British writer Somerset Maugham has a famous saying: Destiny depends on character, and the key to character formation is habit. The joys and sorrows of character will be staged on the big stage of life. If you want to get rid of the shackles of fate, you should start by changing your personality. You must first defeat your own personality before you have a chance to overturn your destiny. If you want to change a girl's destiny, you must start by cultivating her good character. The key to success or failure in destiny depends on character, as Confucius' disciple Zi Lu is a clear proof. Zilu was frank and upright, and had a bold personality. This was one of the reasons why he was admired by future generations. However, it was his personality that caused his tragedy. Moreover, Confucius once said that if you leave it alone, you will not die. Zilu's character will bring him tragedy. Is this just an accident?