The treasure mother of a 3-year-old child said worriedly: "When the child went to kindergarten, I found that there was a big gap between him and his peers. Not only is he slow in talking, walking and eating, but the teacher also says that he is slow in reaction and learns everything. What should I do? "
Other precious mothers comforted her and said, "Your child is just a late bloomer, don't worry."
Most of these words are out of courtesy. In the eyes of many parents who want their children to succeed, they all hope that their children will be enlightened as soon as possible.
Some experts explained that "enlightenment" refers to children's interaction with the outside world, their reception of natural information and their response to problems. When the information received by children accumulates to a higher level, there will be a leap-forward development, that is, quantitative change causes qualitative change.
Some children begin to understand early, while others begin to understand late. It is generally believed that children who begin to understand early, talk early, walk early, react more quickly, have talent and potential, and grow up to be smart.
Therefore, parents will always envy other people's children's early education. They have been learning tyrants since childhood and are versatile, so there is no need to worry at all; And their children are just like a "stupid head". Why don't they begin to understand?
Who is smarter, the child who starts to understand early or the child who starts to understand late? Are children who start early necessarily smarter than those who start late? Actually, it is not. It is found that IQ has little to do with children's enlightenment.
As we all know, Einstein, who has the smartest brain in the world, was a "late bloomer" when he was a child. He speaks late and has poor memory and understanding.
When Einstein was at school, he was once declared by his teacher that "there is no great future" because he could not answer the question. Later facts can completely overturn this conclusion, and children who "begin to understand late" are not necessarily idiots.
As the "signboard" of Deyun Society, Yun-peng Yue has a high reputation all over the country, ranging from 90-year-old people to 8-year-old children. However, Yun-peng Yue, who has just entered Deyun Society, has been labeled as "inarticulate country child", "stupid, without spirituality" and "late in enlightenment".
Degang Guo once said that Yun-peng Yue's qualifications were very poor at the beginning, with more than 1 000 students enrolled at the beginning. Yun-peng Yue may be in the last 65,438+00.
Now, Yun-peng Yue, who was once about to be kicked out of the house, has become a popular crosstalk performer, and his crosstalk skills and humorous expression are among the best.
Therefore, parents need not be too anxious. Some children are not very clever, but they will always understand. As the saying goes, "it's gold, it will always shine!" "
What factors are related to children's "enlightenment" sooner or later? 0 1 growth environment
"Enlightenment" has a lot to do with children's growing environment sooner or later.
Professor Li Meijin once said: "A talkative child has been nagged by his family since he was a child." ? Before a child speaks, parents or grandparents often talk to him in his ear, interact with him and make him laugh.
Such a child speaks early. When he shouted the first sentence "Mom and Dad", the family was so excited that they gave him hugs and kisses and took the children out to meet people. All these encourage children to talk more and tend to be talkative and extroverted.
Children who speak slowly also lack this kind of "nagging sound" in their ears since childhood. Some parents don't grow up with their children, leave their children at home or bring them up with nannies, and no one talks and interacts with them.
In this depressed and withdrawn growth environment, children receive little information from the outside world, speak slowly naturally, and gradually become taciturn and introverted.
Unlike Yun-peng Yue, Guo Qilin showed a high talent for cross talk from an early age. Degang Guo once said that he would understand Guo Qilin's cross talk. What I told other children was: "I'm exhausted, but I still don't understand after talking so much."
So Guo Qilin's "early enlightenment" is because he inherited his father's genes? In fact, it lies in his unique growth environment. He grew up listening to cross talk and was born with a glib tongue.
02 intellectual development
"My child is in the third grade, and it takes more than 12 to finish homework every day. The students either finish it at school or at eight or nine o'clock.
My children can't do more than half of the math problems, and their Chinese is a mess. I have taught him many times, but he says he doesn't understand. Really helpless. Is there any way to make him understand? "
I saw a post posted by a parent on the Internet explaining the distress of helping children with their homework, which made many parents shout: "I am in a hurry to hit people!" " "What did I do wrong in my previous life? Why should I send this thing to torture me! "
Many children spend more time on learning than others because they start learning late, and they still can't do a topic after being taught two or three times. Anxious parents will scold their children for being so stupid!
But I don't know if you have found out that when you grow up, the problems that children always can't understand before can now be quickly understood.
When I was a child, boys were always worse than girls, but it was not a question of intelligence. Boys will develop slower than girls, and their minds are not as mature as girls, which is also the reason why boys are naughty when they are young and girls are sensible.
However, in middle school, many boys gradually began to understand. Often at this time, their performance will be "overtaking in corners" and there will be a big leap. It is even possible to change from the countdown to the "schoolmaster".
As the old saying goes, "children will understand when they reach a certain age." This statement is not unreasonable.
This is because children are mentally unsound and have poor cognitive and understanding abilities. With the growth of age, the mind gradually matures and naturally begins to understand. What parents have to do is "wait for the flowers to bloom".
How do parents help their children "begin to understand"? Some children are bored with learning since childhood, until one day they have experienced some great events and their hearts have been stimulated. Since then, they have worked hard and studied hard. This is usually a "counterattack" by some protagonists in TV movies.
But in real life, it is difficult for children to experience such a bumpy and tortuous experience. A solid foundation is indispensable for children who are "enlightened" late to achieve counterattack when they grow up.
① Early education
It is impossible for children to become smart and suddenly show their talents, which has a lot to do with their parents' early education.
Scientists believe that 0~6 years old is the golden age of children's brain development. Therefore, parents should attach importance to their children's early education and develop their brain potential.
For example, allow children to doodle at will to stimulate his imagination and creativity; Give children more music and cultivate their artistic cells; Show children popular science picture books and fairy tales to improve their cognitive ability and expressive ability; Accompanying children to do manual work and exercising their fine hand movements and hands-on ability are conducive to promoting their brain development and helping them to "begin to understand".
2 wait for the opportunity.
It is not necessarily a bad thing for a child to "begin to understand late", which shows that he belongs to the type of "many a mickle makes a mickle, and his hair is sparse". Parents should wait patiently for their children to begin to understand.
For example, in 1 grade, when children do addition and subtraction within ten minutes, they often make mistakes in counting their fingers, and parents can't teach them how to do it.
At this time, parents should reflect on whether their educational methods are wrong, instead of blindly accusing their children of problems. It's better to use your child's favorite car and building blocks to relax and play digital games with him, so as to make him interested in mathematics.
In the second and third grades, these are not difficult for children. You will find that the correct rate of children's questions has improved a lot. This is enlightenment.
(3) Learn from the example
Parents should also take their children out to see the world, know different people and things, broaden their horizons and learn from excellent examples.
You don't have to go through ups and downs. Excellent people and things can also give children encouragement and strength. Therefore, parents can also use the power of idols to guide their children to learn the excellent quality and spirit of idols.
For example, children like basketball, so basketball star Kobe Bryant's famous saying: "Have you seen Los Angeles at 4 am?" ? Can give children great inspiration and become the goal of their efforts.
④ Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude
Parents should not blame their children for being "stupid" just because they are later than their peers. After children are labeled as "stupid children", they will constantly identify with this label in their hearts, which leads to more and more self-confidence and difficulty in understanding.
Every child's personality is different, and the time and degree of enlightenment are different. Therefore, parents should also "teach students in accordance with their aptitude" and adopt methods and means suitable for their children's personality.