Stay away from people who are ungrateful, heartless, and ungrateful

About five years ago, I met a yoga instructor named S, and I practiced yoga at the yoga studio where she ran classes. Because she was a novice instructor, she had not been exposed to yoga for a long time, her skills were a bit rusty but she loved to share. The owner of the yoga studio did not like her very much, so she seemed a little inferior and not very confident.

Now it seems that this is just an illusion: poor people must be hateful.

Because I like yoga very much and there happens to be an empty house, I encourage her to open her own studio and rent the house to her at a low price. During the process of looking at the house, she discovered that there were some problems. It was not her parents and relatives who came with her, but her friend who was a dance instructor, her friend's husband who was holding the child, and her friend's father-in-law. This was not a big deal, but later she and this friend also had disputes over class fees and frequency of classes, and eventually they broke up.

After viewing the house for the first time, she said: The location is a bit remote and not suitable for business in a residential area. Then let this matter go. Not long after, she called me again and said she wanted to look at the house again. After this time, she decided to open a yoga studio here.

Because I felt sorry for her, I didn’t charge her a penny in deposit or rent, and asked her to seize the time to clean up the decoration and open the business before summer, so that it would be easier to recruit members. And I also helped her pay 300 for water and 500 for electricity in advance.

At that time, I had the idea of ????helping her. I also like yoga very much. I naturally thought that a person who likes yoga, practices yoga and teaches yoga should not have too bad character, so I did not sign any agreement. Unexpectedly, the future troubles were laid here.

She started cleaning up her house in April 2014 and officially opened her business in June. During the entire process of cleaning up her house and opening her restaurant, none of her parents came to see her. It was her uncle and aunt who helped her all the time. , but later she yelled at her aunt because of a very small thing, and kicked her aunt who had given her so much help out of the yoga studio.

Afterwards, several yoga members told me: You should mind your own business from now on, this kid is really bad at dealing with others! No matter how good her uncle and her aunt are to her, she can turn against them and be merciless. You should settle the score as brothers and stay away from her. I usually hear her talking to her mother on the phone with endless dirty words of "you fucking, you fucking".

But I still didn’t take it seriously.

Before the business opened in June 2014, she said to me: Sister, I will pay you rent starting from August, 1,000 per month. Can you pay me the heating bill? I said yes, but you have to pay the property fee and elevator fee yourself.

However, the old saying that "when people's hearts are weak, a snake swallows an elephant" is not wrong at all.

As the business gets better and better, and as the number of members continues to increase, she begins to show her true colors and her temper begins to swell.

Because members use the elevator a lot every day, the property company said that the elevator fee should be tripled. I think this is normal and very reasonable. However, considering her operating costs, she still argued with the property management company and paid twice the normal elevator fee every year. Even so, every time she went to pay the elevator fee, she still only paid one amount. The property company would call me again to remind me of the fee, and I would make up the balance. When I told her about this on WeChat, she would transfer money directly using WeChat without even saying a word, and return the portion of the elevator fee that I paid for me. Not only would she look extremely ugly when we meet again, but she would not say a word. It can be seen that...

She also often uses harsh and sarcastic language to laugh at those members who are obese, clumsy, older, members with uncoordinated limbs, and ignore members who are a little persistent during practice. She excludes, envies and marginalizes excellent and hard-working members, and alienates members who have helped and advised her...Although she will sometimes flatter members who are rich and useful to her, she will speak ill of them when they turn around...< /p>

I remember Mr. Tao Xingzhi’s famous saying: High school is a teacher, and uprightness is a model. It means that only by being upright can one "be a teacher and a model for others". As a teacher, in addition to having solid professional knowledge and a certain cultural level, more importantly, you must have good moral quality and ethics. This is the foundation of being a teacher!

Tell a few stories that really happened to her that you have witnessed and experienced personally.

Most of the members who practice yoga are very kind. Seeing that she often gets confused while eating alone, they often bring her food. It turned out that a member who worked at a steamed bun shop would often kindly bring her some leftover steamed buns sold in the store that day, but she would say that she had eaten enough and felt nauseated; there was also an elderly member who once I brought her home-cooked side dishes, and she even threw the food away together with the Lockbox that was given to her, saying that the smell made her nauseous; I also bought her food and brought her food several times. Later, after discovering this situation, I stopped doing such things...

A member renovated her house and gave her an old refrigerator. She didn't show any gratitude at all, but said it was This member later left the yoga studio because they were unwanted junk things...

She found a second-married husband and scolded her father-in-law behind her back for helping them buy a house and renovating it. It's not ambiguous at all...

