It is impossible for a person to have everything go as he wishes in his life, and it is also impossible for his life to be smooth sailing. Once you encounter difficulties or insurmountable problems, and there is no goal to solve the problem, it must be very confusing, you must be helpless and helpless, and your heart must be full of sadness and full of hope. Confused, filled with anxiety. This kind of confusion, helplessness, and goallessness is also an experience I have encountered before. At that time, I was restless, eating poorly, thinking about my own things while walking on the road, and couldn't sleep all night. My dreams were filled with sadness, anxiety, and panic, and I felt very confused. Some things cannot be told to everyone, and they cannot be told to others easily. Because when it comes to talking to people, the person you are dealing with must have structure, knowledge, depth of thought, and a profound view of the problem. He must also have a correct mind and not influence your bottom line. Such a person is indeed difficult to discover. In the helpless situation, I learned from the pain, adjusted my mentality, adopted the philosophy of "you must turn when life has to turn", re-selected the goal of life, repositioned, and adjusted your strategic deployment. Soon things took a new turn, and it was It's developing in a good direction. From then on, the confused and helpless mood was swept away, the bright sunshine illuminated the way forward, and life was full of sunshine.
Facts have proved that when we encounter difficulties and resistance, it is not scary. What is scary is that we give up on ourselves, do not cheer ourselves up, and do not have the confidence to support ourselves. There are many roads for a living person in the world, and all roads lead to Rome. Nothing is difficult in the world, as long as you are willing to climb. When you encounter difficulties or problems, and when you are unable to overcome, overcome, or solve them, you can find another way, change your thinking, and try to solve them in another way. Fortunately, this is the best way for you. Instead of feeling confused and helpless, it is better to actively think of ways, develop new goals, and reposition yourself. If a person is only confused and helpless, but cannot determine a new goal, this person must be mentally retarded and can only be a person who eats from a big pot and lives his whole life by dawdling around.
In today’s society, competition is fierce. All people must be mentally strong, face difficulties, and work hard to create a foothold in society. A glass-hearted person who will be confused and helpless when encountering difficulties, setbacks, and problems will not be able to gain a foothold in this society no matter what. Therefore, being confused and helpless will only leave you with nowhere to go. Learn to think independently, learn to turn, and learn to be strong. Don’t lose yourself in difficulties and be self-reliant in adversity. I believe that in this world, I am my own savior. I am not afraid of difficulties or setbacks. I will become more courageous with each setback. Although the road is tortuous, the future is bright. Victory must belong to those who are strong, wise and dare to challenge themselves!
When I am most confused, most helpless, and most aimless, I do the following things
Wandering, wandering aimlessly, picking up food when I am hungry, and waiting to be hungry when I am full Damn, I'm starving! I can't resist my instinctive hunger, so I can't find anything to eat!
Sleep! No matter day or night, I lie in bed all the time, sleeping like a hazy sleep.
Fishing, wandering is too cold, living by the river for a few days, the golden years go by, fishing in the water for half a day.
Spend time in Baidu Post Bar and Baidu Depression Bar, repeatedly scrolling through posts, and repeatedly looking at the helpless and negative comments made by the bar friends
My deceased mother once I have been told that every day a person lives, he needs to eat, and every day he needs to eat, he needs to work. My mother was illiterate and could not speak profound truths or express beautiful words.
Living is a basic instinct of human beings. No matter you are confused, helpless, or have no goals, you really need to eat when you are alive.
As long as a person lives for a day, he needs to eat and work every day. I think it's a very classic sentence. Although it is not a famous quote.
But it is indeed a fact
Being confused proves that you have a lot of time and want to do whatever you want, so you use some impractical, empty theories and fancy words to get confused
Helpless Prove that you desire selfless help from others
It’s not that you have no goals, but that your goals are too unrealistic
Talking too much but not doing them can easily make people feel frustrated and overthink. It will hurt people's emotions
Let's go on a road trip, toward poetry and distant places
No steamed bun is practical in the helplessness of so many emotions
You need to drink water when you are thirsty, you need to sleep when you are sleepy, and you need to eat when you are hungry. No matter how awesome you are, confused, helpless, and aimless, you need to stick to the principles when eating, drinking, and sleeping!
Talking about sorrow without adding new words
Laughing at the falling flowers and wanting to be free
Eat well, drink well, sleep well and don’t wrong you too much!
