After reading "The Psychology of Procrastination", I will review the content of the entire book. The book introduces the sources of procrastination from various aspects such as behavior, psychology, physiology, and family. It also uses nearly half of the book to introduce ways to overcome procrastination, prescribing a good medicine to help us face procrastination.

Almost everyone procrastinates. You may think that procrastination is a small problem that everyone has, and it is not a big deal. It's just that he is slow, or his movements are slow. If it doesn’t cause serious social problems or interpersonal barriers, it’s not a big deal.

But "The Psychology of Procrastination" tells us: Procrastination is not fundamentally a time management issue, nor a moral issue, but a complex psychological issue. Procrastination is not a disease, it is a means we use to avoid other things. It is fundamentally a battle for control and to win respect and independence.

But some physical procrastination is really sick. The biological causes of procrastination include our bodies, brains, or genetics. These physiological conditions are difficult for us to regulate with willpower, such as attention deficit disorder (ADD) and executive dysfunction (ED). At this time, we need to seek professional medical treatment.

There are many causes of procrastination, which come from all aspects of your growth. Procrastination is a word that can evoke different memories for everyone. Some people procrastinate because of the fear of failure, and some people procrastinate because of the fear of success, but no matter what the reason is, the reason is two words - escape, escape from the imaginary difficulty. The book introduces us to the root causes in four aspects:

In addition, family factors can also cause us to procrastinate. For example, the five major family tendencies that lead to procrastination are: pressure, suspicion, control, attachment and alienation. Family is the first place to shape our values. Every word and deed of our parents will affect the way we see the world. We perceive the future through our past experiences. Therefore, only by finding the root of the influence of family on us can we truly prescribe the right medicine.

The internal consequence of procrastination for procrastinators is that they must endure the torture of certain internal emotions, ranging from anger and regret to strong self-condemnation and despair. They feel frustrated and angry with themselves because procrastination prevents them from accomplishing what they believe they are capable of accomplishing. Although everything was going well for them on the outside, on the inside they were suffering. Most procrastinators have the following psychological factors;

The external consequences of procrastination are: many procrastinators will eventually have to endure major setbacks in work, school, family and interpersonal relationships, and they will lose a lot of things that are valuable to them. Important stuff. For example: inhibiting self-motivation in work and studies; not daring to take risks and entering a new environment; unable to express one's thoughts and emotions naturally and spontaneously; acting according to one's own limited understanding of oneself.

The most expensive price is: weakened self-confidence! In addition to being a psychological strategy of self-protection, procrastination also stems from some stubborn beliefs you have about life. No matter when you start procrastinating, once you start, it’s hard to stop.

Unfortunately, there is no guaranteed way to overcome procrastination, but there are some changes that can make procrastinators' lives easier.

The first step is to check procrastination and arouse the awareness of procrastination. Review your own procrastination behavior from an objective perspective, including the psychological and physiological levels, and record the current procrastination status without any judgment. Then set targeted and actionable goals, starting with developing mini habits.

The second step is to learn to accept people and things that are beneficial to you, accept support from others, and develop a growth mindset. Most procrastinators view the results of things and their own performance through their fixed mindset. By cultivating a growth mindset, they tell themselves: life is a learning process, everything is an opportunity to practice and improve, and challenging yourself is Something fun and exciting. In the long run, focusing on the process will help achieve a better result, and the joy of learning will strengthen the motivation to learn.

The third step is, no matter what you like to do, do more of it. Discover your strengths and follow them. Build on things you love to do or build on your strengths, fill your life with people and things that make you happy, connect you to a larger world around you, and live with a sense of meaning and value To enrich yourself.

There is this sentence in the book: When we accept ourselves as we really are rather than as we wish to be, we can get rid of living under the boundless shadow of procrastination. I hope this book will allow us to face ourselves and truly overcome procrastination.