quality of things, and the pattern determines the size of things.

the mind is the master of the body. The heart determines the Tao, and what kind of heart there is, there is what kind of Tao. If the heart is big, things will be small; If the heart is small, things will be big. Therefore:

mentality determines the pattern, and the pattern determines life!

On the other hand, if you want to have a happy and complete life, you must improve the pattern and realm; If you want to improve the pattern and realm, you must build spiritual quality.

in a word, the heart is the source of everything. When the cause encounters a bottleneck, work hard on things and achieve limited results; Study hard in Germany, and the results are acceptable; Working hard on the road has achieved remarkable results; Working hard at heart and focusing on a higher level can achieve higher success. Therefore, study hard and achieve outstanding results.

then how to study hard? It is clear heart and pure heart. To clear the heart is to remove the unknown in the heart, and to purify the heart is to remove the greed in the heart.

There are no shortcuts in life, but you can learn from the successful experiences of others. In particular, the long-standing Chinese culture has a long history, extensive and profound, endless and timeless.

the core code of Chinese culture is the heart. Chinese culture is a culture that solves major problems in life. The outstanding performance of Chinese sons and daughters in the face of this century epidemic is the collective embodiment of the great power of Chinese culture. However, since 184, the sons and daughters of China have been humiliated for a hundred years, being slaughtered and bullied. Although the people of China stood up in 1949 and became rich through reform and opening up, there is still a long way to go to truly strengthen themselves and realize the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation. Because we have achieved the first place in the world in many places, but the cultural self-confidence of the whole people is still insufficient.

culture is the soul of a country and a nation. Chinese culture is the root and soul of the Chinese nation. Cultural self-confidence is a more basic, deeper and more lasting force. Without a high degree of cultural self-confidence and cultural prosperity, there will be no great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation!

A famous saying about marriage in Fortress Besieged: "Those who are inside want to come out, while those who are outside want to go in."

As for learning and conscience, those who go in will never come out again if they drink nectar; People outside are eager for success, but refuse to change, so they are still wandering outside.

The ancients said, "It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish". What I want to say is: "It's better to make others build up their spiritual quality than to teach them to fish".

the background of life is born with many differences. The truth of life, all people are born equal.

learn Chinese culture, build spiritual quality, improve the realm of the pattern and achieve a complete life.

The world is not perfect, but we can bravely pursue perfection, because everyone has endless treasures in his heart.