how to adjust your mentality? The author believes that there are three points that are crucial.
first, don't be too eager. Desire is endless, the higher the desire, once it cannot be satisfied, the greater the contrast, and the easier the mentality is to be unbalanced.
Second, the idea of comparison should not be too heavy. If you blindly compare with others, you will be "more angry than others." If we compare the treatment with laid-off workers, the income with peasant brothers and the contribution with advanced figures, our mentality will be balanced and our grievances will naturally disappear.
the third is to learn to forget. Don't dwell on the past, let bygones be bygones, so that you can get rid of a lot of troubles and feel comfortable.
Qiu Fazu, an academician of China Academy of Sciences, has a motto, "Be content to be a man, not know enough to do things, and not be content to learn." This is not only his transcendental realm of life, but also a mirror to test whether our mentality is good or not. We might as well take a photo often to see if our mentality has been adjusted.
Everyone has a set of self-concept of life. Some people live happily, while others are surprisingly disappointed with life. In the final analysis, it is a matter of mentality. There will always be many sudden disasters in life, which will make people suddenly fall into a state of loss, anxiety, mania, and even despair of life. It is not difficult to see that with the progress of society and fierce competition, people's various pressures increase. If this pressure exceeds a certain load capacity, people will have extreme emotions, and the consequences will be unimaginable. Personally, I think that if people can find an outlet for themselves at an appropriate stage, they will gradually eliminate such mental pressures and let you move towards a more brilliant road.
so how can we reduce such negative emotions?
First, learn to be quiet, immerse yourself in thinking, and gradually reduce your desire for things. Always reset yourself to zero. Every day is a new starting point. There is no age limit. As long as your desire for things is appropriately reduced, you will win more chances to win. (It's natural to take a step back.)
Second, learn to care for yourself. Only by caring more about yourself can you have more energy to care for others. If you have enough ability, you should try your best to help those you can, and then you will get a few happiness. Helping others more and being kind to yourself is also a way to relieve stress.
Third, when you are upset, you can drink a glass of white water, play a soothing light music, close your eyes and reflect on the people and things around you, so that you can slowly lose your mind about the new future, which is a kind of rest and a kind of calm thinking.
fourth: compete with yourself more, there is no need to envy others, and there is no need to envy others. Many people always regard themselves as bystanders because they envy others. The more so, the more they will fall into an abyss. You have to believe that you can do it as long as you do it. Be happy for your progress (no matter how big or small things are, simple things are done, simple things are done seriously, serious things are done repeatedly, and strive to be the best)
Fifth, extensive reading is actually a process of absorbing nutrients. Modern people are faced with fierce competition and complicated interpersonal relationships. In order to avoid embarrassing themselves on some occasions, it is also a kind of extensive reading to enrich their minds.
Sixth: You can't look down on yourself under any conditions. Even if the whole world doesn't believe in you and looks down on you, you must believe in yourself, because I believe that if you like yourself, more people will like you. If you want to be what you are, you will! (Why many people don't realize it, that is, they don't have perseverance)
Seventh, learn to adjust their emotions and try to look on the bright side. When many people encounter something, they are anxious like ants on hot bricks. It is precisely because they don't grasp their emotions well that simple things are complicated and complex things are more difficult. In fact, as long as they grasp the key of the matter, they will be able to handle every detail with ease. When they encounter difficult things.
Eighth: Cherish the people around you and try not to hurt them in terms of language. Even if you meet someone you don't like, you should try to make a detour and find a reason to leave without hurting them. This will not only make you feel too bad, but also make the scene more embarrassing. Cherish everything around you now.
Ninth: Love life, absorb new nutrients every day, and think differently every day. Learn to put yourself in other's shoes and try to find new things to satisfy the novelty and mystery of the world.
Tenth: Only when you face your life with sincerity, love and personality will your life be more exciting!
Remember, keep an optimistic attitude every day. If you encounter troubles, you should learn to make yourself happy and make yourself strong and confident. Therefore, if you want to keep a good attitude, the only feasible way is to look at the world with gratitude, look at the world with your heart, regardless of gains and losses, and learn to find all moving things around you. The attitude determines the state. Only by keeping a good attitude can you make yourself happy! Finally, I wish all my friends a happy life every day! !