Regardless of spring, summer, winter and autumn
When I was unemployed for the first time, and when I was the most helpless and confused in my life, I chose to take a long-distance bus, sitting and looking at the busy pedestrians outside the window. Until you sit in a place with fewer people but full of sunshine, get off the car and stay. Sort out your mood, pick up the phone, call that loved one, and tell him or her that you are fine, what you are busy with now, what great decisions you have made, and what you have done and what you are going to do for this decision! Pay for your unemployment, give yourself an excuse to start over, and cheer for your dreams with the expectations and encouragement of your loved ones! Hang up the phone, collect yourself, learn a lesson, and start again! Come on, stranger, come on, you are the best, believe in yourself!
A person's life emotions are like the waves in the sea, with ups and downs, highs and lows.
When the emotions are high, the spirit is high, the fighting spirit is high, the head is held high, and there are thousands of difficulties and difficulties. Step on.
When you are at a low ebb, confused and helpless, you will feel sad, dejected, helpless, worried, and in trouble everywhere.
What should you do when you are confused, helpless and have no goals? I think:
l Build self-confidence and overcome inferiority complex. Don’t underestimate yourself and overestimate others.
2. Be good at doing your own ordinary, bit by bit, trivial things.
3. Read more, read more newspapers, increase your knowledge and broaden your horizons.
4. Spend more time outdoors, take more walks, participate in various entertainment activities, find more close friends and talk to relatives, and feel happy from them.
5. Be tough on yourself, have a plan and order in mind for what you do every day, arrange small goals and be determined to complete them, don’t just muddle along...
External factors are the conditions for change, and internal factors are changing. According to this, everything depends on your own subjective efforts!
No one’s life can be smooth sailing! Because everyone has their own thoughts, pursuits and wishes. Since there is pursuit of desires, there is also loss and hesitation!
The society where I was born has experienced some ups and downs over the years. Although I have achieved some success now, I will never forget that period of confusion when I was at the bottom of my life.
When I first entered society, I had full ideals and a strong desire to pursue success! As strong as blood is, the whole world is mine! If you really want to do something, success is very simple, just do it! However, if it were that simple, society would not be a complex society!
I changed jobs again and again, and looked down on what I was doing again and again! I thought how could a person like me do such a job! These are just ways to earn a living. My job is my ideal, and occasionally there are poems and distant places! Just keep searching, keep denying, keep giving up, keep hitting the wall! He even suffered a bloody head injury! Later, I began to re-examine myself and understand society!
The worst part was when I didn’t eat for three days and slept on a bench in a park by the river!
I had no choice but to find a hotel job as a waiter, which could quickly solve my food and accommodation problems. I put away my ideals and suppressed my wishes. Cut off all previous relationships, including family members. A person hidden in a corner of this strange city!
Sow seeds quietly in this city, waiting to sprout and bloom!
Fight back and set goals, no matter how small they are, I will do my best to implement them, such as keeping my body in a healthy state. In order to achieve this goal, what aspects can I start from? , diet, work and rest, exercise. These are things you can do if you want to.
When this goal is achieved, you will be freed from confusion and helplessness, because in the process of implementing the goal, you have escaped from the state of panic caused by having no goal, thereby keeping your mind clear and easy to think about the next step. Other answerers have also answered. It’s just that I added a step in the middle, not to stop and do nothing, but to do something that I can do by myself, which is more conducive to thinking
Confusion is because there is no struggle goal.
Helplessness occurs for various reasons.
People who are confused and helpless often have a nature of restlessness, indolence, and unrealistic fantasies. Some are caused by encounters in life, career, family, emotions, etc. Some people here are weak in resisting stress, and even if they are insignificant difficulties, pains, blows, and setbacks, they will die and become exhausted.
Some people have indeed suffered a fatal blow from fate. Most of these people are strong in life. Their confusion and helplessness cannot stop their high fighting spirit.
Everyone has times when they are confused. The more difficult it is to calm down, go out for a walk, change the environment, go to a strange place, and then you will have a different mood. . You will feel much more relaxed.
Maybe some things do not really happen to you, and everyone will comfort yourself, but some things do not happen to you, but you are at a loss. In fact, the things now are big things, and maybe they will become small in a few years. A trivial matter is nothing, so when you don’t encounter a big problem, you should always tell yourself that nothing is a big deal
First of all, we must calm down. At this time, the more we need to be calm and rational. Tell yourself not to be afraid or panic, and set a short-term goal that is easy to achieve. By continuously achieving the expected goals, self-confidence is re-established, and the cycle is repeated as the process continues. Your mentality will get better and better. Remember not to be impatient. Listen more to other people's opinions and suggestions. After doing this for a while. Think more and act less. This most difficult day will pass by without even realizing it. Hope it helps everyone.