The ancients said that "filial piety comes first after ten thousand classics". No matter which school or classic, it is based on filial piety and cannot be separated from it. Similarly, the Analects of Confucius, as one of the most important Confucian classics, has many specific explanations for filial piety. Let's share a few words with you.
First, my father is observing his ambition; Father didn't pay attention to his actions; Three years without changing your father's ways can be described as filial piety.
If we want to examine whether a person is filial or unfilial, we can see it from his father's behavior before and after his death. When my father is alive, see what his life ambition is; After my father died, let's see what he did. If three years after his father's death, he still hasn't changed his life ambition as usual, which means he is a dutiful son.
Why? Listen to your parents when they are alive. When parents leave, they will ignore their parents' words and leave them behind. This is obviously disrespectful to parents, fooling them, and not a true dutiful son. Even if your parents are away, you can keep your parents' teachings in mind, just like when your parents are alive. This is the true dutiful son.
Second, Meng asked questions about filial piety. Confucius said, "Parents only worry about their illness."
Meng asked Confucius about filial piety. Confucius said that parents in the world are most worried about when their children are sick. Relatively speaking, apart from this, everything is nothing, and parents will not worry. Therefore, as children, we must cherish our bodies and don't let our parents worry about us.
Only those who have been parents can deeply understand what Confucius said. As the saying goes, "mother and son are connected", in fact, father and son are also connected. Every time a child is sick, it is the most sad and uncomfortable time for parents. Parents would rather get sick than watch their children get sick. What parents thought at that time was that as long as the child was healthy, nothing was important and everything could be given up.
Therefore, the Book of Filial Piety says: "Parents dare not damage the body and skin, so filial piety begins." As children, developing good living habits and cherishing good health is the first step to filial piety. If he goes to the hospital once every three days, even if he gives his parents Jinshan Yinshan, he can't sleep!
Third, Ziyou asks filial piety. Confucius said, "Today's filial piety can be nurtured. As for dogs and horses, you can keep them. Disrespect, why not? "
Ziyou asked Confucius about filial piety. Confucius said: nowadays, people who are filial think that as long as they can support their adoptive parents in food and daily life, it is filial piety. But is this really filial piety?
Confucius changed the subject and said: even dogs and horses kept at home can serve their owners with physical strength. Dogs can help their owners watch the door, and horses can help their owners watch the door. All belong to cultivating people. If there is no respect attitude, what is the difference between children and dogs and horses?
This phenomenon mentioned by Confucius is more common in our present society. Many people feel filial when they give their parents a little money to eat, drink and live. If parents nag, they will be impatient and even contradict their parents and give them a hard time. If there is, it is not as good as those dogs and horses. Some of those dogs and horses know how to respect their owners and won't contradict them.
So now many old people like to keep pets. In addition to children's busy work, it is because many children are not as good as pets. Pets can also make owners happy, while children only make parents angry. This is something that children should reflect on.