She was bleeding in early pregnancy, and I happened to meet her. Without saying a word, I went to the hospital with another member, took her B-ultrasound and laboratory tests and helped her find a doctor to prescribe medicine. Get medicine. Then one day I heard her yelling at the doctor who treated her at the door of the yoga studio. That doctor is the parent of my son’s child in kindergarten. He once assisted Tibet. The couple are both expert outpatient doctors in obstetrics and gynecology. When I go to see a doctor, I will register first and then see her. I feel that this is the most basic respect for the doctor. But she thought I was looking for someone she knew, so she shouldn’t have spent money to register! The doctor gave her test sheets and medicine, but she actually said they were doing it for money! My progesterone is low, I need to rest and take medicine, and I need to closely observe the laboratory indicators. I don’t know that all I can think about is money!

Unfortunately, she ended up having a miscarriage.

Although I have seen many things, because I love yoga, I think she is also a person who loves yoga. She grew up in an abnormal family since she was a child, and I lack love in my heart. I miss her in yoga. It will slowly change under your guidance.

However...

It was not until the end of last year that my view of her was completely overturned.

She plans to open a new store in a different place, and I also plan to get rid of this house.

Before moving, I told her that you should clean up and take away all the things you want to take away, so that I can tell the new owner to take possession of the house. She said she had moved all the things she wanted to take away, and she didn't want the rest. I believed it and told the new owner, and took photos to tell the new owner the current condition of the house and the closing time. But when the new landlord came to take possession of the house, he discovered that her mother, who had never appeared before, was tearing down floors and doors with six or seven men! Coach S’s shrew-like mother yelled like crazy: This is the house my girl renovated, so of course it should be demolished!

Originally they were all junk, and the new owner had to tear them down when he renovated the house, but this was not the case for Li'er. During this process, Coach S called me several times to ask me why her mother couldn’t tear down the floor and take down the door. Her husband also called me to ask why his mother-in-law couldn’t tear down the things and take them away.

I was driving on the highway and answered the phone on speakerphone and explained to her: It’s not that I can’t dismantle it and take it away, it’s okay to dismantle it before moving. Now that you have moved, the new owner has come to take possession of the house. Besides, I told you again and again before moving, to dismantle and take away all the necessary things. The new homeowner will not need these junk things for decoration. But what you and your mother did was wrong. Why didn’t you say hello before tearing it down? Why can't we agree to negotiate the split? This is not your house, don't you know?

Because she called again and again, my sister sitting next to me became angry. She grabbed the phone and said, "Tear down everything and restore the house to its original condition. Otherwise, get out of here. Don't." Face, you’ve bullied people enough! Rubbish!

Because she had owed electricity bills many times, the power company posted the details of the arrears downstairs in the unit, but Coach S turned a blind eye! Nowadays, utility bills are paid online, which could have been done in minutes, but she just didn't pay in time. The electric power company often called me to demand electricity bills. I reminded her several times, but she retorted several times and said something very unpleasant: Sister, don't worry, I won't move away just because I owe you money.

One time it was the National Day holiday, and she was in arrears again. The power company called me several times to ask me to pay the bill quickly, otherwise the power would be cut off. This time I refrained from calling her. What's the result? When she came back from going out, the house was dark, and she told me shamelessly afterwards. Really slap in the face! ? But you still owe money later.

When Coach S moved out, not only did he not make up for the 800 yuan I had saved for water and electricity bills, he also owed electricity, water, property fees, and rent...

Although this money can't make me poor or make her rich, this is not the case for Li'er.

This wasn’t the end of it. In the end, she actually refunded my annual yoga fee and kicked me out of her new yoga studio...

Originally, my original intention was to help. She ended up in a bad situation. They all blame themselves for not having "brothers to settle accounts", not having "ugly words come forward", not having clear boundaries, not signing a rental agreement...

However, I still have no regrets, I believe that justice is in the heart, and I can do it with a clear conscience. good.

Everything everyone has done has a price tag secretly marked on it, and it will have to be paid back one day.

Life has taught me to stay away from people who are ungrateful, heartless, and ungrateful.

I have been accommodating and tolerant, but this is the result. Think about how unworthy it is to feel sorry for such a person! Just like my friends comforted me: it is the best choice to recognize the truth and get out in time, not to mention there is a chance to stop losses in time, isn't this the best arrangement?

The days ahead are long.

Postscript:

"Because being helped means that you are incompetent, weak, and inferior to others. As a result, hatred arises spontaneously, and jealousy continues to ferment."

Reading this explanation made me understand her behavior better.

Relieved.

"Hatred of those who help oneself is a universal and subtle psychology. But it is suppressed by morality and conscience. It exists in the subconscious and is usually difficult for us to detect."

This is a human evil.